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Tyger Songbird

OK, so I'm sex repulsed. So, I get freaked out by the simple thought of sex happening, especially involving me. My anxiety levels would reach a zenith peak if someone were to try to have sex with me. The slightest hint or suggestion towards sex makes me apprehensive, akin to seeing ghouls and goblins really. Sex is my personal demon- my greatest fear, you could say. Some may say that's not healthy, but I just don't think I could ever have sex or will ever have sex in my life. No, thank you.

 

While I wish people would respect my wishes, there is a little caveat when it comes to me really over all this. I hope it doesn't sound strange, really. However, there is a sense of curiosity when it comes to certain things, particularly body parts on others. As a guy, I already come equipped with an appendage all its own, and I know how that all operates and all that. So, I can in a sense understand how a guy's body works. After all, I am one. However, I've never been near a woman of any kind. I've never felt or touched anyone in any way, shape, or form. I definitely haven't done so with a woman, which I consider a good thing really. I mean, there's no way I can be charged with sexual assault, I guess. However, I'm still a bit curious about like girl bodies. More particularly, I'm more curious about boobs. Here's why.

 

Often, if you look at our culture at large, you will often find that people basically glorifying boobs. That and butts, people seem to always put breasts and boobs on the forefront of cameras really. I'll never forget the song by Kelis called Milkshake. I was like 11 when that came out, I think. All I could keep remembering was how all the guys were ogling her chest, and their eyes could not look up. It was really weird. That was honestly one of the strangest things I had ever seen. I was like, why? I didn't understand boobs. I still don't to this day. However, I do know that basically all of human society basically worships them in a sense. So, there's that.

 

I don't get it. 

 

I mean, some people have small ones, some have big ones, some breasts are saggy, some are not. Some girls get their enhanced to make themselves sexier and everything. I don't care about that, but why do people think boobs are special like that?

 

I don't know.

 

Look, I don't know what the thought is behind it. What is the deal with boobs, really? And what is it about them that make everyone go into insane lust just looking at them? Do they feel good to the touch or something? Are breasts erogenous zones then? If so, then what do boobs feel like, then, in a comparison sense? 

 

I've never felt a breast really. So, I don't have any firsthand experience with them.

 

 

 

I mean, a guy's chest I can understand, especially if he works out. his pecs will come out, I can understand that. It's a sign of athletic physique and fitness. But boobs? I don't understand them.

 

I just know that people seem to love boobs a lot. That's why Dolly Parton and Pamela Anderson are always apparently sex symbols. Yet, I don't really see them like that. Nor do I ever want to see anybody like that either. What do you do with boobs anyway?! They just kind of stay there, really. I mean, what is it you're supposed to do with boobs? What's it to them that makes people go nuts all the time?

 

Fellow asexuals, help me on this one.

 

What is your opinion on boobs? Do you like them, love them, or not at all? 

 

Also, those who do have boobs, do you wish you had them or no? 

 

Honest opinions, y'all.

 

What do you guys think of boobs?

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meh. Boobs are boobs. Just like with butts, I don't see the appeal. Just another part of the human body. I'm just happy mines aren't huge because they can cause back pain and some other inconveniences. And funny how you mention how society worships breasts because, the moment a nipple flashes, hell breaks loose. 

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14 minutes ago, Karoushi said:

meh. Boobs are boobs. Just like with butts, I don't see the appeal. Just another part of the human body. I'm just happy mines aren't huge because they can cause back pain and some other inconveniences. And funny how you mention how society worships breasts because, the moment a nipple flashes, hell breaks loose. 

Wow, I didn't even touch on the whole nipple thing. What is the deal with that anyway? I mean, I have nipples, but I'm a guy who's skinny really all the way. I don't get the whole breasts and everything? I mean, aren't they fat? And aren't nipples used for like breastfeeding anyway? So, what compels sexual people to want them so bad? They look so weird to me, really, like dart boards or something. I don't get why nipples are such a huge deal really. Is there some sort of mystical magic to them that I don't know about? What is this?

 

Again, all this is coming from a guy who is sex repulsed and gets anxiety over the sight of nudity really. So, you could say I'm a totally normal person for sure.

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From a biological standpoint, breasts are a secondary sex characteristic, along with butts, which is one reason why people tend to enjoy looking at them (this can also apply to those general areas on guys as well).  I remember hearing that larger breasts was supposed to be a sign of fertility, but idk how true that is.  Also, iirc, breasts are an erogenous zone for women.

 

I have actually felt a girl's breast once, not that I particularly wanted to, but what I remember is that it was soft.  Watch Bill Engvall's stand-up bit on YouTube and it can give you a good idea of why breasts might be so popular.

 

But then, most of the stuff in the media that shows a lot of breasts is generally advertised to straight men, who're usually the ones going crazy about breasts in the first place.  And honestly, since I never saw the music video of Milkshake, when I heard the song, I thought she literally meant an actual milkshake.  It took me until after high school to realize what she really meant by 'milkshake'.

 

As for the minutiae of what it's like for women to have breasts... well, what I know is only what I've heard from certain women I know, but that has more to do with them not really caring about talking about that kind of stuff in general.  From what I know, the larger the cup size, the more strain on the back.  Also, bras can apparently feel pretty restricting (I guess it's similar to a guy wearing an athletic cup?).  Overall, it seems that, for women, breasts can get in the way more than anything.

 

And the whole nipple thing.... geez, idk why it's such a big deal.  I mean, there are all those dolls out there that can be changed into different clothes and have breasts, just minus the nipples.  What is the big deal about the nipples?  What about them somehow makes breasts automatically sexual???  I mean, literally all a woman seems to need to do is put something over only the nipple and somehow it's not considered nudity anymore (looking at you, GTA IV).  It's mindboggling.

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It will all come from fertility and childbearing in the past. The idea was women with larger hips etc would be less likely to die in childbirth or the child is less likely to die.

 

The nipple thing is later I think. More victorian times. When sexuality started to be shunned and so things like nipples would be vilified. 

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I honestly think the obsession over boobs is simply caused by society. Media, news, advertisements, entertainment, etc., all teach and reinforce the idea that boobs are attractive and sexual. If you look at cultures from different parts of the world there are places where boobs aren't sexualized. The first example coming to my mind being tribes where the women don't wear tops, because in their culture breasts aren't sexualized and seen as 'lewd'.

I have boobs. They're fine. They're like any other body part really, to me they're just there, there's nothing really special about them. Sure boobs are soft and squishy, but so's my stomach; they both have fat. Fat is soft and squishy.

I like curves, so I can see the aesthetic appeal to them, but to me they're not that big a deal.

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As someone who has a natural J cup (that's huge, each boob is about the size of someone's head and weighs about 2kg each) on a small body, who happens to find boobs very sexually appealing, maybe I can help.

 

To start with, breasts are a secondary sexual characteristic,  part of what differentiates a woman from a little girl. I think that's part of the attraction - it shows she's sexually mature and ready to breed which in evolutionary terms is very important. This gets kind of programmed into many humans who are attracted to women by evolution: sexual maturity = babies. And boobs = sexual maturity.

 

Breast stimulation can also be very sensual and arousing for a woman, which makes boobs a turn on for people who like breasts.  Same with nipples. Having the breasts and nipples stimulated while the genitals are being stimulated can actually make a woman's orgasm a lot stronger (and a stronger orgasm means higher chance of pregnancy which is something that many people don't know - but that's another reason why evolution favours breasts!!)

 

Another thing is that breasts are something very unique that separate men from women (just like a woman's genitals do) so that can be a reason why people who love women are drawn to breasts - they're unique to female bodied people which makes them very appealing. Not many people are into backs because everyone has a back, but people are often drawn to the characteristics that are unique to a specific gender.

 

The reason all this is specifically sensual and sexual is obviously because evolution wants humans to have babies, and the best way to achieve that is to force them to be drawn to aspects of each other in a way that causes sexual arousal. It's instinctual for almost all human beings (other than asexuals) to be drawn to some aspects of other humans in a sexual way. No that's not always physical things they're drawn to (some for example only experience sexual desire as a result of romantic attraction) and it's certainly not always boobs!  But for people who are attracted to women breasts are very commonly an aspect of that attraction because of the reasons I outlined above.

 

They're also very soft and squishy and can be very comforting to play with, while also just naturally being sexually arousing for many people.

 

I understand why all this would be difficult for an ace to understand ..but most aces (especially male) would know the feeling of having an erection,  right? Now imagine getting an erection every time you see or think about a specific body part (ie boobs). As a result,  you're going to be drawn to that part sexually. That's how it feels for sexuals who are attracted to breasts :)

 

Also (regarding the comments about big breasts causing pain) despite the size of my breasts I never get backache so I think it's not the size of the boobs that causes the issues, it's the mental belief that they'll cause pain combined with poor posture and low activity levels that cause the pain imo. If large breasts caused back pain then I'd technically be in permanent agony but even when I was 9 months pregnant and carrying a toddler around at the same time I didn't experience any pain so yeah.. that's just my experience though ^_^

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7 hours ago, tygersongbird said:

Also, those who do have boobs, do you wish you had them or no? 

I wish I didn't - or, more precisely, I would prefer to have tiny, tiny, tiny boobs, "one degree above a flat chest" (I'm emphasising it because I've seen some women claim that other women only have vague idea about what breast size is "small" or "large" and that most women who "wish they had small breasts" actually wish they had medium-sized ones - as in: because thay don't realise that such a size is considered "medium" and not "small" - no, I'm motivated by asexuality and I know very well what I want, I would prefer to have not just small boobs, but tiny ones). But I feel that if I had no boobs at all, I wouldn't feel bad about it. I've reached a stage when I can honestly say: I don't consider myself transgender, I'm an androgynous woman at most - but I really don't feel like I need to be feminine to know that I'm a woman.

I experience my breast dysphoria as definitely tied to asexuality. There may be some other factors, such as boobs not being a particularly comfortable body part - OK, they are much too small to give me back pains or such issues typical for women with really big boobs, they are medium-largish and mostly consist of fat, which doesn't make them particularly heavy - but it would be much more better for my skin if my boobs didn't require being supported by a bra - and they do, I feel very uncomfortable without one and I actually even wear a softer sports bra (and panties, so it may also be related to a general discomfort with nudity)) under my pajama. But still, I don't like my boobs primarily because boobs, particularly larger ones, are considered sexually attractive and I explicitly don't want to be sexually attractive. More: I want to be sexually invisible - not "invisible invisible", because my clothes are often quite flamboyant and I want people to admire them - but I would feel discomfortable ("more than just uncomfortable") about anyone wanting to have sex with me because I myself feel so strongly discomfortable about personally having sex.

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5 minutes ago, Nowhere Girl said:

...... There may be some other factors, such as boobs not being a particularly comfortable body part - ......

I can confess that those male "hanging out/off" bodyparts, are not the particularly comfortable either ... :P  ...while running, I often WISH I didn't have them !  :D

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I'm not interested in others' breasts. I don't mind mine, though.

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Not even all hetero males are especially attracted to boobs - though most find them at least aesthetically appealing. In typical street clothes they are one of the most obvious distinguishing characteristics between men and women.   

 

For many women nipples both cause and react to sexual arousal to they are sort of naturally interesting to most people who are sexually attracted to women. 

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I see them as things that are used to feed babies and cushion them at the same time. That's really all I see them as any good for. I see them as kind of an equivalent to changing a diaper: Good for the baby, but too disgusting for me to possibly enjoy.

 

They make it slightly awkward to hug my girlfriend, but I find I can tolerate it for a few seconds.

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Mine are too big for my liking (I'm moderately athletic and having them bounce around isn't a nice feeling) but other than that I don't have a strong opinion on them. They are soft, squishy and occasionally a hindrance but otherwise I don't really pay them much mind. As to why the world finds lumps of fat and specialised sweat glands so sexy and therefore repulsive, I have no idea but I'm going to blame Victorian England. 

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Mine are too heavy and I wish they were smaller at the very least.

I am attracted to women and like curves, but only from a cuddling standpoint. Boobs aren’t a big deal to me though, and they certainly don’t have to be big. I admire the shape of a girl’s butt, but mostly only if it shows how fit they are, or if it creates a nice curve. This is all really based on my sensual attraction (cuddliness). Aesthetic attraction, for me, really comes from the face and hair. So, eh.

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6 hours ago, uhtred said:

Not even all hetero males are especially attracted to boobs - though most find them at least aesthetically appealing. In typical street clothes they are one of the most obvious distinguishing characteristics between men and women.   

 

For many women nipples both cause and react to sexual arousal to they are sort of naturally interesting to most people who are sexually attracted to women. 

OK. However, I just don't know anything about them. Like, why men like to touch them and all that? So, apparently they feel good for girls to touch? How? They look like balls juggling. I mean, if you grabbed a guy down there, it can really hurt and cause severe pain down there. I can't imagine how like grabbing a girl's bosoms wouldn't elicit an Ouch response or something. I mean, they look like oranges but you can't squeeze a person. That would hurt, wouldn't it? So, how does that even work?

 

IDK, it just seems a little too invasive to come up and touch people in certain places anyway. Those are a place off-limits for me anyway. I don't venture towards that realm, really. It just seems like a harassment of sorts to do that to someone, touching their boobs. It doesn't seem like an okay thing to do. It's a forbidden zone for me to do that. No way would I do it! It's like "inappropriate!"

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They are litteraly just filled with yellow fat like the inside of a couch I don’t get it, they are the same as any other part of the body I don’t get why people obsess over them.

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2 hours ago, tygersongbird said:

OK. However, I just don't know anything about them. Like, why men like to touch them and all that? So, apparently they feel good for girls to touch? How? They look like balls juggling. I mean, if you grabbed a guy down there, it can really hurt and cause severe pain down there. I can't imagine how like grabbing a girl's bosoms wouldn't elicit an Ouch response or something. I mean, they look like oranges but you can't squeeze a person. That would hurt, wouldn't it? So, how does that even work?

 

IDK, it just seems a little too invasive to come up and touch people in certain places anyway. Those are a place off-limits for me anyway. I don't venture towards that realm, really. It just seems like a harassment of sorts to do that to someone, touching their boobs. It doesn't seem like an okay thing to do. It's a forbidden zone for me to do that. No way would I do it! It's like "inappropriate!"

Its certainly inappropriate outside of some sort of consenting relationship. 

 

Most sexual behavior is strange / unsettling / gross if you don't feel any sense of sexual arousal and desire.  I think its something that is just impossible to describe to someone who has none of those feelings.

 

One possible try:  Do you like cats? Ever have kitten fall asleep in your lap purring. Why is it nice to have a small furry carnivore resting on you? Why is the sensation different from a small pillow? 

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11 hours ago, Nowhere Girl said:

I wish I didn't - or, more precisely, I would prefer to have tiny, tiny, tiny boobs, "one degree above a flat chest" (I'm emphasising it because I've seen some women claim that other women only have vague idea about what breast size is "small" or "large" and that most women who "wish they had small breasts" actually wish they had medium-sized ones - as in: because thay don't realise that such a size is considered "medium" and not "small" - no, I'm motivated by asexuality and I know very well what I want, I would prefer to have not just small boobs, but tiny ones). But I feel that if I had no boobs at all, I wouldn't feel bad about it. I've reached a stage when I can honestly say: I don't consider myself transgender, I'm an androgynous woman at most - but I really don't feel like I need to be feminine to know that I'm a woman.

Same!! 

 

17 hours ago, Bronztrooper said:

 

As for the minutiae of what it's like for women to have breasts... well, what I know is only what I've heard from certain women I know, but that has more to do with them not really caring about talking about that kind of stuff in general.  From what I know, the larger the cup size, the more strain on the back.  Also, bras can apparently feel pretty restricting (I guess it's similar to a guy wearing an athletic cup?).  Overall, it seems that, for women, breasts can get in the way more than anything.

Definitely. I wish I had nothing up there so that I could get away with wearing nothing... but alas, size D can't be hid that easily. 

 

As for the question in the OP.... I don't know why some people find them attractive. But I am also asexual too so I'm probably not the best person to ask. :P It's probably something like how some women like abs, some like arms, etc. 

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11 hours ago, Giwreh said:

I can confess that those male "hanging out/off" bodyparts, are not the particularly comfortable either ... :P  ...while running, I often WISH I didn't have them !  :D

Ooh, yeah, not good. Balls are not comfortable at all. Man, they chafe too!

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1 hour ago, scarletlatitude said:Definitely. I wish I had nothing up there so that I could get away with wearing nothing... but alas, size D can't be hid that easily

Yeah same, DD for me so just a little harder :D 

 

I hate mine so much because they’re like symbols of sex and people are attracted to them so I always look for baggier clothes to hide it more. I don’t need them to attract people nor to feed children so they’re just in the way. I can’t squeeze through small spaces and I need bigger clothes because they stick out so much. Running and jumping is extremely uncomfortable and so is hugging people, especially family members

 

so many of my friends always say I’m so lucky but I’m really not, I’d gladly switch with them 😛 

 

The only good thing I’d say about them is to make fun of my sister and friends and it makes like an umbrella for the bottom half of my shirt in the rain :D but that’s it

 

If there was a way to painlessly get rid of them risk free I’d take it in a heart beat

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It's like what you have, except probably squishier.

 

Not much more to it than that.  Wouldn't overthink it too much

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2 hours ago, 02Abby12 said:

Yeah same, DD for me so just a little harder :D 

 

I hate mine so much because they’re like symbols of sex and people are attracted to them so I always look for baggier clothes to hide it more. I don’t need them to attract people nor to feed children so they’re just in the way. I can’t squeeze through small spaces and I need bigger clothes because they stick out so much. Running and jumping is extremely uncomfortable and so is hugging people, especially family members

 

so many of my friends always say I’m so lucky but I’m really not, I’d gladly switch with them 😛 

 

The only good thing I’d say about them is to make fun of my sister and friends and it makes like an umbrella for the bottom half of my shirt in the rain :D but that’s it

 

If there was a way to painlessly get rid of them risk free I’d take it in a heart beat

Wow, that's the 1st time I've ever really heard anybody say they would want a breast reduction. Usually most people are like "Big Boobs! YAY!!" That is what most people usually say. Like "Big Boobs! Big Booty! Woo-Hoo!" Sexy, attractive, and everything. Never have I heard anyone say they want a reduction before. That's interesting.

 

My only thing is why would anyone want them so much? I often feel like everyone would not value you as a person because of them. All too often I find people just staring at a girl's booty or her breasts with their heads down all the time. I mean, for the girls who have those things, how is that not disrespectful? It seems like devaluing someone to a pack of meat or some sort of food product at that time. It's like being cattle sold at an auction. It's dehumanizing. How else am I supposed to say it?

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11 minutes ago, Philip027 said:

It's like what you have, except probably squishier.

 

Not much more to it than that.  Wouldn't overthink it too much

I am a bean-pole skinny guy. I don't think I even have breasts really. I'm skinny and all that. Actually, I'm hoping to lose some oblique fat. But even that's a small amount. However, I don't have breasts at all. 

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5 hours ago, (A)yy said:

They are litteraly just filled with yellow fat like the inside of a couch I don’t get it, they are the same as any other part of the body I don’t get why people obsess over them.

So, basically a fat ball like crisco? That's what they feel like? Just like a ball of fat? So, then, why do men want to touch and grab them all the time?

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8 minutes ago, tygersongbird said:

However, I don't have breasts at all. 

Pretty sure you do, or else you probably wouldn't have a chest either, and without a chest you wouldn't be making forum posts.

 

Barring medical deformalities or something, everyone's got breasts, pretty much like how everyone has an accent, however slight they may be.

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while breastfeeding, I've had it trigger arousal. It was kind of horrifying but I tried to chill, don't freak out...

 

So. It really does, um, connect to the... sexual systems... Even when you don't want it to. (I wonder, did evolution select for this, to reward nursing?) They blame it on the vagus nerve, but people blame everything on the vagus nerve.

 

But there's plenty of erogenous zones, it's been overhyped imho, a lazy trope to signal sex.

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They aren't just bags of fat. That's over-simplifying things. They also have nerves, for example. And can be erogenous zones as others have described. For some people they can also be visually appealing.

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1 minute ago, Philip027 said:

Pretty sure you do, or else you probably wouldn't have a chest either, and without a chest you wouldn't be making forum posts.

 

Barring medical deformalities or something, everyone's got breasts, pretty much like how everyone has an accent, however slight they may be.

good point. I'm just saying I'm flat chested as a guy.

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