silverarrowz Posted September 15, 2018 Share Posted September 15, 2018 Today on Twitter I saw a lot of anti-ace/ace-spec threads and how aces aren't valid because they aren't oppressed in the same way. These threads also invalidated demisexuals and called it "micro-labelling", saying being demisexual was only a preference. This honestly really scared me cause I plan to come out online soon. How do you feel about asexuality being included in the LGBTQ+ community? Is it apart of it or are we separate and do gatekeepers have a point about oppression or are they just assholes? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
NickyTannock Posted September 15, 2018 Share Posted September 15, 2018 In my personal opinion, the Oppression Olympics is its own form of oppression. Asexuality and Demisexuality both come with challenges and loneliness and deserve a place to be welcome. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TheAP Posted September 15, 2018 Share Posted September 15, 2018 I think that asexuality should be included in the LGBT community. I don't think inclusion should be defined by oppression, because not all people of any identity have the same experiences. And I think people should be able to define their identity however they want, using as many or as few terms as they want. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SweetTart Posted September 15, 2018 Share Posted September 15, 2018 Saying someone's identity isn't valid because they aren't "oppressed" makes no sense to me. Heterosexuals aren't oppressed, does that mean they don't have a valid sexuality? I also don't see how being told by society and some in the lgbt+ community that asexuality isn't real doesn't count as some sort of struggle related to a person's sexuality. Again I don't think that should be a qualifier for how valid a sexuality or orientation is, but as you can see even if it was that wouldn't matter. Because it does still happen, although on a smaller scale. I feel like there's already enough hate and ridicule in society without dragging it into a place that is supposed to be open and about acceptance and progress. Also as a demi myself I'd say it most definitely isn't just a preference. I don't get to choose if or when I feel sexual attraction. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 I don't give a fuck tbh. Live and let live I say. I avoid toxic places like that for a very good reason. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Marrow Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 I find it funny based on the hypocrisy of the situation; the oppressed oppressing, marvelous. Remember, we don't judge you on who you are, but how oppressed you are. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ôÿē èîęēú ïė ēôēįîûôø Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 1 hour ago, SweetTart said: Heterosexuals aren't oppressed, does that mean they don't have a valid sexuality? Very good argument. Use this next time someone says aces aren't valid. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hannah Rae Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 Its a ton of bs. Not accept someone/someone's sexuality because you think their journey hasn't been as difficult as yours is super hypocritical. Also, being ace can make it a lot more difficult to to find and have a lasting meaningful relationship just because we aren't so attached to sex. If someone on the lgbtq+ scale actually tells me to my face that my sexuality isn't valid, I can guarantee I'd just laugh in their face. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
All The Thoughts Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 Asexuals may not be as oppressed as the LGBT+ Community was many years ago (it’s obviously gotten better but it’s still not perfect even today) but they still have to face hardships for not being what’s considered “normal” Then you also take into account the fact that those who were oppressed are now doing it to others who may not feel as though they have a proper community elsewhere...put in the awkward middle between straights saying they’re not straight enough and LGBT+ members saying they didn’t struggle enough to be welcome. Now, not everyone is like this. In fact, I know there’s a large amount of people from both sides who are so welcoming and accepting when it comes to it, but the fact that there truly are people saying asexuals haven’t had it bad enough to be welcome is still a difficult thing the deal with. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Deus Ex Infinity Posted September 16, 2018 Share Posted September 16, 2018 12 hours ago, SilverArrowz said: Today on Twitter I saw a lot of anti-ace/ace-spec threads and how aces aren't valid because they aren't oppressed in the same way. These threads also invalidated demisexuals and called it "micro-labelling", saying being demisexual was only a preference. This honestly really scared me cause I plan to come out online soon. How do you feel about asexuality being included in the LGBTQ+ community? Is it apart of it or are we separate and do gatekeepers have a point about oppression or are they just assholes? I think that asexuality it should be included in the GLBTQ+ community as well even though it's quite different from other sexual identities. We suffer and fight against the same prejustice, ignorance and discrimination like anybody else. We share the same fears or doubts. Some people may think otherwise but that's not true. They may think it's easier because of the "public invisibility" or small number of aces, demis etc. out there but I feel very oppressed, just for the fact that most people either don't seem to believe or accept my orientation when being asked about it. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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