Lingerie...What's the point?

[Traveler40]

As to panties - I loaded up on Hanky Panky brand lovelies at the outset of my side thing.  They are gorgeous and comfortable.  My lover?  He’s never really seen them and thinks they are a waste.  They hit the floor too fast 🤷🏻‍♀️. Now, they live in the corner of a drawer most of the time unless I decide they’d help my mood on any given day.  Wearing sexy lingerie puts me in a certain mindset that I enjoy.

[ryn2]

18 minutes ago, Traveler40 said:

While American chocolate is horrid, the abundance of alternatives makes it ok. 

*nods*

 

18 minutes ago, Traveler40 said:

Seriously, American Chocolate and American beer, how do they stay in business? It’s beyond me!

Surprisingly, a lot of people actually like them better than the alternatives.

[Traveler40]

There’s no price too high for beauty AND comfort! Hahaha. HP provides both which makes it unique in my experience.  I have to say though, it’s a blessing my lover doesn’t care one way or the other.  Ongoing replacement could rival the national debt in time. 😂

[ryn2]

3 minutes ago, CBC said:

I learnt that people are willing to spend between $20 and $70 USD for a single pair of sexy panties.

My everyday ones are $10-$12 USD a pair.  I try to hold out until they are on sale.

[ryn2]

1 minute ago, CBC said:

Perhaps something to do with familiarity more so than actual quality.

This was my working assumption but I’ve talked to enough people over time to learn that it’s not “lack of exposure to something better.”  They just honestly like what I think is gross.

[ryn2]

Maybe, but if we offer them the “better” stuff they try and and say they don’t like it.  They tend to think better chocolate is not sweet enough and better beer is too strong, too hoppy, etc.  I also often hear “but after one of those I would be drunk!  I want to be able to drink for the whole game/evening/whatever.”

 

Better in my opinion, I mean.  

[ryn2]

The sense I get can probably be summarized as “they don’t really like [thing]; they want to be able to pretend they do.”

[Anthracite_Impreza]

I prefer cheap beans to heinz. There, I admitted it.

[ryn2]

I’m not a giant fan of heinz-style beans in general.

[ryn2]

16 minutes ago, CBC said:

I kinda partially lived off them for a few weeks that summer. 

For me that usually has the opposite effect!

 

I can see it if they remind you of a pleasant time, though; most of the times I’ve had to live off some weird/cheap staple are not times I look back on fondly.

[Anthracite_Impreza]

This is how interesting lingerie is, we'd rather talk about baked beans.

[ryn2]

9 minutes ago, Anthracite_Impreza said:

This is how interesting lingerie is, we'd rather talk about baked beans.

Hah, I was just thinking that... although from past discussion it doesn’t seem that the love (or lack thereof) of lingerie is strictly divided along sexual orientation lines.

[ryn2]

13 minutes ago, CBC said:

Heinz beans and Crunchie bars and banana milkshakes and sandwiches from Boots remind me of happy things.

Makes sense.  For me the stretches where I ate the same (usually pretty basic) thing every day tend to be the stretches where my life was pretty off-the-rails so having those things now... doesn’t bring back happy memories.

[starweb]

2 hours ago, ryn2 said:

This was my working assumption but I’ve talked to enough people over time to learn that it’s not “lack of exposure to something better.”  They just honestly like what I think is gross.

We CAN get Europen chocolate over here, and imported beer (and cheese) and there are people who like it, but for whatever reason, they just haven't crossed over into the mainstream. I guess it's just not what they are used to or if they are open about liking things not American, they're written off a pretentious or something.

 

I personally prefer European chocolate for the most part, which I can't eat a lot of unless its the real dark chocolate with  the lowest sugar and carb count (can't drink so I can't offer an opinion on that), but I will give up my Reeces when you pry them from my cold dead hands. It's one of my few 'cheat' foods.

 

 

[Anthracite_Impreza]

Do you even get dark chocolate over there? And by dark I don't mean 60% 'dark', I mean 75%+.

[ryn2]

5 minutes ago, Anthracite_Impreza said:

Do you even get dark chocolate over there? And by dark I don't mean 60% 'dark', I mean 75%+.

Yes, we have both US and imported baking chocolate up to 100% and (imported and domestic) “eating” chocolate close to that as well.  Most of it seems to be 70-72% rather than 75% but I’ve seen some of the latter.  I normally snack on Ghirardelli baking chocolate which I believe is 70%; the next option up is 100%.  My store has another brand that’s 78% but for whatever reason it tastes less intense.

[Anthracite_Impreza]

I'm at the point now that 85% tastes sweet, can't eat anything below 75% cos it's too sickly >.<

[starweb]

34 minutes ago, Anthracite_Impreza said:

Do you even get dark chocolate over there? And by dark I don't mean 60% 'dark', I mean 75%+.

 Yes. Its the only kind I allow myself to eat. I have 80% and 90% with me right now.

[ryn2]

29 minutes ago, Anthracite_Impreza said:

I'm at the point now that 85% tastes sweet, can't eat anything below 75% cos it's too sickly >.<

I’m guessing I would feel that way if I had it available (60% is way too sweet) but I haven’t seen much between 75% and 100% here.  My store was carrying one 80% brand for a while but I found it too crumbly.

[Xstatic]

6 hours ago, James121 said:

How so? It’s just generally underwear? 

Oh lord, not some of my stuff.  Corsets and theigh highs and clips and straps and.... it can be a lot. 😂

[Xstatic]

Sorry to take away from the conversation of baked beans and dark chocolate. 😂

 

But back on the original topic, for me, it's because sometimes I put that shit on and feel sexy as hell.  I like going to burlesque shows so I guess I just really like sexy slow reveal....and costuming.  I'm really into costuming.

 

The other night I was unpacking a few more boxes from my move and I came across my boxes of lingerie (yes boxes) thought about my current relationship with an aro/ace and was like welp, don't need to unpack this stuff.  😂

 

Now, to be fair, most of the time I'm all about that oversized hoodie/value pack undies life.  

[Celyn: The Lutening]

1 minute ago, CBC said:

 

(No this is not my attempt to ask people what they're wearing right now, lol.)

A grey camo sports bra and grey boxers, underwear wise. You're welcome. 

[ryn2]

2 minutes ago, Celyn said:

A grey camo sports bra and grey boxers, underwear wise. You're welcome. 

Same except plain grey sports bra and grey cotton thong as per discussion above.  XD

 

Oh, and a full outfit of business casual work clothes over top, as I’m at work.

[Xstatic]

Oh me neither.  The visuals are nice, but not required.  But having someone describe what they are or are not wearing was never a thing for me.  I mean, it obviously is for some people.  Those phone sex lines sure were popular 20 years ago.  But that was before webcams were the thing.  Phone sex just seems old timey in my head.  Like, you're not getting off to scrambled porn anymore Karen.  That's just silly.  😂

 

But putting on certain outfits can give me different character traits.  For example, if I'm wearing any of my pirate costumes, it's pretty much certain that I am gonna get shit faced, obnoxious, and hypersexual.  Like for real...friends see me with that shit on, they know it's about to get lit.  LMAO

[uhtred]

People go to all sorts of effort to be attractive to other people. Wearing suits, ties, and dress shoes.  Having ones hair done. Spending money on jewelry, and other fashion accessories.   For most sexuals sexual attractiveness is one type of attractiveness. 

 

So I don't see anything surprising that someone would wear clothes intended to make them more sexually attractive to their partner - for most sexuals being sexually desired by their partners is a good thing.

 

As to why lingerie makes someone sexually attractive, I think you quickly get into the same sort of discussion as to why some art and some  music sounds nice to a lot of people.  

 

In addition to simply enjoying being desired, I think some people find lingerie to be a fun "dress-up" game. 

Lingerie can also be a sort of non-verbal communication. A couple may have a spoken or unspoken understanding that one style of lingerie means wanting wine candles and massages, and the other means wanting to be thrown over the shoulder then onto the bed. It can sort of break the mood to specify exactly what someone wants one particular time. 

 

 

 

[James121]

6 hours ago, ☆ﾟ°˖* ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ said:

Oh lord, not some of my stuff.  Corsets and theigh highs and clips and straps and.... it can be a lot. 😂

You have a lucky lucky partner! 👌

[James121]

12 hours ago, ryn2 said:

A lot of times it’s less comfortable, less stretchy, and more complex than everyday underwear.

Hmm yes but,

 

high heel shoes, what’s the point?

make up, what’s the point?

complex dresses, what’s the point?

 

There’s so many things you could as this question for. The real question is why are asking/answering about lingerie? 

 

[Philip027]

10 hours ago, ryn2 said:

Maybe, but if we offer them the “better” stuff they try and and say they don’t like it.  They tend to think better chocolate is not sweet enough

Yep, I have said that exact thing about "better" chocolate many times.  I think to some people, darker chocolate is more pure or something and therefore "better".  Whatever the case, I hate it.  Needs to be sweet, otherwise why am I eating chocolate in the first place? 

[ryn2]

3 minutes ago, Philip027 said:

Yep, I have said that exact thing about "better" chocolate many times.  I think to some people, darker chocolate is more pure or something and therefore "better".  Whatever the case, I hate it.  Needs to be sweet, otherwise why am I eating chocolate in the first place? 

At least we would not fight over the same pieces then!

[ryn2]

13 hours ago, ryn2 said:

A lot of times it’s less comfortable, less stretchy, and more complex than everyday underwear.

I said this (with the quote, the first time) specifically in response to your question about why lingerie was more of a hassle to put on than was regular underwear, @James121.  It wasn’t a general response to the original question.