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SabrinasRogue

So hey there, my name is Sabrina and I'm a 32 ur old female who for the first time doesn't feel like there's something wrong with me, I'm asexual and can't wait to explore and learn more about my new discovery. It feels really good to know that I'm not alone.

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34 and I know the feeling.  Still kind of a mess, but less of a mess than I originally thought.

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SabrinasRogue

Haha thank you. And me too Claire but I have a feeling things might get a little easier.

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I realized I was Ace the day before my 37th birthday (also the day I joined this site) last summer. I don't think I ever realized how "weird" I was until I started meeting others like me lol I always knew I was different, but only when I found out about asexuality did I fully understand myself. What a relief it was! Welcome :)

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1 hour ago, SabrinasRogue said:

Haha thank you. And me too Claire but I have a feeling things might get a little easier.

Ha yes!  At least now I know how to start working with my sexuality instead of wasting time trying to "fix" it.  Comes with it's own set of challenges, but it does make things easier when you have the words to explain what you're looking for.

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Welcome! I’m glad we could help you feel happy and more comfortable :) 

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Hi and welcome :)

 

Thanks for introducing yourself to us! No, you are certainly not broken or anything like that. A lot of people on here went through exactly the same thought processes as you did, so you're definitely not the only one :) Such a realization comes with a lot of reverse engineering - you look back at past experiences to find that asexuality adds a totally different spin to things... a lot of people on here will be able to relate to what you wrote.

 

Have fun exploring the site and I hope you'll enjoy being a member :) Have some cake:

 

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My own 'realisation' came a few years ago but I remember it felt. For me it was like suddenly a cage I didn't realise I was in opened-up and I suddenly had so much room to move.

 

I am joyous with you in your selfdiscovery and even though I rarely stop in on AVEN these days, it really is a great resourse for everything from terminology to sharing of experiences, problems and solutions all the way out to conversation and potential friendships where 'sex' isn't a constant undercurrent. hehe Congrats and welcome!

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I also thought I was just broken, and I’m still not sure I’m convinced otherwise yet. A doctor first mentioned asexuality about 2 years ago, when I was 33, and a different doctor made the same suggestion within the last 6 months, so I looked it up. It fits. Or, if I am ever not depressed, maybe I will feel something then, but I seriously doubt I will ever have the opportunity to find out.

 

I always just used to think I was “nothing” (not straight, not gay, just...nothing). That is the only descriptor I had before looking up the term asexual.

 

 

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keep calm and carry on

Welcome and look forward to interacting with you.  No, you are not alone. We are all here for you and with you. 

 

(Would have sent you cake but I ate it :)

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SparkyCat13

Welcome, welcome! We're all in this together, here!

 

How cute are these ombre rhubarb mini cakes?! Sandwiched together with fresh rhubarb compote and creamy buttercream, you're going to love them!

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On 4/16/2018 at 9:25 PM, SabrinasRogue said:

So hey there, my name is Sabrina and I'm a 32 ur old female who for the first time doesn't feel like there's something wrong with me, I'm asexual and can't wait to explore and learn more about my new discovery. It feels really good to know that I'm not alone.

Welcome to AVEN :cake:

 

When I found out about asexuality at age 44, that's pretty much how I felt too.

 

No you're not. It makes the realization, that much easier to know that others share the same feelings! :)

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I am 31 and I understand. You are not alone :) Welcome fellow newbie!

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On 2018-04-19 at 4:58 PM, Linz13 said:

Welcome, welcome! We're all in this together, here!

 

How cute are these ombre rhubarb mini cakes?! Sandwiched together with fresh rhubarb compote and creamy buttercream, you're going to love them!

Couldn't have said it better! I'm so glad that I signed up here last year. Everytime I read about a person joining it's nice to know our 'community' is growing.

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Chocolatastic AroAce

Welcome to the club

 

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You're not the only one. I'm almost 35 and had never heard of asexuality until last summer. I've learned a lot of new things about myself, but new perspective can only be a good thing. There's a first step to every journey. I hope you find some some comfort in knowing you're not walking this path alone.

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