ben8884 Posted March 17, 2018 Share Posted March 17, 2018 So I know I have written a little about this before but I am trying to work out what my romantic orientation is and would value some input. First I guess some background would help. Growing up I have had loads of minor crushes but nothing serious. To me crushes are like colds, I get them, it sucks for a couple of weeks I basically move on. In my 33 years there have been 3 women who I might have had feelings for. The first occurred when I was around 15 she lived hours away and was not interested. I was sad but basically OK. The second may have actually been asexual now that I think about it and perhaps demi romantic. She also did not return my feelings but I was OK with this and we remained friends for a long time. I sorta already knew she didn't feel like that I was, I guess in my early to mid 20s. When I discovered asexuality I sort of thought I was a lithromantic in that deep down I didn't want a woman to return my affections. I would dabble in online dating feeling lonely and depressed at not getting anywhere but also freaking out when someone replied to a message. About 2 years ago however I actually fell in love. This woman too did not return my feelings but it was different. I actually want her to and would do anything to be with her. It got so awkward that I basically cannot be around her anymore. So this makes me think I am not as lithromantic as I once thought. Am I like a dark grey romantic? Without her returning my feelings I cannot I feel be 100% sure but I think this best fits me. Like I said unlike the others this was different like, I actually genuinely want her to return my feelings hence my thinking grey romantic but like, a dark grey romantic. Thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
Beaver Boy Posted March 17, 2018 Share Posted March 17, 2018 Since there was someone you were romantically attracted to 2 years ago, you might consider yourself demiromantic (romantic attraction is very rare, you can only be romantically attracted to someone you first have a close emotional bond to), or as you said, dark grey romantic. Link to post Share on other sites
ben8884 Posted March 17, 2018 Author Share Posted March 17, 2018 Sounds about right. Which seems closer? Unrelated but I hate being in love. Link to post Share on other sites
Beaver Boy Posted March 17, 2018 Share Posted March 17, 2018 If you need a close emotional connection to someone to be romantically attracted to them, then it seems demiromantic. Otherwise dark greyromantic may be a better descriptor. Link to post Share on other sites
ben8884 Posted March 17, 2018 Author Share Posted March 17, 2018 I feel like i don't need to be close to someone for a crush but actual romantic feelings? Totally Link to post Share on other sites
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