Queenie Posted April 21, 2018 Share Posted April 21, 2018 I have lurked on Aven infrequently for many years. For a long time I was too afraid to make an account for fear that I did not belong or the title of asexual did not fit me but finally I plucked up the courage and made a profile today. Firstly, I will give you a little backstory about me. I am 32 years old and still a virgin. When growing I never went through the boy crazy phase or girl crazy phase. I just thought I was a late bloomer that would eventually get it when I met the right person but that never really happened cause I never found anyone sexually attractive or attractive period... I just wasn't interested. I was the ultimate nerd with my Pokemon cards, Dragonball Z, and every other anime and manga during that time. When I went on to college I did not know anything about asexuality I first heard about it in 2006 when a friend that would be a catalyst for a lot of things in my life told me that she was asexual. I wanted to know more about her so I looked up the term stumbled across this wonderful site. At the time I only had understanding more about my friend at the forefront of my mind not myself so I ignored how a lot of the definition of the terms felt right to me... In 2007 after knowing my friend for 2 years I realized that I was in love with her... It took me so long to figure out what was going on... I had never understood the feelings that I was going through cause well she was the first person and has been the only person I have ever loved. That time was a bit dark for me cause it was very confusing trying to understand my sexuality apart from what I wanted it to be... To spar you all that crappy story of angst I will say this a lot has happened since that time of me discovering myself. I have learned that my friend is aromatic and asexual she does not want a romantic relationship at all which I totally respect. We are still friends and we always will be. I have come to terms with the fact that I am demisexual or possibly just gray since I have loved no one else besides her but one day if it happens again than so be it if not than that is fine too. I am not looking. Either way, thanks for reading and I hope to read more posts from you all. Take care y'all Link to post Share on other sites
AndrewT Posted April 21, 2018 Share Posted April 21, 2018 Hi and welcome I'll not bore you with my story, generally people here are nice and post pictures that make you hungry Link to post Share on other sites
Queenie Posted April 21, 2018 Author Share Posted April 21, 2018 I appreciate you Also bore away I don't mind reading but the choice is yours Link to post Share on other sites
TheAP Posted April 21, 2018 Share Posted April 21, 2018 Moved from Questions about Asexuality to Welcome Lounge. TheAP Questions about Asexuality co-mod Link to post Share on other sites
Queenie Posted April 21, 2018 Author Share Posted April 21, 2018 Thanks and sorry I placed it in the wrong place. Link to post Share on other sites
TheAP Posted April 21, 2018 Share Posted April 21, 2018 Just now, Queenie said: Thanks and sorry I placed it in the wrong place. You're welcome. It's okay. Welcome to AVEN! Link to post Share on other sites
AndrewT Posted April 21, 2018 Share Posted April 21, 2018 5 minutes ago, Queenie said: I appreciate you Also bore away I don't mind reading but the choice is yours TBH I'm not even sure how much of my crazy I've already shared here I know I have not shared it all. the TLDR version Spent 37 years (although I probably did nothing for first 10 or so) trying to work stuff out and 1 year accepting I'm probably asexual and demi romantic Lots of stuff happened as well but not ready (or drunk enough) to share all that yet on a forum yet Link to post Share on other sites
Queenie Posted April 21, 2018 Author Share Posted April 21, 2018 6 minutes ago, Andrew001 said: TBH I'm not even sure how much of my crazy I've already shared here I know I have not shared it all. the TLDR version Spent 37 years (although I probably did nothing for first 10 or so) trying to work stuff out and 1 year accepting I'm probably asexual and demi romantic Lots of stuff happened as well but not ready (or drunk enough) to share all that yet on a forum yet Oh trust me I understand. I don't drink but my mood has to be just right to go into that mire of memory not all was bad but everything was tainted. More than likely I will piece meal my story as well. Being older helps in a way... younger me would not know what to do but the me of today meets everything with a cool stare and a shrug. I am just glad a place like this exist with people of all walks and ages Link to post Share on other sites
Lichley Posted April 21, 2018 Share Posted April 21, 2018 Welcome! What’s your favourite Pokémon? Link to post Share on other sites
Queenie Posted April 21, 2018 Author Share Posted April 21, 2018 4 minutes ago, Lichley said: Welcome! What’s your favourite Pokémon? Thanks! My favorite Pokemon was pikachu and charmander. Squirtle was adorable as well. I loved the original 150 including mew and mew two but when the franchise expanded beyond that I lost interest. Link to post Share on other sites
AndrewT Posted April 21, 2018 Share Posted April 21, 2018 2 minutes ago, Queenie said: Oh trust me I understand. I don't drink but my mood has to be just right to go into that mire of memory not all was bad but everything was tainted. More than likely I will piece meal my story as well. Being older helps in a way... younger me would not know what to do but the me of today meets everything with a cool stare and a shrug. I am just glad a place like this exist with people of all walks and ages I don't drink a lot (anymore). But I have to be comfortable with a person to fully open up, although I don't think I've ever shared all my crazy with one person (I've shared it around lol) Link to post Share on other sites
will123 Posted April 21, 2018 Share Posted April 21, 2018 1 hour ago, Queenie said: I have lurked on Aven infrequently for many years. For a long time I was too afraid to make an account for fear that I did not belong or the title of asexual did not fit me but finally I plucked up the courage and made a profile today. Firstly, I will give you a little backstory about me. I am 32 years old and still a virgin. I just thought I was a late bloomer that would eventually get it when I met the right person but that never really happened cause I never found anyone sexually attractive or attractive period... I just wasn't interested. Welcome to AVEN . Don't feel bad about being hesitant about joining. I found out about asexuality (which fit me to a T) and AVEN in 2005, but didn't sign up until last year. I don't know why I waited so long, but I don't think I was in denial about it. In fact I actually I felt relieved. I always thought I'd meet the right person, but didn't put much effort into looking. I'm 56 and like you a virgin, which I'm quite comfortable with at this point in my life. I hope you find the interaction here enjoyable. Link to post Share on other sites
Queenie Posted April 21, 2018 Author Share Posted April 21, 2018 4 minutes ago, will123 said: Welcome to AVEN . Don't feel bad about being hesitant about joining. I found out about asexuality (which fit me to a T) and AVEN in 2005, but didn't sign up until last year. I don't know why I waited so long, but I don't think I was in denial about it. In fact I actually I felt relieved. I always thought I'd meet the right person, but didn't put much effort into looking. I'm 56 and like you a virgin, which I'm quite comfortable with at this point in my life. I hope you find the interaction here enjoyable. I appreciate you, Will. Reading your post made me feel really good. Link to post Share on other sites
will123 Posted April 21, 2018 Share Posted April 21, 2018 2 minutes ago, Queenie said: I appreciate you, Will. Reading your post made me feel really good. You're making me blush Link to post Share on other sites
Homer Posted April 22, 2018 Share Posted April 22, 2018 2 hours ago, Queenie said: Also bore away I don't mind reading but the choice is yours Welcome to AVEN! AVEN is a wonderful place full of supportive and accepting people. It doesn't matter whether you're asexual or not in fact, we've had quite a few members who found out that they weren't what they tought they were - and nobody got kicked out I hope you'll enjoy being active on here! Have some more cake: Link to post Share on other sites
Queenie Posted April 22, 2018 Author Share Posted April 22, 2018 52 minutes ago, Homer said: Welcome to AVEN! AVEN is a wonderful place full of supportive and accepting people. It doesn't matter whether you're asexual or not in fact, we've had quite a few members who found out that they weren't what they tought they were - and nobody got kicked out I hope you'll enjoy being active on here! Have some more cake: Thanks, I appreciate you! I love Dragonball Z! Link to post Share on other sites
Lichley Posted April 22, 2018 Share Posted April 22, 2018 22 hours ago, Queenie said: Thanks! My favorite Pokemon was pikachu and charmander. Squirtle was adorable as well. I loved the original 150 including mew and mew two but when the franchise expanded beyond that I lost interest. It does get a bit same-y but there are some really cute new ones that I like a lot. Also, learning all the ‘mons is near impossible now 😓 Link to post Share on other sites
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