HalieN19 Posted October 17, 2018 Share Posted October 17, 2018 Hello everyone! My name is Halie and I'm almost 17. I've been calling myself ace for 10 months and I'm just now starting to be more open about it with my friends. Most of my friends and family who know are really supportive but I keep hearing the phrase "I just don't understand" and its getting hard to hear. Im writing a reflection essay about my journey and the asexual community. I know my grammar here must be atrocious so I'm very sorry. If theres anything about being ace or the community that you want me to mention please let me know. Thank Y'all (I'm southern sorry) Halie Link to post Share on other sites
Philip027 Posted October 17, 2018 Share Posted October 17, 2018 Is their "not understandingness" from a position of "I can't comprehend how anyone can be this way", or do they literally not understand what asexuality is? Because you're dealing with two potentially very different beasts depending on which one it is. Link to post Share on other sites
ôÿē èîęēú ïė ēôēįîûôø Posted October 17, 2018 Share Posted October 17, 2018 @HalieN19 Hello! Welcome to heAVEN! There's an infinite amount of here, so take as much as you want! Well, a lot of people don't experience asexuality, therefore, they're more prone to saying things like that. I believe it's human nature not to understand things we don't experience. Link to post Share on other sites
HalieN19 Posted October 17, 2018 Author Share Posted October 17, 2018 @Philip027 Its mostly not understanding how I don't experience sexual attraction. I guess they can't wrap their minds around it. My brother and my mom try hard to be empathetic to me though so it isn't like they aren't trying. I can't imagine my dad would understand but I've never really told him about this stuff so I probably won't discuss it with his side of the family. Thanks for the reply! Link to post Share on other sites
Lichley Posted October 17, 2018 Share Posted October 17, 2018 Welcome! Maybe some resources could help explain things http://www.asexualityarchive.com/a-parents-guide-to-asexuality/ https://www.vox.com/culture/2018/3/26/16291562/asexuality-tv-history-bojack-shadowhunters-game-of-thrones https://inews.co.uk/inews-lifestyle/women/im-asexual-and-this-is-how-i-show-love-to-my-partner/ https://www.deviantart.com/secondlina/art/Sketchcomic-types-of-Attraction-298804729 http://www.asexualityarchive.com/asexuals-on-coming-out-experience/ Link to post Share on other sites
Homer Posted October 17, 2018 Share Posted October 17, 2018 Hi and welcome Thank you for stopping by and saying Hello! It's good to read that you want to raise arareness about asexuality. You might want to post to the Visibility And Education Projects forum to get some input on your essay. Furthermore, a lot of misconceptions are being talked about in the Asexual Musings And Rantings thread. There are a few threads which raise good potential talking points, such as #AsexualProblems and Incredibly Ace Moments. There's a bunch of situations and responses that come up again and again; maybe you can "reverse engineer" some of them to see what matters to other asexual people? Feel free to read and roam and if you have a question, ask away! Good luck for the essay and I hope to see you around Link to post Share on other sites
NickyTannock Posted October 17, 2018 Share Posted October 17, 2018 Welcome to AVEN! I think I know how they feel because I don't understand, how people do experience sexual attraction. It's like I'm on the other side of the confusion fence. Link to post Share on other sites
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