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Raising children. How much would you raise?


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  1. 1. How much children you would like to raise? (Method does not matter - adoption, insemination, IVF)

    • 0
      52
    • 1
      11
    • 2
      19
    • 3
      11
    • 4
      4
    • 5
      0
    • 6
      0
    • 7
      2
    • 8
      0
    • 9
      0
    • 10
      1
    • N > 10 (Please specify)
      1

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  • 3 weeks later...

Most likely 0 (otherwise 2)

 

Not 1 - having siblings has a lot of benefits in my opinion opinion, and 3 or more would be too much.

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I always had an irrational wish to have children. All my childhood, throughout my teens and up until around a year ago I was sure I wanted two. I knew that my life would be a lot better if I had none, but that stupid irrational wish wanted two. 

 

I don't know how I managed to get rid of that feeling, it seemed to be set in the core of me, but it's gone!

 

Now I'm 100 % sure I will have 0 kids.

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I voted 1, but who am I kidding. Of course, it will be zero. I am unable to take care of myself. I have unstable friendships because of BPD. My mum had it too. So I wouldn't want to pass on my genes to anyone. Plus, looking at the world, I find it to be a dark place and wonder what's the point of bringing someone into it only to have them struggle through the rat race.

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I have raised four boys. I loved them so much but it started out very bad and stayed that way for a few years. Between being young, extremely sheltered, and an Aspie, we were challenged from the gitgo. There was no maternal instinct that kicked in. I never babysat, and I just didn't understand or know enough to even be thinking about being a parent let alone actually do it.

 

I'm happy to say we all survived and I have no regrets. 

 

~Hank

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I have a single child and fully intend to keep it that way. She's amazing, best thing I ever did, and I just can't top that. 😁 

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I tend to fluctuate between wanting one or two kiddo(s) and not wanting any. I work with kids all the time at my current job; I love them, but when I think of what it must take to be around them all the time at home and still keep your sanity intact... I wonder if I will ever be in a position where I'll have that much time, energy, and commitment (not to mention finances). Right now, I'm in the "omg, there's no way I will ever have what it takes to be a good parent; maybe not" mindset, but like I said, it's fluid. (I guess my biggest fear is someday switching into the "I want kids!" mindset, adopting a kiddo, and then later switching back to the "I'm not sure this was a good idea" mindset... I hope that never happens, because then I'd feel just awful. D|)

 

I've also considered coparenting or fostering a child as a way to maybe dip my toes into the water and see how I'd handle it.

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12 hours ago, Barbio said:

I've also considered coparenting or fostering a child as a way to maybe dip my toes into the water and see how I'd handle it.

That's a really good idea. I, just like my dad, should never have had kids. I had REALLY  stupid reasons for everything I did for years--like I thought I was "supposed to" get married and have kids, among other things. I don't regret having them or the fight I had to go through to "get" parenting but I'll be honest, if I had known and understood things about myself before hand, it probably would never have happened. 

 

And just for the record, there is nothing wrong with be childless. Nothing at all. I think couples and individuals with no children should get more support from other people. I don't understand why it's an issue with some. Doesn't make any more sense than people who've had a lot of kids get crap for having so many--that was me and my sister. People are so damn annoying.

 

Eek. Sorry for the rant. This is me shutting up now. : )

 

~Hank

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1 minute ago, Sashanka said:

That's a really good idea. I, just like my dad, should never have had kids. I had REALLY  stupid reasons for everything I did for years--like I thought I was "supposed to" get married and have kids, among other things. I don't regret having them or the fight I had to go through to "get" parenting but I'll be honest, if I had known and understood things about myself before hand, it probably would never have happened. 

 

And just for the record, there is nothing wrong with be childless. Nothing at all. I think couples and individuals with no children should get more support from other people. I don't understand why it's an issue with some. Doesn't make any more sense than people who've had a lot of kids get crap for having so many--that was me and my sister. People are so damn annoying.

 

Eek. Sorry for the rant. This is me shutting up now. : )

 

~Hank

Same here, I should never have had children, only did it for a partner.

 

I have an opinion on why society programs people to believe it is so important but this is not hotbox

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