SierraMist930 Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 I made sure my boyfriend knew i didn´t want sex or anything like that. Yet he still asks me if i want to, and when i say ¨No¨, he pushes me. He deliberatly tries to get me to say yes. Should I keep giving him chances or is it the time to break up? Link to post Share on other sites
NickyTannock Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 Does he know that you're Asexual? As in, have you used the word Asexual, and does he understand what it means? Link to post Share on other sites
MargauxTheArtist5 Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 Break up with this guy. If he's disregarding your boundaries, you don't need him. My ex kept doing similar things, but with romantic actions. He claimed to be asexual, but I still don't believe him. Anyways, just break up with your boyfriend. If you do so, you will feel a lot happier. Oh, and I recommend completely cutting him out of your life, too, if he tries to force you back into the relationship. Being forced into a relationship is never a good thing, especially if you don't want that relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
SierraMist930 Posted October 27, 2018 Author Share Posted October 27, 2018 1 minute ago, MichaelTannock said: Does he know that you're Asexual? As in, have you used the word Asexual, and does he understand what it means? I told him when he first asked me, ¨No, I´m an asexual. I´m kinda repulsed by the idea of having sex.¨ Yet he still asks. Ugh. Link to post Share on other sites
SierraMist930 Posted October 27, 2018 Author Share Posted October 27, 2018 2 minutes ago, MargauxTheArtist5 said: Break up with this guy. If he's disregarding your boundaries, you don't need him. My ex kept doing similar things, but with romantic actions. He claimed to be asexual, but I still don't believe him. Anyways, just break up with your boyfriend. If you do so, you will feel a lot happier. Oh, and I recommend completely cutting him out of your life, too, if he tries to force you back into the relationship. Being forced into a relationship is never a good thing, especially if you don't want that relationship. Thanks for the help! ~MC Link to post Share on other sites
NickyTannock Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 4 minutes ago, SierraMist930 said: I told him when he first asked me, ¨No, I´m an asexual. I´m kinda repulsed by the idea of having sex.¨ Yet he still asks. Ugh. Then I agree with @MargauxTheArtist5 If you hadn't said that you're Asexual and explained your feeling about sex, then I'd have said the problem was a lack of information, but as that's not the case, I'd say the problem is him. Link to post Share on other sites
Muledeer Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 Ditch him. If he doesn't respect your boundaries regarding sex, what else would he push you on? Link to post Share on other sites
Duke Memphis Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 It's about respecting boundaries. If he doesn't respect your boundaries or you his, then the relationship won't work. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest -NULL- Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 I think that you should make like a tree and leave this guy. This sounds like a very uncomfortable situation. His blatant disregard of your boundaries is concerning; this is not a healthy relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 Get rid, he's not respecting you at all. Link to post Share on other sites
questioningmyself Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 I agree with the other members. While I have never been in a relationship, I do understand that respecting someone's boundary is the foundation for a relationship. As long as he is aware that you are sex-repulsed and ace, he shouldn't be pushing to have more. As I once heard someone state - sex isn't like food. We don't need it to survive. If you love someone sex isn't the end of the world and there are alternatives. . . Please respect yourself and find someone else who understands that you are ace and is willing to respect yourself as a person. Link to post Share on other sites
ryn2 Posted October 27, 2018 Share Posted October 27, 2018 Honestly, even where both parties are sexual, someone who repeatedly pushes for something their partner has clearly identified as off-limits is a problem. Link to post Share on other sites
anamikanon Posted October 28, 2018 Share Posted October 28, 2018 On 10/27/2018 at 5:40 PM, SierraMist930 said: I made sure my boyfriend knew i didn´t want sex or anything like that. Yet he still asks me if i want to, and when i say ¨No¨, he pushes me. He deliberatly tries to get me to say yes. Should I keep giving him chances or is it the time to break up? Break up now before the sunk cost fallacy starts complicating things further. Link to post Share on other sites
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