literally confused about asexuality

[liljish]

okay, firstly, hi i'm josh. i've gone from straight, to bi, to pan, to gay (for maybe a week), to questioning asexuality. let's make this known, i know what it is--please don't be deceived by it.

 

here's the situation. over time, being around females and wanting to be with them made me less interested. although it was over the span of a few years, it's definitely hitting me now.

i recently felt kind of attracted to a boy (who lives 9000 miles away) but it just vanished, i guess. unfortunately, i suffer from daily obsessive thoughts that are barely being treated. you see, i thought that i was gay but now i'm getting second thoughts, whilst having obsessive thoughts, and i'm honestly here to decide once and for all.

 

it seems unethical to have a whole community try and figure it out, but really, i need your help--i can't keep suffering for this.

 

much love, josh

[Ceebs]

I would suggest seeking the guidance and input of someone like a therapist, if that's at all an option for you. No one's sexuality is that... changeable... and it seems that your biggest struggles right now are your obsessive thoughts and, I imagine, anxiety. You come across as very distressed.

[liljish]

Just now, CBC said:

I would suggest seeking the guidance and input of someone like a therapist. No one's sexuality is that... changeable... and it seems that your biggest struggle right now is your obsessive thoughts and, I imagine, anxiety. You come across as very distressed.

truthfully, i'm kinda stressed but like i have a strong feeling ace is the way i'm swinging. i apologize, and i am seeking therapy for this.

[NickyTannock]

Welcome to AVEN!

 

I recommend checking this post, if you haven't looked at it already.