NaruGirl Posted May 19, 2018 Share Posted May 19, 2018 Hey. I don't know how to define myself as an asexual and my friends have made me more confused. Basically, I have had one crush one someone when I was in year 4 and 5 on this one guy (and apparently one another one when I was in year 1 after moving schools but I'm pretty sure I 'liked' cause his name brought me comfort, but anyway). I had not have a crush since primary school and I'm now in university, and whilst I have looked at attractive people and have said that they are attractive but I haven't wanted to sleep with them other than wondering how it would happen. And whilst I have watched porn I dont find it interesting, but I do enjoy erotic novels but never got off on one. I also don't have the desire to have a relationship. And I used to say that I wanted to have sex but I did sorta feel like I had to say it because of what I read. And I have given some a blow job but that was because I wanted to do something sexual before I was 18. So I'm pretty sure that I might be a asexual aromantic must of my friends says that as I'm only 18 I haven't meet enough people to say that for sure and that I'm most likely just demisexual instead. I just don't know how to become sure that I am asexual and just 'haven't meet the one yet' as my friends say. Thanks for listening and any advice you can give Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ôÿē èîęēú ïė ēôēįîûôø Posted May 19, 2018 Share Posted May 19, 2018 First of all, welcome to heAVEN. Have some cake. Second, I just want to say that I find the 'you just haven't found the right one' argument kind of irrational and silly, because you wouldn't, for example, say to a straight male that he just hasn't found the right guy yet. So my advice to you would be to do some introspection, try to drown out any outside interference and listen to that little voice within. I hope this helps. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
TheAP Posted May 19, 2018 Share Posted May 19, 2018 It does sound like you may be asexual. Try not to worry about whether your feelings might change; if you feel you are asexual, you can call yourself such, even if you aren't completely sure. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
NickyTannock Posted May 19, 2018 Share Posted May 19, 2018 Welcome to AVEN! Your friends are trying to help, but I think you should ignore them. What they're saying, is what people always say. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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