idkbethany Posted September 22, 2018 Share Posted September 22, 2018 (edited) Hi, my name is Bethany. I'am 16 years old and i'am asexual. Is it normal to think the idea of sex is gross and repulsive? I'm not opposed to a quick peck on the lips or, some cuddles here and there, i still want a relationship but, is it normal to think all that but, just find the act of sex either through penetration or oral, repulsive and unappealing? I just want to be able to feel a bit normal because i don't know anybody in real life that is an asexual. Also, for the most part I've talked to some asexuals online but, they still aren't opposed to sex. Could someone help me feel a little bit normal about this. Thank you:) Edited September 22, 2018 by idkbethany I felt the title didn't explain my question well. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ceebs Posted September 22, 2018 Share Posted September 22, 2018 There are plenty of asexuals who are repulsed, yup. It's quite common and you'll find many people here who feel similarly. Of course, sex repulsion can stem from many things and there are sexual people who experience it too. Asexuality is primarily about whether you feel an innate desire to engage in any type of sexual activity with others. If not, you're possibly asexual, but it can also be difficult to tell when you're young, since people experience personal growth in very different ways and at different rates. But yeah, long story short, experiencing repulsion is quite common. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
NickyTannock Posted September 22, 2018 Share Posted September 22, 2018 Welcome to AVEN! I don't know any other Asexuals in real life either, but I've seen some Asexuals on here who are Sex-repulsed. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
No longer active Posted September 22, 2018 Share Posted September 22, 2018 5 hours ago, idkbethany said: Also, for the most part I've talked to some asexuals online but, they still aren't opposed to sex. Are they not opposed to other people having sex, or not opposed to doing it themselves? I would hope that even someone who is repulsed by sex would respect the rights of consenting adults to have sex in private. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Feynman Posted September 22, 2018 Share Posted September 22, 2018 @Welcome to AVEN, @idkbethany! I'm asexual, and I'm completely repulsed by sex of any form. I genuinely don't understand why anyone would have sex, unless it's for reproductive purposes. Controversial, I know, but that's how I feel. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Amethyst07 Posted September 23, 2018 Share Posted September 23, 2018 Hey Bethany, you're definitely not alone. There are plenty of ace people repulsed by sex. I'm very much like you. I also experience romantic attraction but find sex gross and wouldn't want to engage in it at all. That's totally okay to feel! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
squaggly Posted September 23, 2018 Share Posted September 23, 2018 Sex is (to me) disgusting and you are definitely not alone. I would like to cuddle and do all that, but never have sex. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Missa Posted September 23, 2018 Share Posted September 23, 2018 To me conventional sex doesn't disgust me -- though I have no interest in it -- but erm creative positions as well as oral repulses me to the point of a turned stomach. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted September 24, 2018 Share Posted September 24, 2018 It's pretty common, yes. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lemon Ice Tea Posted September 24, 2018 Share Posted September 24, 2018 Honestly anything that involves a man’s privates is vary degrees of disgusting to me and doesn’t turn me on in the slightest. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
squaggly Posted September 24, 2018 Share Posted September 24, 2018 Actually, the basic idea of sex doesn't disgust me, it's the details that freak me out. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
To Each Their Own Posted September 24, 2018 Share Posted September 24, 2018 You are far from alone. Like you, I don’t know anyone in person that is like me either. I mean, I don’t know any other asexuals. I’m a little different than you in that i am aromantic, but like you, i am also sex repulsed. This website has been fabulous for me in discovering others that are like me. We may not be in the majority, but we are just as “normal” as everyone else. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
abandoned-account Posted September 25, 2018 Share Posted September 25, 2018 I feel just the same. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hermit Advocate Posted September 25, 2018 Share Posted September 25, 2018 I am the same. The idea of any form of penetration, or just naked bodies in general, makes me feel like this > 😣 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ShatteredSapphire Posted September 26, 2018 Share Posted September 26, 2018 I feel the exact same way idkbethany! I've been wondering if there were an another asexual people that have thought this way. At least there's more than one of us! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tunes Posted September 26, 2018 Share Posted September 26, 2018 I am repulsed in respect to myself, but I don't really care if other people do it or talk about it. But I do know some asexuals (on here) that simply prefer not to have sex themselves or just lack interest (but could be persuaded to do so under certain circumstances, like to have kids or please their partner), and I know other asexuals (on here and irl) that are grossed out by the sheer mention of it. It really just varies from person to person. But your view is certainly not uncommon. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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