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cornflowerblue

I'm so SO glad I stumbled upon this website and community. It has helped me understand more of what asexuality was and more of who I am and that it's okay!!

 

Just a couple of months ago, a friend of mine asked if I would consider being fuck buddies with him - I said no. He asked why. I just told him I just don't feel like having sex or engaging in any sexual acitivity at all. He asked if it was a cultural or religious thing. I figured at that point that just 'not feeling it' wasn't enough of an answer, so I just said 'I don't know, maybe it is a cultural thing because the topic of sex is incredibly taboo.' 

 

But I knew inside me it wasn't because of that or because of religion. I just... had ZERO desire. 

 

He also wondered why I hadn't been sexually intimate with anyone ever, my response was simply 'because I don't prioritize it. I don't really think about it or NEED it. You know?' Ah I bet you guys could just imagine the look of confusion on his face. I honestly could probably live my entire life never having sex with someone and I'd be perfectly okay.

 

I'm so glad that there's actually something that can help me put into words how I am! I thought I was just weird for not being like everyone else. I'm honestly so excited to read lots of different experiences of the members of this community 💕

 

So helloOOOO!!!

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cornflowerblue
59 minutes ago, Salmiakki said:

Lol who just asks someone to be fuck buddies with them... That's so awkward

Yeah that is the most awkward and uncomfortable thing that's ever happened in my life tbh. PLUS he asked that after I told him I didn't reciprocate his romantic feelings toward me. Extra awkward. 🙄😅

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Welcome! :) Glad you've come to realize that there's nothing wrong with you and that there are others like you.

 

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1 hour ago, cornflowerblue said:

 I'm honestly so excited to read lots of different experiences of the members of this community 💕

I spent awhile reading through the Welcome Lounge when I first joined. It was crazy/interesting reading all these thoughts of mine come from other people. Like, when I sucked at being single I watched gay porn just to make sure I wasn't gay & I read that _a lot_ in the welcome lounge from other people (girls kissing other girls just to make sure they aren't a lesbian, etc). This whole community was a part of my life that I didn't realize I was missing.

 

I was so frustrated after one failed relationship that I ended up Googling "Why don't I want to have sex" and that's how I ended up 😂

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NickyTannock

@cornflowerblue Welcome to AVEN!

 

Are you going to tell your friend about the big realisation?

 

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OhDearyMe!

Welcome to AVEN! Feel free to message me anytime 😁 

Your friend is pretty awkward though... And also kind of pushy 🤔 I mean.. when someone says that they're not feeling it, it should be enough

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CoronetKyu

Fear not, you are among friends here. Welcome to AVEN! ;w;/

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I have had similar situations in the past, and it can be so needlessly awkward and stressful. I hope that this platform will give you a place of comfort and a feeling of belonging.

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Welcome! Okay, first of all, who asks to be Fuck buddies , and then, once turned down admits their romantic feelings towards you????? Wtf???

Anyways, welcome to the community :P 

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That's an awkward position to be in.. in my experience declining advances such as these can be met with distrust and confusion. Hopefully you can find good advice here, welcome 😀

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