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Gldlynch Posted April 4, 2018 Share Posted April 4, 2018 Hey Welcome to AVEN! Make yourself at home (: I think your English is very good! This is well written. Personally, these two kinks you have listed simply sound like sexual preferences. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I guess the main deal with asexuality is, it's based on the people we are sexually attracted to, rather than the act of sex. Asexuals are capable of having kinks, fetishes, they can fantasise, even masturbate - as long as there is no sexual attraction towards another person then you are asexual. I haven't quite had those experiences however you do belong to this forum! Anyone can belong to this forum, especially if you are questioning your sexuality. You definitely are NOT mentally ill, or weird, or broken. They are just preferences. You may not come across people who are on the same page as you but don't let that shake you, your identity and sexual boundaries are as valid as anyone else's! Link to post Share on other sites
Puck Posted April 4, 2018 Share Posted April 4, 2018 Welcome to AVEN! I hope it can be a good resource for you! To me, it sounds like you are a typical sexual person with preferences. Most sexual people have preferences. Yours might not be "typical" preferences, but they are still sexual. Most sexual people aren't attracted to all people of the gender they find sexually attractive. Some people are only aroused by blonds, some people are only aroused by others who have certain personalities, some people are only aroused by others who are willing to do certain acts.... Sounds like you just have a very specific body and personality that you are into. Which is so healthy and great that you know about yourself! That being said, you are always welcome in the AVEN community. If learning about gray-sexuality helps you grow in your understanding of yourself, then that is great! For the record, yes asexuals can have kinks! The difference is, they won't want to engage in them with partners for sexual gratification. So, they might be into dominance play but they won't want to "get off" using it. Or they might only want to read or watch porn relating to the kink to masturbate. Point is, asexuals don't have an innate desire to have partnered sex, so if they are kinky, they still won't innately want to engage in sex involving that kink. Link to post Share on other sites
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