Narly Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 Hi everyone, have you seen the article on BBC about couples not having sex? https://www.bbc.com/news/health-45562014 There is an asexual woman in the second couple and two asexual men in the third couple, living a happy life without having sex. It's (at least now) on the front page of the website and I was really pleasantly surprised to see that. I'm also impressed that it was acknowledged in the article that when "you can have sex without the love, why can't love without sex exist?" What do you think about the article? Link to post Share on other sites
TRexPhilbo Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 1 hour ago, CBC said: Not a bad article overall, however I dislike the "It's really sad how some people prioritise sex over happiness" comment from the asexual woman. She makes it sound as if it's always a case of people not understanding her asexuality -- and perhaps some don't, but that's not the only factor. Some people can understand, but that doesn't mean that if they don't want to be in a relationship with her or someone like her that they're prioritising sex over happiness. It means that sex is part of a happy relationship for them. It's not wrong to require that. So she's showing some of her own ignorance and/or elitism there. Yeah I didn’t like that either. For a lot of people, sex brings happiness, so it rubbed me the wrong way too. Link to post Share on other sites
Tunes Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 @CBCI see what she was probably trying to say there - some people do really believe that the amount of sex that you have determines how good a relationship is, even when that would not be the case for them, just because this is what society tells them. But there is no context in this article that implies that she is only talking about those specific (and honestly, in my experience, less common) circumstances. So it really does sound like she's implying that they are somehow mutually exclusive (which, of course, is absolutely ridiculous). Link to post Share on other sites
everywhere and nowhere Posted September 20, 2018 Share Posted September 20, 2018 I really liked this fragment: Quote Jacob doesn't want to be having sex with someone who doesn't want to be having sex. That's it. I have seen such sentiments expressed by some non-aces in discussions about "sexual compromise": that they can't feel fully happy without sex, but also feel that they would have to be horrible people to have sex with someone who doesn't want it. Nobody should have unwanted sex. Link to post Share on other sites
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