Greenstar55 Posted March 17, 2018 Share Posted March 17, 2018 Okay so I identify as a homotomantic asexual but I'm 'gay' to my friends Me and a super close friend were talking and he said when I asked him about asexual, it's just nothing don't use that word, they're jsut all special snowflakes which bothers me but idk what to say to him Quote Link to post Share on other sites
binary suns Posted March 17, 2018 Share Posted March 17, 2018 1 hour ago, Greenstar55 said: Okay so I identify as a homotomantic asexual but I'm 'gay' to my friends Me and a super close friend were talking and he said when I asked him about asexual, it's just nothing don't use that word, they're jsut all special snowflakes which bothers me but idk what to say to him tell him there are no such thing as special snowflakes, because special snowflakes stereotypically want to be special, but people who use unconventional words to explain their experience do not want to be special. they want to find other people like them, to feel normal. They want to be normal and mundane humans, not special and not unique snowflakes. Tell him that if he thinks that special snowflakes exist, that makes him one, for he is just asking for drama, and only special snowflakes seek drama. alternatively tell him he's being an ass... and if you're asexual, he needs to either accept that - or accept that his lack of support is betrayal. Don't let people walk all over you. 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
binary suns Posted March 17, 2018 Share Posted March 17, 2018 also, talk to him again. sometimes people just have a gut reaction.. but when you insist, they start to realize that they shouldn't have dismissed you so quickly. People tend to misanalyze the importance of things to others... but if they are close friends, more exposure wakes them up to that importance. I had a friend who absolutely loved gloating in his wins. So much that he was absolutely oblivious to when he was taking it too far and making others feel ashamed. If we spoke up and told him enough was enough, he'd be pretty good at switching it off, and apologizing. It would be clear he meant no harm - he was just enjoying his emotions this is what I mean. Don't let other people's reactions dictate your acceptance of yourself. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Carolynne Posted March 18, 2018 Share Posted March 18, 2018 @float on I second this. There's nothing "special snowflake" in being honest about who you are, even if it's something relatively rare. Special snowflakes just do things for attention, and seek to be treated differently from others. I actually find snowflakes using the term a lot to denote people who simply want to be recognized and treated as normal people. It's really a term for lackwits to have an excuse to (quite hypocritically) dismiss egalitarian efforts / values, so they themselves can be treated differently and treat others differently. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Claire1983 Posted March 18, 2018 Share Posted March 18, 2018 I don’t know what to say to your friend but I sympathize. I’ve been afraid of getting this reaction as well, especially since I’ve identified as straight the entire time my friends have known me. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
everywhere and nowhere Posted March 18, 2018 Share Posted March 18, 2018 I hate the phrase "special snowflake" precisely because I believe that everyone is unique, indispensable and special and that the inner experience is absolutely boundless and infinite. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Curi Posted March 20, 2018 Share Posted March 20, 2018 Tell them how it made you feel. If they cant, or refuse, to understand then that isnt a friend worth having. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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