Telling your ACE husband that Sex with him is awful

[daveb]

10 hours ago, Telecaster68 said:

I didn't read the post like that. It was more asking whether people would be hurt because they'd have a similar point of view - trying to understand better - not figuring out tactics. OP said she'd already done it. 

 

Clearly it *is* hurtful, but for a sexual, it's not clear whether an asexual would care much about how good they are at something they don't enjoy - a bit like, I'll go bowling with friends for the social aspect, but I can take or leave bowling itself, and I don't care how good I am at it. 

That's the way I read it, too.

And that was basically my reaction.

Of course, everyone is different and I understand what some others are saying about why they would feel hurt in that case.