Aroace_bookworm

Misconceptions about ace/aro people

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Aroace_bookworm

Being closeted ace/aro, I've heard many misconceptions about asexuality, and aromanticity ( I think that's what it's called...) and everything in between. Sometimes they're funny, but sometimes, they can make me want to tear my hair out.  

I've heard a group of teenage boys talking about it:

 

Boy 1: Asexual is when you don't like anyone, right?

Boy 2: No, it's when you don't have a gender!

Boy 1: Oh yeah! I get it!

 

Or by one of my friends, explaining to another

 

 Asexual is when you're not sexually attracted to anyone. You can still like people, just not want to do it with anyone. Aromantic is when you don't like anyone sexually or romantically. 

 

And since I'm not ready to come out yet, I don't want to correct  them because questions will be asked, so.....

Anyone else got any funny/interesting misconceptions about asexuality?

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Norellia

I don't really think this is necessarily a funny misconception, cause it hurt my feelings the way it was delivered but here is one.

 

My brother: what is the use of asexual characters in tv shows or movies when they can't experience romance or sex?

Me: asexuals can still experience romantic attraction and have sex.

My brother: So what is the point of asexuality?!

 

Basically he misinterpreted asexuality with aromanticism and assumed like most people that asexual = celibacy. This conversation started when we were talking about lgbt erasure in media and I brought up the riverdale erasure of an asexual character. He didn't think it was an erasure, because he doesn't think asexuality is an orientation. 

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Aroace_bookworm
7 hours ago, Norellia said:

 

Basically he misinterpreted asexuality with aromanticism and assumed like most people that asexual = celibacy. This conversation started when we were talking about lgbt erasure in media and I brought up the riverdale erasure of an asexual character. He didn't think it was an erasure, because he doesn't think asexuality is an orientation. 

I hate when people think/believe that

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Some time ago at work I was in a meeting. A co-working presented a diagram showing the sequence of events in a work process. The diagram had some generic clip art people in it. My co-working mentioned something about "I've put in some asexual people." I'm not out to anyone at I work so I had to restrain myself from jumping up and saying "No! No! No! The people are agender." But instead I sat there cringing silently and feeling upset that people out there still don't know what asexuality is (or agender for that matter).

 

There have been other things too over the years. I've been told to get my hormones checked, asked if I was abused as a kid, and other things that are on ace bingo cards.

 

* deep sigh *

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