Anon11 Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 Hi, my name is John, and I have recently been coming out as asexual to friends and family. I am very happy to find this community; here is my story: --- I struggled a lot with relationships growing up in school (especially high school and college). When everybody seemed to be coupling up, I never seemed to understand how to make that connection. It left me feeling very left out and depressed. Today, I think I am growing to understand my dilemma, and the information on this website has helped me in articulating that problem. I would define myself as a demiromantic, sex-repulsed, asexual (a freakin' difficult combination when you truly want a relationship, I know), which to me means it takes a strong emotional attachment to someone before I begin to develop romantic feelings for them, (I have only ever developed romantic feelings for two people in my life) but even once I develop those feelings, I do not want sex. I don't even want to kiss, which of course makes it exceedingly difficult to have a relationship. I think the societal expectation on men is that we are supposed to be the pursuers, and I have a hard time pursuing when I don't desire what others expect me to, but I'm glad to be here, and I hope being here will help me understand my own experience better in getting to hear and understand others' experiences. Link to post Share on other sites
ôÿē èîęēú ïė ēôēįîûôø Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 @Anon11 Hello! Welcome to heAVEN! Have some ! You know, there's an infinite amount of it here! Link to post Share on other sites
NickyTannock Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 @Anon11 Welcome to AVEN! Link to post Share on other sites
Anthracite_Impreza Posted August 14, 2018 Share Posted August 14, 2018 You seem to be figuring yourself out so that's something Welcome to AVEN Link to post Share on other sites
Lichley Posted August 15, 2018 Share Posted August 15, 2018 Welcome! Being open and trying to understand yourself better is always a good thing. Plus kissing is weird anyway if you sit and think long enough about it. “Hold on let me smoosh my face against yourself show you how much I care about you.” Link to post Share on other sites
Noko42 Posted August 15, 2018 Share Posted August 15, 2018 Welcome to AVEN John 😸 If you have any questions or just want to chat don’t be afraid to post. Everyone is really supportive here 😊 welcome to the community. Link to post Share on other sites
iam135 Posted August 15, 2018 Share Posted August 15, 2018 Hi John - welcome to AVEN! Have some cake: Link to post Share on other sites
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