Can I be Grey-Romantic and Have a Crush?

[DoubluBubbleDiscoQueen]

Hello, Hello, I'm new to this community and still questioning my sexuality. I think I may be grey-romantic/sexual but I'm not sure because I have a crush on a guy. Please help me, oh and if you have any stories, please share them with me! 

[TheAP]

I think a grey-romantic person would be able to experience a romantic crush, but only rarely, and/or not in the typical way. And being grey-sexual doesn't tell anything about romantic attraction, so a grey-sexual person could experience romantic crushes.

[DoubluBubbleDiscoQueen]

Thank You!

[bburlacchini]

Definitely!! I'm gray on both spectrums and I've had many crushes! I only never really wanted to act upon them, they were well enough for me as a concept.

[Shadow007]

Yes they can; I'm grey romantic and have had a couple of crushes on people - for me it's pretty rare. Wish you the best in figuring all this out, and welcome to AVEN!

[banana monkey]

I identify as greyromantic because I think I may have had romantic feelings (a crush) on 1 person. I am not entirely sure though, so I identify as several terms under the greyromantic umbrella. Namely, demiromantic and quoiromantic (and possibly lithromantic as well). The intial feelings took me a long time to work out and didnt last long once I had, then once  it had been long enough for me to realise he was really into me romantically everything went away completely, Unfortunately, I didnt realise until we had been in a relationship for several months because I didnt see relationships in that way.  

[Blue Phoenix Ace]

If you've felt no crushes and have no desire for a romantic relationship, you would be aromantic. Having crushes means you are either grey-romantic or possibly romantic. Grey-romantic is really just a catch-all for somewhere between aromantic and romantic. Hope that helps!

[Ms. Carolynne]

I would assume gray romantics do have crushes, as they experience some romantic attraction, just not to the same degree or frequency as most, or it is under certain conditions.

 

A gray romantic can experience feint crushes, can experience crushes very rarely, need some condition met, or any combination of these.

 

I might be gray romantic myself, as I rarely experience romantic attraction. I go by demiromantic as the evidence leans in that direction (granted demi is a type of gray), but I've had an exception where I wasn't close to the person, and then the crush fizzled away after a few weeks. Strangest crush ever.

 

But... it's rare for me to crush, so I don't have tons of reference, and it could be years until I have another crush; before my most recent crush, it had been 4 years since my previous one when I was in highschool.

 

[noparlpf]

Definitely. I've only ever been interested in three people. Seems like I'll go 4-5 years practically aro/ace and then randomly develop a crush on somebody. And it takes me a while to realise that's what it is because it's so unusual. No idea what to do with them when they do happen though. Good luck trying to figure things out.