Mike-95 Posted March 27, 2018 Share Posted March 27, 2018 I am unsure if it is my depression, my meds or something else. I do not like giving kisses oral etc but i do like it if someone does it to me as long as they do not give to my mouth, anything below my neck i am ok with. where would this put me in the asexual spectrum? my mood changes a lot. one second i hate the idea of any of it and even cuddling repulses me, the next id love to cuddle with someone but no sex. then i just want everything? what does this make me? i am new to the labels for the asexual spectrum and trying to figure myself out more. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mae 🌼 Posted March 27, 2018 Share Posted March 27, 2018 Hmm since you say that your perspective of it is different and changes maybe sounds a bit like aceflux? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mike-95 Posted March 27, 2018 Author Share Posted March 27, 2018 3 minutes ago, Mae__ said: Hmm since you say that your perspective of it is different and changes maybe sounds a bit like aceflux? does that mean it just changes a lot? i have heard if something called aroflux. do you know what the difference is between the two? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mae 🌼 Posted March 27, 2018 Share Posted March 27, 2018 Yes! Aceflux is when experience of sexual attraction varies over time and aroflux is when experience of romantic attraction varies over time. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mike-95 Posted March 27, 2018 Author Share Posted March 27, 2018 3 minutes ago, Mae__ said: Yes! Aceflux is when experience of sexual attraction varies over time and aroflux is when experience of romantic attraction varies over time. what would a mix of both of them be? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Knight of Cydonia Posted March 27, 2018 Share Posted March 27, 2018 Do you feel sexual attraction to others, yes or no? Asexuality is not really about sexual pleasure (at least via the typical definition) - you can be asexual and enjoy sex etc, or not get any enjoyment. It's more a question of whether or not you can feel sexual attraction. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mike-95 Posted March 27, 2018 Author Share Posted March 27, 2018 1 minute ago, Knight of Cydonia said: Do you feel sexual attraction to others, yes or no? Asexuality is not really about sexual pleasure (at least via the typical definition) - you can be asexual and enjoy sex etc, or not get any enjoyment. It's more a question of whether or not you can feel sexual attraction. i do but very rarely then when i feel it i do not want to peruse it. it is more like they look good they look sexy but never thinking of them in a way that i want to do something to them. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
uhtred Posted March 27, 2018 Share Posted March 27, 2018 Are you on antidepressants to treat your depression? Those can completely mess up your sex drive in various ways. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mae 🌼 Posted March 27, 2018 Share Posted March 27, 2018 Aroaceflux but like Knight of Cydonia said its more about the attraction. There's a list with ace spectrum definitions it may help you find which definition suits you best but from what you're saying I'd say you sound like you may be somewhere in the gray area of the spectrum 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mike-95 Posted March 27, 2018 Author Share Posted March 27, 2018 4 minutes ago, uhtred said: Are you on antidepressants to treat your depression? Those can completely mess up your sex drive in various ways. yes i am on a few along with epilepsy meds and muscle relaxants. I'm a human pharmacy lol Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mike-95 Posted March 27, 2018 Author Share Posted March 27, 2018 2 minutes ago, Mae__ said: Aroaceflux but like Knight of Cydonia said its more about the attraction. There's a list with ace spectrum definitions it may help you find which definition suits you best but from what you're saying I'd say you sound like you may be somewhere in the gray area of the spectrum thankyou, ill check it out Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Claire1983 Posted March 27, 2018 Share Posted March 27, 2018 24 minutes ago, Mike- said: yes i am on a few along with epilepsy meds and muscle relaxants. I'm a human pharmacy lol In the interest of due diligence it might be a good idea to discuss this with your doctor just to be on the safe side. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
uhtred Posted March 27, 2018 Share Posted March 27, 2018 1 hour ago, Mike- said: yes i am on a few along with epilepsy meds and muscle relaxants. I'm a human pharmacy lol I don't know anything about epilesy meds, but I've seen a lot of people complain that anti-depressants have really screwed up their sex drives in various ways. Its quite common for some antidepressants to completely kill a person's sex drive, but there can be other effects as well. Unfortunately since sex drive can't easily be measured, few doctors really know much about this. I'd suggest googling antidepressants libido or something similar. There are a LOT of stories / discussion on this, if not a lot of solid medical research. I consider this a huge issue. I have no problem with anyone's level of desire, high or low, but that is if it is their "natural" level. It saddens me to think that there are many people who are made miserable by sexual / libido side effects of drugs intended to cure depression. I'm not a doctor, just someone who has been in a lot of discussion groups involving sexual / desire issues. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mermaidy Posted March 27, 2018 Share Posted March 27, 2018 Asexuals do not desire giving or receiving any form of sex with any sex/gender. What you describe (in the OP) sounds like just a sexual preference. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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