AspieAlly613 Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 To my (demiromantic) mind, there's friendship, where your social interaction is called "hanging out," and then there's a "I would rather we share our lives than live our own lives, you complete me" style of friendship, which is called "romance," and in a romance, your interaction is called "dating." There's plenty of gray area in between, where a friendship is more than just a friendship, but less than a romance. This is called "queerplatonic partnership." Meanwhile, in the rest of reality, things (apparently) don't work that way. Apparently, when most couples start dating, they're not "boyfriend/girlfriend/appropriate gender equivalent" yet, but they're not queerplatonic partners, either. How does that work? Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 1 hour ago, AspieAlly613 said: Apparently, when most couples start dating, they're not "boyfriend/girlfriend/appropriate gender equivalent" yet, but they're not queerplatonic partners, either. How does that work? Aren't they just "friends", quotation marks implied? Link to post Share on other sites
mausgrau Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 Relevant link?: Why don't we humans have user manuals Link to post Share on other sites
Gizamaluke Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 I always thought of dating as two strangers agreeing to meet regularly until you both agree to skip the friendship part and become in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
IrishArcher Posted December 12, 2018 Share Posted December 12, 2018 I also find the beginning stages of dating to be very confusing. There is a girl that I've gone on a few dates with, but we're not officially "together" and I find I have no words to describe that kind of relationship. She's not my girlfriend, but we're interested in each other as more than friends. Whenever I try to talk about her or describe her in relation to myself, I draw a blank: "She's my...uh...?" So far, the best I can come up with is "girl that I date sometimes." Link to post Share on other sites
IrishArcher Posted December 12, 2018 Share Posted December 12, 2018 I think the problem here is that there isn't necessarily a progression from friendship to QPR to romance. One does not have to (and oftentimes isn't supposed to) lead to another. People don't necessarily enter friendships or QPR's in preparation for romance, and people can have romance without having the other two first. Each one is a separate form of relationship, rather than a stage in development. Link to post Share on other sites
Salmiakki Posted December 13, 2018 Share Posted December 13, 2018 I usually develop crushes on people without knowing anything about them first. I have no desire to date people (and most people I have crushes on are celebrities or fictional characters anyway) but if I did, I guess I'd just kind of go for dating them before knowing them. Which, now that I think about it, sounds a bit weird. Like, you don't even know that person and you just immediately start getting to know them as a romantic interest? It sounds strange but that's how I would do it, I just fall for people fast before I have any time to become friends or anything that resembles that so possibly (if I were brave enough) I would just immediately ask them out in the romantic kinda way. And now that I thought of it more going from strangers to dating seems a bit creepy to me xD Link to post Share on other sites
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