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Now *I'm* having trouble having sex :p


anisotrophic

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Light post, not very sad.

 

Now I'm trouble having sex because of physical pain as the pregnancy nears the end. But I still feel attraction and want sexual intimacy! 😂

 

Me: "Can't I just... do you?"

 

Him: 😕🤷‍♂️ "I guess? I don't want it..."

 

Me: 🤦‍♀️ "I'm a stupid sexual. I can't have sex and still I want sex."

 

Eventually I thought of some alternative thing to request, which occurred this weekend, and it was good, and I'm happy.

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Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Don't worry too much about it. When the baby's out you can go back to how it was before.

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@ryn2 Not long now! Less than two months left – in theory next year, but could come early.

@ColeHW Thanks! But also I should also note... I've had kids before – not C-section – and there were permanent changes. Like... me and trampolines? Not a great combo. 😐

I hope there isn't much more physical change in this final lap, but damage does occur. Fingers crossed.

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Congratulations ahead of time!  The pain will soon end and relief is in sight, though the changes of childbirth and the rigors of caring for a newborn may dampen the need for sex, at least for a while?  I know they did for me.  At least your current discomforts are  for a very good cause!😉

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@anisotropic Maybe it won't be that bad this time around. Your body could be used to it by now.

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Best wishes!!

 

...and trampolines are not my friend either, but I’m childless so it’s just old age.

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  • 3 weeks later...

Still weird, it'll be like this for a while I guess. The only things I can want now are pointlessly silly – that is, err, doing things "for" him. Technically I could ask for this. I do mention it, just in case he changes his mind, lol. ;) But I know, I know, he doesn't want it, it fades. So... not initiating anything anymore.
 

I feel a little sad, but maybe mostly finding it funny? It highlights the distinction between "physical ability to enjoy sexual interaction" vs. "sexual desire/attraction". I think it amuses him, I know it amuses me.

It's temporary for me. I wonder what it'll be like in a couple months.

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As long as you’re doing okay, I can see how it would be bizarrely funny.

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Sometimes I nibble his neck, which AFAICT is just tickling him, I must enjoy being a minor pest. :)

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  • 2 weeks later...
3 hours ago, kevinkedar said:

once the baby is out you are good to have sex after a week.

More like six weeks for PIV but since this  isn’t anisotropic’s first rodeo they probably know that.

 

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  • 2 weeks later...

... as an update or follow-up: I got something new over the holidays, to welcome in the new year. Or someone, rather. :)

@Ficto. this time I am feeling love. I was surprised... my partner noticed it too. Maybe my intuitions have learned that it'll become a person, even though I knew it rationally.

And births are so uncertain, I was nervous! But everything seems to have gone ridiculously well.

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