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Kissing (forehead and cheek) yes

kissing (mouth) maybe 

hand holding yes

cuddling yes

hugging yes

other affectionate touching yes

hugging in public no

cuddling in public no

kissing (forehead and cheek) in public no

kissing (mouth) in public no

hand holding in public no

other affectionate in public maybe 

eye gazing maybe 

crying on yes

being cried on yes

Massage (giving) maybe 

massage (receiving) maybe

hair brushing (giving) no

hair brushing (receiving) no

Nail painting (giving) no

nail painting (receiving) no

shaving (giving) no

shaving (receiving) no

bathing together (with suits) maybe

bathing together (naked) maybe 

seeing your partner naked maybe 

my partner seeing me naked maybe

feeding my partner no

my partner feeding me no

tickling (being tickled) yes

tickling (doing the tickling) yes

terms of endearment yes

being called “best friend” yes

being called “partner” yes

being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend ect) maybe 

having other platonic partners no 

my partner having other platonic partners no 

me having other romantic partners no 

my partner having other romantic partners no

my partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else no

me doing romantic-coded things with someone else no 

my partner doing sexual things with someone else no 

me doing sexual things with someone else no

touching my partner sexually no

being touched by my partner sexually no

having sex of any kind with my partner no

sexual kink with my partner no 

non-sexual kink with my partner no 

romantically coded gifts (flowers, chocolates ect) yes

dancing no 

bed sharing (non-affectionate) yes 

bed sharing (cuddling) yes

tucking my partner maybe 

being tucked maybe 

living together yes

platonic marriage maybe 

raising children together yes 

Having pets together yes 

other stipulations/concerns 

 

 

 

 

 

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Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): no
Kissing (mouth): idk (I would say no but at the same time I haven't actually kissed mouth-to-mouth)
Hand holding: no
Cuddling: maybe
Hugging: maybe
Other affectionate touching: idk
Hugging in public: no
Cuddling in public: no
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: yes (not all the time though)
Kissing (mouth) in public: idk
Hand holding in public: maybe (if we can get lost in a crowd)
Other affectionate touch in public: no
Eye gazing: idk
Crying on: no
Being cried on: maybe
Massage (giving): yes
Massage (receiving): yes
Hair brushing (giving): no
Hair brushing (receiving): no
Nail painting (giving): maybe
Nail painting (receiving): maybe
Shaving (giving): no 
Shaving (receiving): no 
Bathing together (with bathing suits): yes
Bathing together (naked): maybe
Seeing my partner naked: maybe 
My partner seeing me naked: maybe
Feeding my partner: maybe
Being fed by my partner: maybe
Tickling (being tickled): no 
Tickling (doing the tickling): maybe 
Terms of endearment: maybe
Being called “best friend”: yes
Being called “partner”: yes
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): maybe
Me having other platonic partners: yes
My partner having other platonic partners: yes
Me having other romantic partners: no
My partner having other romantic partners: no
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: maybe
Me doing sexual things with someone else: no
Touching my partner sexually: maybe
Being touched by my partner sexually: maybe
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: maybe (probably more sensual stuff and barely having skin contact) 
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: maybe (it depends what that might be)
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: maybe?
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): no
Dancing: maybe
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): yes
Bed sharing (cuddling): maybe
Tucking my partner in: maybe
Being tucked in: maybe
Living together: yes
[Platonic] marriage: yes
Raising children together: no
Having pets together: yes

Other stipulations/concerns: Must be willing to compromise depending on sexual and romantic orientation.

 

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Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): yes
Kissing (mouth): lips dry
Hand holding: yes 
Cuddling: yes
Hugging: yes not too long
Other affectionate touching: no
Hugging in public: no
Cuddling in public: no
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: yes (important for LGBT visibility here)
Kissing (mouth) in public: lips dry
Hand holding in public: yes (important for LGBT visibility here, useful in large crowds)
Other affectionate touch in public: no
Eye gazing: no
Crying on: yes
Being cried on: yes
Massage (giving): yes
Massage (receiving): no
Hair brushing (giving): no
Hair brushing (receiving): no
Nail painting (giving): maybe to a friend
Nail painting (receiving): yes professionally
Shaving (giving): no 
Shaving (receiving): no 
Bathing together (with bathing suits): no
Bathing together (naked): no
Seeing my partner naked: yes
My partner seeing me naked: yes
Feeding my partner: no
Being fed by my partner: no
Tickling (being tickled): no 
Tickling (doing the tickling): no
Terms of endearment: no, feels fake doing so 
Being called “best friend”: yes
Being called “partner”: yes
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): no
Me having other platonic partners: no, one at a time
My partner having other platonic partners: no
Me having other romantic partners: no
My partner having other romantic partners: no
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: no
Me doing sexual things with someone else: no
Touching my partner sexually: no
Being touched by my partner sexually: yes, within sensory limits
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: yes, within sensory limits, if well enough
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: yes, furry fetish, femboyism fetish
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: yes, submissive worship, plush worship
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): no
Dancing: no, physically impossible
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): yes
Bed sharing (cuddling): yes
Tucking my partner in: no
Being tucked in: no
Living together: no
[Platonic] marriage: no
Raising children together: no
Having pets together: no

 

Other stipulations/concerns: Must be willing to compromise, must be able to go without sex or any contact for long stretches of time, dependent on my libido, pain, mood and readiness.

 

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Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): yes
Kissing (mouth): maybe
Hand holding: yes 
Cuddling: yes
Hugging: yes
Other affectionate touching: no
Hugging in public: yes
Cuddling in public: probably not
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: yeah
Kissing (mouth) in public: don't know
Hand holding in public: yes
Other affectionate touch in public: no
Eye gazing: no
Crying on: yes
Being cried on: yes
Massage (giving): yes
Massage (receiving): no
Hair brushing (giving): no
Hair brushing (receiving): no
Nail painting (giving): yes, as long as they don't want it to artistic 
Nail painting (receiving): yes why not
Shaving (giving): no 
Shaving (receiving): no 
Bathing together (with bathing suits): no
Bathing together (naked): no
Seeing my partner naked: maybe
My partner seeing me naked: maybe
Feeding my partner: no
Being fed by my partner: no
Tickling (being tickled): yes
Tickling (doing the tickling): yes
Terms of endearment: don't know
Being called “best friend”: yes
Being called “partner”: yes
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): yes
Me having other platonic partners: no just one
My partner having other platonic partners: no
Me having other romantic partners: no
My partner having other romantic partners: no
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: no
Me doing sexual things with someone else: no
Touching my partner sexually: no
Being touched by my partner sexually: no
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: no
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]:yes, furry and cosplay
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): yes
Dancing: yes, if they wear steel capped boots lol 
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): yes
Bed sharing (cuddling): yes
Tucking my partner in: no
Being tucked in: no
Living together: yes
[Platonic] marriage: no
Raising children together: no 
Having pets together: yes

 

Other stipulations/concerns: both being able to compromise without trying to break set boundaries. And keeping communication open, ideas and views change as we grow.

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DarkStormyKnight

Interesting! I'll give it a shot. :)

 

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): yes 
Kissing (mouth): yes 
Hand holding: yes
Cuddling: yes
Hugging: yes
Other affectionate touching: yes
Hugging in public: yes
Cuddling in public: yes after some time
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: yes
Kissing (mouth) in public: yes after some time
Hand holding in public: yes
Other affectionate touch in public: yes after some time
Eye gazing: yes
Crying on: yes 
Being cried on:  yes
Massage (giving): yes
Massage (receiving): heck yeck
Hair brushing (giving): yes
Hair brushing (receiving): yes
Nail painting (giving): yes
Nail painting (receiving): no thanks
Shaving (giving): depends on where? 
Shaving (receiving): nope
Bathing together (with bathing suits): yes
Bathing together (naked): maybe after a lot of time...
Seeing my partner naked: maybe 
My partner seeing me naked: maybe
Feeding my partner: yes
Being fed by my partner: yes
Tickling (being tickled): very ticklish so it's going to happen eventually
Tickling (doing the tickling): yes
Terms of endearment: yes
Being called “best friend”: yes
Being called “partner”: yes
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): noooo
Me having other platonic partners: no
My partner having other platonic partners: no
Me having other romantic partners: no
My partner having other romantic partners: no
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: no
Me doing sexual things with someone else:  no
Touching my partner sexually: def wouldn't initiate
Being touched by my partner sexually: maybe, would have to feel very comfortable
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: maybe if was in a long term relationship
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): yes
Dancing: yessssss
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): yes
Bed sharing (cuddling): yes
Tucking my partner in: strange but ok
Being tucked in: strange but ok
Living together: yes
[Platonic] marriage: yes
Raising children together: I'm not interested but if partner wants then maybe
Having pets together: yes
Other stipulations/concerns

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totally late, but i wanted to try this!

 

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): yes 

Kissing (mouth): yes 

Hand holding: yes

Cuddling: yes

Hugging: yes

Other affectionate touching: yes

Hugging in public: yes

Cuddling in public: yes

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: yes

Kissing (mouth) in public: yes

Hand holding in public: yes

Other affectionate touch in public: yes

Eye gazing: not rly, but I'm fine w it ig

Crying on: yes 

Being cried on: yes

Massage (giving): yes

Massage (receiving): yes

Hair brushing (giving): yes

Hair brushing (receiving): yes

Nail painting (giving): yes

Nail painting (receiving): yes

Shaving (giving): no 

Shaving (receiving): no 

Bathing together (with bathing suits): maybe

Bathing together (naked): maybe

Seeing my partner naked: yes

My partner seeing me naked: yes

Feeding my partner: yes

Being fed by my partner: yes

Tickling (being tickled): yes

Tickling (doing the tickling): yes

Terms of endearment: yes

Being called “best friend”: yes

Being called “partner”: yes

Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): no

Me having other platonic partners: yes

My partner having other platonic partners: yes

Me having other romantic partners: I don't want any

My partner having other romantic partners: yes

My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: yes

Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: yes

My partner doing sexual things with someone else: no

Me doing sexual things with someone else: no

Touching my partner sexually: both are asexual

Being touched by my partner sexually: nope

Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: no

Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: yes, sadomasochism

Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: not sure

“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): yes!!!

Dancing: omg yes

Bed sharing (non-affectionate): yes

Bed sharing (cuddling): yes

Tucking my partner in: yes

Being tucked in: yes

Living together: yes

[Platonic] marriage: yes

Raising children together: yes!

Having pets together: yes

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