"The talk" with your parents

[Alawyn-Aebt]

I was 14, it was not comprehensive in any way, more akin to a biology lesson. No information on safe-sex and happily no information on the morality of it. Looking back I am glad as a homeschooler I was glad I even got one, especially one that was non-religious. I was super uncomfortable with it though and probably my parents were confused by my insistence on my logic that because I was not getting married it was all irrelevant. But with all the lack of information and my love of Wikipedia it was natural where I would turn for more information, despite being told not to.

[no-longer-in-use]

I asked how babies were made in second grade and my mom gave me a very *ahem* informational book.

[Kelthepurplequeen]

I didn’t know what sex was until 5th grade in school.

 

 

[Kelthepurplequeen]

On 11/10/2018 at 6:34 PM, ZinxtheJinx said:

These kids came from families who didn't care and would do the deed in front of them so they were exposed at a young age. I found that out later when it came out a girl got pregnant from one of her mom's clients. At the time I was really disgusted with them but now I know its their families fault the kids grew up into sex maniacs.

I’m pretty sure that’s illegal.

[Life With Masks]

My parents didn't talk about sex at all.

 

I learnt about it in school.

[Sure rants alot]

Oh my, that brings back some ancient memories.  My mom couldn't even talk about natural bodily functions like having menses. Heaven forbid if I or my sister wanted to talk about starting to shave our legs or getting a bra.  When I was an adult, I took my mom shopping and she about had a panic attack because I didn't hide my feminine hygiene products. She was covering them up with bananas and bread so people couldn't see them. 

 

My dad was like, "people have been going at it since the beginning of time. You don't need a map and a compass. Just don't get the clap or come home pregnant."

 

I never really had a talk and I didn't date all that much. I wasn't interested in sex, I had other things I wanted to do that were more important to me than sex. 

 

I was in high school during the hippie free love/free spirit, sex/drugs/rock and roll era. I had some older free spirited hippie friends who would talk about their experiences. Mostly what I learned from them is if you get a hickey, get it on your belly so your parents can't see it (I had to have them explain what a hickey was).  They told me that a man was absolutely useless if he was tripping out on acid. 

 

It would have been so nice to have the internet.

[Rama]

I was told, but I spaced out for the entire explanation. Learned later by inference.
 

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Honestly though, there are still some details I'm unaware of. But I don't really need to know, right?

 

[LonesomeCrow]

I never got the talk from my mom, and we had a Sex Ed class on school but they didn't actually talk about what sex was.  I rather accidentally learned about sex by stumbling upon my stepdad's porn stash.

[ZinxtheJinx]

On 2/16/2019 at 2:27 PM, Kelthepurplequeen said:

I’m pretty sure that’s illegal.

The police here apparently don't care. The system is a mess. 😒

[Nirnroot]

My mom had that talk with me when I was 9. I remember her being so nervous to tell me what a penis was. I didn't understand what the big deal was. 

[firewallflower]

I never really received a formalized "the talk," as such. (Nor, not going to school, did I take a sex ed class.) I was aware of basic anatomical sexual differences since before I can remember (look, I had a brother), learned the basics of conception when I was pretty young, and my parents would get books from the library ("It's So Amazing" comes to mind—excellent book, by the by 😉). But there wasn't a specific, memorable sit-down-and-talk-the-birds-and-the-bees moment. Sex isn't much of a topic of conversation in my household (suits me, to be honest ), though I'm sure they'd be willing to semi-awkwardly discuss it with me if I wanted to initiate a conversation. Otherwise, I guess I just learned through... osmosis? 🤷‍♀️

[user23974865]

I don't remember not knowing what sex is. Another kid told me the basics (probably right after learning it from someone else) just to gross me out. Which it did, for a second, and then I moved on and didn't think about it until puberty.

 

If my parents ever talked to me about it at all, then it probably went like "you know what sex is and how it works, right? -- yes -- okay" and I blocked it from my memory, because even just that much "talk" would have been surrealistically awkward.

[MollyDMA]

Not only did my mom sit my sister and myself down, she also gave up a book with nude people that detailed the male and female parts. 

My sister traumatized me with my book.

[Guest]

My mom just gave me a book written by Mennonites (so, bare bones information). And when my stepdad tried to have the talk I all but ran out of the room screaming, lmao. I had learned about sex through the encyclopedia and books on dog breeding, before they got to it.

[CelesteAdAstra]

My mum tried, but I got angry and hid in my room 😅

[Nirnroot]

Sad that the majority of respondents never had the talk with their parents. I think that parents should absolutely have the talk with their kids, and give their children the go ahead to ask questions. Of course...this isn't an ideal world I guess and parents don't always want to bother being there for their kids. (Or worse, there are also parents who are abusive/neglectful. In an ideal world parents would be decent to their kids.)

[Guest]

I can't actually remember if I got the talk or not. I do have vivid memories about discussing the moon landing with my parents when I was 14. It seems the topic of sex had never any relevance to me. I guess I had some kind of talk with my parents while learning for sex ed, but I don't have any memories about this event.

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