Just trying to organize my thoughts I guess

[Champles]

So this morning I learned a new word; Autochorissexuality but I'll get back to that at some point (maybe, the overall point of this may evolve as it's written). I'm definitely towards the asexual end of things but using that or demisexual, gray-a, none of those really feel right. I mean labeling sexuality, in general, seems like trying to take a photograph of fire; sure you know its a picture of fire but the real thing is far too amorphous to ever truly be captured accurately. In a picture, there's just something off about it (if that makes sense to anyone else). I'm a very private person and mostly I'm just trying to find ways of communicating my preferences to people without having to go into the minutia of my "sexual" preferences/habits. Thus far I guess I've relied heavily on metaphor (with the one person I've managed to tell/work through all this with over the last few months):

 

I believe I can consider myself straight; ie: I much prefer the work of DaVinci to Raphael; I get the appeal of Raphael but it just doesn't make me feel the same way (Van Gogh trumps everything for me but let's not complicate this and stick to renaissance masters) 

 

I perceive sexual intercourse to be like a trip to the farmer's market; left completely up to me, I'd be perfectly content never going to one; but, if my partner wanted to I'd go as much as they wanted purely because I know it would make them happy. However I still probably wouldn't think of when to go on my own, it would have to be completely up to them. What gets me 'off' so to speak is the knowledge of giving pleasure to my partner.

 

I'm definitely romantic, I don't have a clever way of putting that it's just possibly the only thing I can be sure of anymore lol.

 

Otherwise, I crave contact (I'm narrowing this down to physical contact, for now, to make things easier on my brain) from someone I'm romantically in love with, almost constantly, but I cringe at the touch of basically anyone else. 

 

Yes I masturbate (even with the anonymity I'm embarrassed just writing that, that's the level of "very private person" I'm working with..) Anyway, I do so not really for the pleasure but just to get rid of the craving in the back of my brain. If we are to assume it to be considered sexual in the first place; that would be the extent of my sexual urges. 

 

Now here's the tricky part, I fantasize about sexual things (events?) however you'd put it. The thought of bringing those into the real world though, kind of ruins it for me. Once things go below the belt that is. Similarly, if I'm watching porn I skip around the actual penetration or even try not to think about it. More than once I've noticed being more attracted to a porn star fully clothed and would then need to find something else when they're nude.

 

I think that's all I have for now but, back to the main question at hand is autochorissexual a recognized response to sexual orientation? Does it actually apply/ is there something more appropriate? And any thoughts on simplifying the "getting other people to kind of understand what I am" conversation without straight up having to talk about my masturbation habits would be greatly appreciated.

 

And if you read all of that I commend you and truly appreciate your time regardless of whether or not I get any response.

 

 

[AcornCarvings]

Hi and welcome and have some cake if you like cake! 

If it helps at all on the "people knowing what you are talking about" front, I don't actually know what autochorissexual means (but that doesn't mean it's not a super valid and useful label). Is the auto-part meaning that some is directed at yourself? idk, sorry, II'm not very read up on labeling stuff.

Anyways, I hope other people can help you a bit more than this!

[Yennifer Hernandez]

 

"Welcome Champles!! 

 

 

Ok, after making some research about it..

 

"Autochorissexual :It is a subset of asexuality which is defined as: a disconnection between oneself and a sexual target/object of arousal; may involve sexual fantasies or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacking any desire to be a participant in the sexual activities therein." Wikipedia

 

More info in: http://asexuals.wikia.com/wiki/Autochorissexual

 

Is a very complex situation. And "I perceive sexual intercourse to be like a trip to the farmer's market; left completely up to me, I'd be perfectly content never going to one; but, if my partner wanted to I'd go as much as they wanted purely because I know it would make them happy. " That was exactly my situation with the only relationship that I had in my life! Fantasies! 

 

I also masturbate myself when I feel like I want to, is a stress releaser. But I do not feel the need to have sex with a person. 

 

Fantasies! Being there too, but the same as long as they are fantasies or livid dreams that is ok but is a big no no for real life! I also got a hyperactive brain and he likes to play with information at night jaja 

 

About your question..." is autochorissexual a recognized response to sexual orientation?"  I personally think that your profile falls in the Asexual category, and  autochorissexual is one of the grey shades of asexuality. Is just my opinion, I am also learning about this a total newbie! 

 

Maybe others with more knowledge and experience can give you better advice.

 

Have a nice day!! 

 

Yen