Aromantic/ Queerplatonic dating checklist

[SilentRose]

 I found this online and thought it'd be fun to give it a shot and see how others respond! It's basically a checklist for what you'd be okay with doing with a partner as an aromantic. Some of the questions are a bit odd but I love the concept. Here are mine...

 

 

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): yes 
Kissing (mouth): yes 
Hand holding: yes
Cuddling: yes
Hugging: yes
Other affectionate touching: yes
Hugging in public: yes
Cuddling in public: no
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: yes
Kissing (mouth) in public: no 
Hand holding in public: yes
Other affectionate touch in public: maybe
Eye gazing: no 
Crying on: yes 
Being cried on:  yes
Massage (giving): yes
Massage (receiving): yes
Hair brushing (giving): yes
Hair brushing (receiving): yes
Nail painting (giving): yes
Nail painting (receiving): yes
Shaving (giving): no 
Shaving (receiving): no 
Bathing together (with bathing suits): no 
Bathing together (naked): no 
Seeing my partner naked: maybe 
My partner seeing me naked: maybe
Feeding my partner: no
Being fed by my partner: no 
Tickling (being tickled): no 
Tickling (doing the tickling): maybe 
Terms of endearment: maybe
Being called “best friend”: yes
Being called “partner”: yes
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): yes
Me having other platonic partners: no
My partner having other platonic partners: no
Me having other romantic partners: no
My partner having other romantic partners: no
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: no
Me doing sexual things with someone else:  no
Touching my partner sexually: preferably not
Being touched by my partner sexually: maybe
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: maybe (some things I can enjoy, most things I cannot. Either way I don't truly desire any of it) 
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): yes
Dancing: maybe
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): yes
Bed sharing (cuddling): maybe
Tucking my partner in: maybe
Being tucked in: maybe
Living together: yes
[Platonic] marriage: yes
Raising children together: most likely not. If my partner's heart is set on it I'd consider.  
Having pets together: yes
Other stipulations/concerns

 

Anyone else? Super curious how others responds! 

 

[BionicPi]

Spoiler

 

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): meh preferably not
Kissing (mouth): no
Hand holding: meh
Cuddling: not sure
Hugging: yes - mostly as a comforting gesture or goodbyes and hellos
Other affectionate touching: maybe
Hugging in public: meh, see above
Cuddling in public: no
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: no
Kissing (mouth) in public: no 
Hand holding in public: probably not
Other affectionate touch in public: probably not
Eye gazing: no
Crying on: yeah, but I tend to avoid crying in front of others
Being cried on:  yeah - same as hugging, it's a comforting gesture
Massage (giving): eh
Massage (receiving): probably not
Hair brushing (giving): yeah
Hair brushing (receiving): yeah
Nail painting (giving): yeah
Nail painting (receiving): yeah
Shaving (giving): sure?
Shaving (receiving): sure? 
Bathing together (with bathing suits): no? I'm interpreting this as washing. If swimming, sure.
Bathing together (naked): no 
Seeing my partner naked: no
My partner seeing me naked: no
Feeding my partner: if they're unable to
Being fed by my partner: if I'm unable to
Tickling (being tickled): no
Tickling (doing the tickling): maybe
Terms of endearment: a little?
Being called “best friend”: maybe...
Being called “partner”: no
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): maybe
Me having other platonic partners: maybe?
My partner having other platonic partners: maybe?
Me having other romantic partners: no
My partner having other romantic partners: maybe
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: maybe
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: maybe
Me doing sexual things with someone else:  no
Touching my partner sexually: preferably not
Being touched by my partner sexually: maybe
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: i don't really want to
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: maybe?

“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): yes
Dancing: yes
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): no
Bed sharing (cuddling): no
Tucking my partner in: maybe
Being tucked in: maybe
Living together: yes
[Platonic] marriage: yes, also has tax and legal benefits
Raising children together: probably 
Having pets together: yes
Other stipulations/concerns:

 

 

This is in a spoiler to compress the page. A lot of things I said yes to aren't specific to a QPP, I have mostly the same conditions for friends. 

[Yeast]

I had a relationship with a female friend who was sexual. It lasted almost 20 years. She had several casual boyfriends but I didn't care. I don't think we ever kissed, cuddled or even held hands. I did become an intimate part of her life. We would often find ourselves sitting in her bedroom but I never felt aroused and my friend never did anything to encourage this. I remember one afternoon she asked if I could assist her with some personal grooming. I searched her scalp for grey hairs and pulled them out. I felt a bit like a chimpanzee grooming a friend.  I began acting in a rather chimp like manner and my friend found this funny. She died a few years ago but I've managed to meet a couple asexual friends. If I get to know them better it will be interesting to see how the relationship develops.

[Mae 🌼]

Spoiler

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): meh 
Kissing (mouth): yes 
Hand holding: meh
Cuddling: no
Hugging: yes (hello/goodbye)
Other affectionate touching: no
Hugging in public: no
Cuddling in public: no
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: no
Kissing (mouth) in public: no 
Hand holding in public: meh, preferably not
Other affectionate touch in public: no
Eye gazing: no 
Crying on: no 
Being cried on: maybe
Massage (giving): no
Massage (receiving): no
Hair brushing (giving): maybe
Hair brushing (receiving): not preferably
Nail painting (giving): no
Nail painting (receiving): no
Shaving (giving): no 
Shaving (receiving): no 
Bathing together (with bathing suits): no 
Bathing together (naked): no 
Seeing my partner naked: yes
My partner seeing me naked: yes/maybe
Feeding my partner: no
Being fed by my partner: no 
Tickling (being tickled): no 
Tickling (doing the tickling): maybe 
Terms of endearment: no
Being called “best friend”: yes
Being called “partner”: yes
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): not preferably
Me having other platonic partners: no
My partner having other platonic partners: no
Me having other romantic partners: no
My partner having other romantic partners: maybe
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: no
Me doing sexual things with someone else:  no
Touching my partner sexually: yes (dependent)
Being touched by my partner sexually: yes (dependent)
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: yes if I'm very close with them and feel I want to 
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): no
Dancing: no
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): yes
Bed sharing (cuddling): no
Tucking my partner in: no
Being tucked in: maybe
Living together: yes
[Platonic] marriage: no
Raising children together: no 
Having pets together: yes

 

I'm also interested to see what other people say. Most of my answers are based off the fact I consider touching with a QPR/QPP to be more affectionate which I dislike. I imagine some answers would be different when it comes to my best friend!

[AwkwardAxolotl]

I’m in a queerplatonic relationship, so I’m going to answer this both with what I’m okay with, and what is involved in our relationship.

 

(Spoilered for length)

Spoiler

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): not my thing
Kissing (mouth): not my thing 
Hand holding: I’d be okay with this, but we don’t do this
Cuddling: I’d be okay with this on occasion, but we don’t do this
Hugging: we do
Other affectionate touching: I’d be okay with this, but we don’t do this
Hugging in public: not my thing
Cuddling in public: not my thing
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: not my thing
Kissing (mouth) in public: not my thing 
Hand holding in public: not my thing
Other affectionate touch in public: not my thing
Eye gazing: not my thing 
Crying on: we do 
Being cried on:  we do
Massage (giving): I’d be okay with this, but we don’t do this
Massage (receiving): I’d be okay with this, but we don’t do this
Hair brushing (giving): I’d be okay with this, but we don’t do this
Hair brushing (receiving): I don’t think I have long enough hair to brush
Nail painting (giving): we do
Nail painting (receiving): we do
Shaving (giving): not my thing 
Shaving (receiving): not my thing 
Bathing together (with bathing suits): not my thing 
Bathing together (naked): not my thing 
Seeing my partner naked: not my thing
My partner seeing me naked: not my thing
Feeding my partner: not my thing
Being fed by my partner: not my thing 
Tickling (being tickled): I’d be okay with this, but we don’t do this
Tickling (doing the tickling): I’d be okay with this, but we don’t do this
Terms of endearment: we do
Being called “best friend”: we do
Being called “partner”: we do
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): dear/hun: we do, boy/girlfriend: not my thing
Me having other platonic partners: if I want to
My partner having other platonic partners: if she wants to
Me having other romantic partners: not my thing
My partner having other romantic partners: she does
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: she does
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: not my thing
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: she does
Me doing sexual things with someone else:  optional, if I find someone I want to do these things with
Touching my partner sexually: not my thing
Being touched by my partner sexually: not my thing
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if we do]: not my thing

Sexual kink with my partner [specify if we do]: not my thing
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if we do]: not my thing
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): we do
Dancing: not my thing
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): I’d be okay with this, but we don’t do this
Bed sharing (cuddling): I’d be okay with this, but we don’t do this
Tucking my partner in: I’d be okay with this, but we don’t do this
Being tucked in: not my thing
Living together: we do
[Platonic] marriage: I’d be okay with this, but we don’t do this
Raising children together: I don’t want children, neither does my QPP  
Having pets together: we do
Other stipulations/concerns

 

[ReyGraves]

8 minutes ago, AwkwardAxolotl said:

I’m in a queerplatonic relationship, so I’m going to answer this both with what I’m okay with, and what is involved in our relationship.

 

(Spoilered for length)

Basically the same here:

”Yes” is that I’d be okay with it. And then I’ll add “we do” if we actually do it

Spoiler

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): yes 
Kissing (mouth): yes 
Hand holding: yes, we do
Cuddling: yes, we do
Hugging: yes, we do (basically all the time, whenever together we’re rarely not touching.)
Other affectionate touching: yes, we do
Hugging in public: yes, we do
Cuddling in public: yes (we kinda of do, really depends of the environment as people still percieve me as female so they think it’s a gay relationship. So it’s more accepting then yeah, we do.)
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: yes
Kissing (mouth) in public: yess 
Hand holding in public: yes, we do
Other affectionate touch in public: yes, we do
Eye gazing: ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ (I do end up making more eye contact with her than anyone else and I’m more comfortable doing so but I don’t really think it counts as “eye gazing”)  
Crying on: maybe (I’m intensely uncomfortable being emotional in front of others. Most of the things that people would talk about in person, I would text. So in spirit, yes.) 
Being cried on:  yes
Massage (giving): yes (don’t know how good I’d be)
Massage (receiving): not really
Hair brushing (giving): yes, we do (I sometimes brush my fingers through her hair but not full on using a hairbrush. (But I’d be willing))
Hair brushing (receiving): She would run her fingers through my hair sometimes but I have really short hair so not long enough for that, but if I did then heck yeah, getting my hair brushed by someone else is awesome.
Nail painting (giving): yes
Nail painting (receiving): no (If it didn’t make me dysphoric I would totally be down for nail painting, I use to do it all the time never had my nails not painted for more than a day. (I’ll probably pick it back up after I start to transistion)
Shaving (giving): Nah (yes, if she wasn’t able to do it for one reason or another. Couldn’t say for potential future partners) 
Shaving (receiving): NA (I don’t shave) 
Bathing together (with bathing suits): no (mostly due to my own dysphoria)
Bathing together (naked): no 
Seeing my partner naked: no 
My partner seeing me naked: no
Feeding my partner: yes (She has a thing with other people’s germs on food so we don’t currently do this.)
Being fed by my partner: yes 
Tickling (being tickled): no 
Tickling (doing the tickling): yes, we do 
Terms of endearment: yes (sometimes I use terms of endearment with her but not often)
Being called “best friend”: yes
Being called “partner”: yes, we do
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): Yes (If the situation called for it, like avoiding questioning from family during parties or something)
Me having other platonic partners: no 
My partner having other platonic partners: no (I kinda want to say yes but in actuality I might get jealous)
Me having other romantic partners: Yes 
My partner having other romantic partners: yes
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: yes
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: yes (if she’s (or future partners) agree and is okay with it)
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: I’m not sure (My current partner is also ace so I’m not sure how I woud feel)
Me doing sexual things with someone else:  maybe
Touching my partner sexually: Nope
Being touched by my partner sexually: Nope
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: No
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): yes, we do (we exchanged Valentine’s Day gifts and she made matching bracelets of the queerplatonic flag)
Dancing: Yes (if a partner wanted to)
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): yes, we do
Bed sharing (cuddling): yes, we do (well, only once since her parents don’t like her at sleep overs much)
Tucking my partner in: yes
Being tucked in: ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 
Living together: yes
[Platonic] marriage: yes (If I didn’t have a romantic partner.)
Raising children together: I’m still a little on the fence on the whole children thing. But more yes than no, if that makes sense  
Having pets together: yes

 

[purpleandgreylife]

Spoiler

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): Yes

Kissing (mouth): Maybe

Hand holding: Yes

Cuddling: Yes

Hugging: Yes

Other affectionate touching: Yes

Hugging in public: Yes

Cuddling in public: No

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: No

Kissing (mouth) in public: No

Hand holding in public: Maybe

Other affectionate touch in public: No

Eye gazing: No

Crying on: Yes

Being cried on:  Maybe

Massage (giving): Yes

Massage (receiving): Yes

Hair brushing (giving): Yes

Hair brushing (receiving): No

Nail painting (giving): No

Nail painting (receiving): N/A

Shaving (giving): No

Shaving (receiving): No

Bathing together (with bathing suits): No

Bathing together (naked): No

Seeing my partner naked: maybe

My partner seeing me naked: maybe

Feeding my partner: No

Being fed by my partner: No

Tickling (being tickled): No

Tickling (doing the tickling): No

Terms of endearment: maybe

Being called “best friend”: No

Being called “partner”: No

Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): No

Me having other platonic partners: Maybe

My partner having other platonic partners: Yes

Me having other romantic partners: N/A

My partner having other romantic partners: Yes

My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: Yes

Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: No

My partner doing sexual things with someone else: Yes

Me doing sexual things with someone else: No

Touching my partner sexually: No

Being touched by my partner sexually: No

Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if Yes]: No

Sexual kink with my partner [specify if Yes]: No

Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if Yes]: No

“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): Yes

Dancing: Yes

Bed sharing (non-affectionate): Yes

Bed sharing (cuddling): Yes

Tucking my partner in: No

Being tucked in: No

Living together: Maybe

[Platonic] marriage: No

Raising children together: No

Having pets together: Maybe

Other stipulations/concerns: No

 

 

 

 

[south paw]

 

 

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): depends on my mood
Kissing (mouth): absolutely not 
Hand holding: on rare occasions when i'm super happy 
Cuddling: no
Hugging: yes...side hugs tho
Other affectionate touching: hahahahahahah.....getcha hands offa me
Hugging in public: side hugs, yes
Cuddling in public: no
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: on special occasions  
Kissing (mouth) in public: absolutely not
Hand holding in public: maybe
Other affectionate touch in public: no
Eye gazing: no
Crying on: no 
Being cried on:  no
Massage (giving): no
Massage (receiving): no
Hair brushing (giving): sure
Hair brushing (receiving): no
Nail painting (giving): sure
Nail painting (receiving): no
Shaving (giving): no
Shaving (receiving): no
Bathing together (with bathing suits): absolutely not 
Bathing together (naked): absolutely not 
Seeing my partner naked: absolutely not 
My partner seeing me naked: ABSOLUTELY NOT
Feeding my partner: no
Being fed by my partner: no 
Tickling (being tickled): don't touch me 
Tickling (doing the tickling): no 
Terms of endearment: just a little
Being called “best friend”: maybe
Being called “partner”: yes
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): no
Me having other platonic partners: sure
My partner having other platonic partners: sure
Me having other romantic partners: no
My partner having other romantic partners: no
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: maybe
Me doing sexual things with someone else:  no
Touching my partner sexually: absolutely not
Being touched by my partner sexually: absolutely not
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: absolutely not
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: absolutely not
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): rare occasions
Dancing: sure
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): maybe
Bed sharing (cuddling): no
Tucking my partner in: no
Being tucked in: no
Living together: sure
[Platonic] marriage: most likely no
Raising children together: maybe
Having pets together: maybe

[Silk Bones]

Spoiler

 

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): Yes 

Kissing (mouth): No, please....

Hand Holding: Yes

Cuddling: Yes

Hugging: Yes

Other affectionate touching: Yes

Hugging in public: Yes, just not too long. (Not a big fan of PDA)

Cuddling in public: No

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: Neutral stance, so sure but just a quick peck.

Kissing (mouth) in public: No

Hand holding in public: Sure

Other affectionate touch in public: I consider linking arms as another type of affectionate touch, so I'd say that's fine. I don't find having one's arm around me to be nice though if it's in public.

Eye gazing: Yes

Crying on: Yes

Being cried on:  Yes

Massage (giving): Hm, sure.

Massage (receiving): Im ticklish on my back so, maybe, maybe not.

Hair brushing (giving): Yes

Hair brushing (receiving): Yes! It's the best feeling ever to me.  

Nail painting (giving): Yes

Nail painting (receiving): Yeah I'm okay with that.

Shaving (giving): Like shaving facial hair? No. Not that I'm repulsed, I just don't want to hurt them.  Body shaving though, no.

Shaving (receiving): No

Bathing together (with bathing suits): No

Bathing together (naked): No

Seeing my partner naked:  Yeah, I don't mind it. I wouldn't really care, honestly.

My partner seeing me naked: Sure

Feeding my partner: Uh, not sure. I don't think so. Unless for medical reasons where they need help, I'm okay with that.

Being fed by my partner: No

Tickling (being tickled): No

Tickling (doing the tickling): For the sake of humor, yeah, but most of the time I wouldn't bother doing it.

Terms of endearment: When it comes to saying the "L" word (love) I feel weird being told and telling someone so, eh.... But I wouldn't mind saying it if it's needed. It just might come off half-hearted, in a mumble, or won't have much meaning. How I express that sort of feeling is by saying that I really appreciate them, I really care for them, or that I really like them.

Being called “best friend”: Yes

Being called “partner”: Yes!!!

Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): Yeah I'm okay with that too.

Me having other platonic partners: No

My partner having other platonic partners: Mm.. :s no.

Me having other romantic partners: No

My partner having other romantic partners: No

My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: No

Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: No
 

My partner doing sexual things with someone else: No

Me doing sexual things with someone else:  No

Touching my partner sexually: I don't usually do this, but if I'm not expected to, I can be a bit touchy (improper/pervy -cough-) sometimes (it never means that I'm sexually attracted though, ever). If I'm expected to, I tend to never do it. If my partner does not want to be touched in that way, I will never do it or even think about it.

Being touched by my partner sexually: Yeah I'm okay with that, as long as they're not expecting anything.

Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: You know, I've thought very heavily on this for years. I'd always prefer not to, and will try my hardest to avoid it if I can, but I can compromise to a certain extent if my partner needs it. Extra details on that part is being left classified.  (This makes me shudder though)

Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: I'm not into it, but same rules as before. It only depends, but I prefer not.

Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: I'm confused as to what would be a good example of this, so I don't know.

“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): Uh, sure. I wouldn't view it as romantic, but yeah sure.

Dancing: Yes

Bed sharing (non-affectionate): Yes

Bed sharing (cuddling): Sure

Tucking my partner in: Yeah, okay.  

Being tucked in: Umm, no. 

Living together: Yeah

[Platonic] marriage: Uh... I'd rather not get married, but sure. It's not a matter of commitment issues, I just don't like the concept of marriage.

Raising children together: I love kids, but I'm neutral on having children. If my partner doesn't like children, cool. If my partner does and wants to adopt, cool. I don't want to have biological children though.

 

Having pets together: Yes!!!

Other stipulations/concerns: I don't want my partner to always expect to have sex if they have sexual needs, or always expect me to do things. (nonsexual) 

 

 

[Ldlelee]

This is all presuming that I'm close enough to my partner that I allow them to touch me at all:

 

Spoiler

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): No.

Kissing (mouth): Only a peck.

Hand holding: Hell yeah.

Cuddling: Maybe.

Hugging: Hugs freak me out, so no.

Other affectionate touching: Possibly~.

Hugging in public: No.

Cuddling in public: No.

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: No.

Kissing (mouth) in public: No.

Hand holding in public: Yes.

Other affectionate touch in public: No.

Eye gazing: Sure?

Crying on: Yes.

Being cried on: Yes.

Massage (giving): No.

Massage (receiving): No.

Hair brushing (giving): No.

Hair brushing (receiving): No.

Nail painting (giving): No. (I suck at it.)

Nail painting (receiving): No.

Shaving (giving): HELL NO.

Shaving (receiving): See above.

Bathing together (with bathing suits): NO.

Bathing together (naked): NO.

Seeing my partner naked: It wouldn’t bother me, but it wouldn’t affect me, either.

My partner seeing me naked: Eh, maybe?

Feeding my partner: NO.

Being fed by my partner: NOOOOOOO.

Tickling (being tickled): Touch me and you die.

Tickling (doing the tickling): No.

Terms of endearment: YEEEESSS.

Being called “best friend”: Yes.

Being called “partner”: Yes.

Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): Sure, it doesn’t matter to me.

Me having other platonic partners: No.

My partner having other platonic partners: No. - ^ -

Me having other romantic partners: No.

My partner having other romantic partners: No.

My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: No.

Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: No.

My partner doing sexual things with someone else: Even though this wouldn’t happen, it actually doesn’t bother me as much as the others do. It just goes to show how important I think sex is.

Me doing sexual things with someone else: Haha, you’re funny.

Touching my partner sexually: Not going to happen.

Being touched by my partner sexually: Nope.

Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: No.

Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: No.

Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: Lol I don’t even know what those are.

“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): Nah~. Give me books or something.

Dancing: As long as it’s not slow dancing.

Bed sharing (non-affectionate): Yes.

Bed sharing (cuddling): Yes.

Tucking my partner in: Um, no.

Being tucked in: No.

Living together: Yes.

[Platonic] marriage: YES. We could get married and claim that shit on our taxes.

Raising children together: I don’t want kids, but if my partner feels otherwise, I may reconsider.

Having pets together: HELL YES.

Other stipulations/concerns: *shrugs*

 

 

[Kai99]

Why call it platonic if your including a sexual element in it? It wouldnt be considered platonic anymore.

[bkrdragon94]

Ooh, this is interesting! Here's mine!

 

Note: most of these answers could be followed up with "depending on the person."

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): yeah sure
Kissing (mouth): meh, maybe
Hand holding: yes
Cuddling: most of the time, yeah sure ok
Hugging: yes
Other affectionate touching: some maybe
Hugging in public: in limited quantities
Cuddling in public: no
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: no
Kissing (mouth) in public: no 
Hand holding in public: yes
Other affectionate touch in public: maybe
Eye gazing: heck no, that's creepy
Crying on: no
Being cried on: sure
Massage (giving): yes
Massage (receiving): yes
Hair brushing (giving): yes please!
Hair brushing (receiving): yes
Nail painting (giving): yes
Nail painting (receiving): yes
Shaving (giving): no 
Shaving (receiving): no 
Bathing together (with bathing suits): no
Bathing together (naked): no 
Seeing my partner naked: no
My partner seeing me naked: no
Feeding my partner: no
Being fed by my partner: no 
Tickling (being tickled): no 
Tickling (doing the tickling): no
Terms of endearment: sure, if they want to
Being called “best friend”: yes
Being called “partner”: yes
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): yes, for convenience
Me having other platonic partners: no
My partner having other platonic partners: no
Me having other romantic partners: no
My partner having other romantic partners: no
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: no
Me doing sexual things with someone else:  no
Touching my partner sexually: nope nope nope
Being touched by my partner sexually: heck no
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: no
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): yeah sure (I mean, who doesn't like chocolate?)
Dancing: meh, maybe
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): yes
Bed sharing (cuddling): maybe
Tucking my partner in: sure, if they want
Being tucked in: sure, if they want to
Living together: yes
[Platonic] marriage: yes
Raising children together: no
Having pets together: yes

[ReyGraves]

2 hours ago, Kai99 said:

Why call it platonic if your including a sexual element in it? It wouldnt be considered platonic anymore.

My understanding is that platonic is a feeling and the sexual things mentioned are acts. Whatever your sexual activity that doesn’t determine your feelings (maybe it can have a role though). 

 

Same way it asks about romantic things. Those are acts, not feelings.

[Correner]

Spoiler

Beginning with the assumption that I have a strong bond with this person.

 

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): Perhaps
Kissing (mouth): No
Hand holding: yes
Cuddling: yes
Hugging: yes
Other affectionate touching: Depends
Hugging in public: No
Cuddling in public: No
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: No
Kissing (mouth) in public: No
Hand holding in public: No
Other affectionate touch in public: No
Eye gazing: No
Crying on: yes 
Being cried on:  yes
Massage (giving): Yes
Massage (receiving): Depends, I'm a sucker for a head rub.
Hair brushing (giving): yes
Hair brushing (receiving): yes
Nail painting (giving): yes
Nail painting (receiving): yes
Shaving (giving): no 
Shaving (receiving): no 
Bathing together (with bathing suits): no 
Bathing together (naked): no 
Seeing my partner naked: No
My partner seeing me naked: No
Feeding my partner: If they are incapable of feeding themselves, otherwise no.
Being fed by my partner: No
Tickling (being tickled): No
Tickling (doing the tickling): No
Terms of endearment: No
Being called “best friend”: yes
Being called “partner”: yes
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): yes
Me having other platonic partners: no
My partner having other platonic partners: no
Me having other romantic partners: no
My partner having other romantic partners: no
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: no
Me doing sexual things with someone else:  no
Touching my partner sexually: No
Being touched by my partner sexually: No
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: No
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): I thought of you, so here are just the genitals of a plant...maybe not. I thought of you so here are manchineel seeds... sure.
Dancing: Depends
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): For talking yes, I sleep alone.
Bed sharing (cuddling): Perhaps
Tucking my partner in: Do they have the flu?
Being tucked in: Do I have the flu?
Living together: yes
[Platonic] marriage: yes
Raising children together: No
Having pets together: Depends

 

[Baam]

6 hours ago, Kai99 said:

Why call it platonic if your including a sexual element in it? It wouldnt be considered platonic anymore.

Queerplatonic relationships are just those without the romantic component. Sexual aromantic people also can desire to be in queerplatonic relationships. Most romantic relationships have a sexual component in it, yet they're still called romantic.

 

Romantic relationship: platonic+romantic+sexual or platonic+romantic (relationship with romance)

Queerplatonic relationship: platonic or platonic+sexual (relationship without romance)

[karnzter]

Spoiler

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): with consent, conditions and permission
Kissing (mouth): with consent, conditions and permission
Hand holding: with consent and permission
Cuddling: with consent, conditions and permission
Hugging: with consent, conditions and permission
Other affectionate touching: with consent, conditions and permission
Hugging in public: with consent, conditions and permission
Cuddling in public: heck no
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: nope
Kissing (mouth) in public: hell to the freakin' no!
Hand holding in public: with consent, conditions and permission
Other affectionate touch in public: with consent, conditions and permission
Eye gazing: with consent
Crying on: depending if it doesn't bother my partner
Being cried on:  depending on the situation
Massage (giving): with consent, conditions and permission
Massage (receiving): with consent, conditions and permission
Hair brushing (giving): depends, but with consent, conditions and permission

Hair brushing (receiving): depends, but with consent, conditions and permission
Nail painting (giving): maybe
Nail painting (receiving): no. I don't paint my nails anymore as I always wash the dishes and having them painted is just a waste as they chip off sooner from all the soap it gets exposed to
Shaving (giving): possible, but with consent, conditions and permission 
Shaving (receiving): I shave on my own only at the underarm parts. I don't really need shaving anywhere else
Bathing together (with bathing suits): depends, but with consent, conditions and permission 
Bathing together (naked): maybe; with consent, conditions and permission. Maybe not.

Seeing my partner naked: with consent, conditions and permission
My partner seeing me naked: with consent, conditions and permission
Feeding my partner: acceptable in a non-romantic and non-sexual way; but with consent, conditions and permission
Being fed by my partner: acceptable in a non-romantic and non-sexual way; but with consent, conditions and permission
Tickling (being tickled): gentle; but with consent, conditions and permission
Tickling (doing the tickling): maybe; but but with consent, conditions and permission 
Terms of endearment: would 'dude', 'bro', 'pal(ly)' or 'bud(dy)' be acceptable?
Being called “best friend”: yes
Being called “partner”: to be discussed
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): to be discussed
Me having other platonic partners: no
My partner having other platonic partners: to be discussed
Me having other romantic partners: no
My partner having other romantic partners: I can't tell right now
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: no
Me doing sexual things with someone else:  no!!!
Touching my partner sexually: with consent, conditions and permission
Being touched by my partner sexually: with consent, conditions and permission
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: maybe; but with consent, conditions and permission
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): I don't need gifts to express 'love', really
Dancing: maybe; but with consent, conditions and permission
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): with consent, conditions and permission
Bed sharing (cuddling): with consent, conditions and permission
Tucking my partner in: uhhh...
Being tucked in: ehhh...
Living together: yes; but must have separate bedrooms, bathrooms and offices/game rooms/libraries/nooks
[Platonic] marriage: heck to the yes; but with consent, conditions, discussion, explanation, realization and permission from both sides of the family
Raising children together: with consent, conditions and permission. I'm open to either having kids or not; and will also depend if my partner is open and okay to having kids whether biological, fostered and/or adopted
Having pets together: yes

I'm very 'picky' with mine. 

[Ruru+Saphhy=Garnet]

Mine:

 

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): yes
Kissing (mouth): NO
Hand holding: yes
Cuddling: yes
Hugging: yes
Other affectionate touching: no
Hugging in public: yes
Cuddling in public: no
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: no
Kissing (mouth) in public:  no
Hand holding in public: maybe
Other affectionate touch in public: no
Eye gazing: no
Crying on: yes
Being cried on:  yes
Massage (giving): yes
Massage (receiving): yes
Hair brushing (giving): yes
Hair brushing (receiving): maybe
Nail painting (giving): yes
Nail painting (receiving): no
Shaving (giving): no
Shaving (receiving): no
Bathing together (with bathing suit): HELL NO
Bathing together (naked): HELL NO

 Seeing my partner naked: No!!!!
My partner seeing me naked: ABSOLUTELY NOT
Feeding my partner: no
Being fed by my partner: no
Tickling (being tickled): no 
Tickling (doing the tickling): no 
Terms of endearment: yes

Being called "best friend”: yes

Being called “partner”: yes
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): no
Me having other platonic partners: no
My partner having other platonic partners: sure
Me having other romantic partners: yes
My partner having other romantic partners: yes
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: yes
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: yes (with a romantic partner of course)
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: yes
Me doing sexual things with someone else:  hell no
Touching my partner sexually: fuck no

being touched by my partner sexually: absolutely not
Having  sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: NO!
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: NO
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): yes!!!!!!
Dancing: sure
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): maybe
Bed sharing (cuddling): maybe
Tucking my partner in: no, unless my partner isn't feeling well.
Being tucked in: rather not.
Living together: yes
[Platonic] marriage: yes
Raising children together: NO
Having pets together: yes

[Kai99]

3 hours ago, Baam said:

Queerplatonic relationships are just those without the romantic component. Sexual aromantic people also can desire to be in queerplatonic relationships. Most romantic relationships have a sexual component in it, yet they're still called romantic.

 

Romantic relationship: platonic+romantic+sexual or platonic+romantic (relationship with romance)

Queerplatonic relationship: platonic or platonic+sexual (relationship without romance)

Except platonic means non-sexual, not non romantic. If your in a platonic relationship, that should mean there is no sexual contact between you. Why take a word that means one thing and make it mean the complete opposite of that thing?

 

Why not simply call it Aromantic Relationship?

[Galactic Turtle]

Here goes nothing! XD

 

 

Spoiler

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): NO
Kissing (mouth): NO
Hand holding: NO
Cuddling: NO
Hugging: NO
Other affectionate touching: NO
Hugging in public: NO
Cuddling in public: NO
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: NO
Kissing (mouth) in public: NO
Hand holding in public: NO
Other affectionate touch in public: maybe: NO
Eye gazing: NO
Crying on: NO

Being cried on:  NO
Massage (giving): NO
Massage (receiving): NO
Hair brushing (giving): NO
Hair brushing (receiving): NO
Nail painting (giving): NO
Nail painting (receiving): NO
Shaving (giving): NO
Shaving (receiving): NO 
Bathing together (with bathing suits): NO
Bathing together (naked): NO
Seeing my partner naked: NO
My partner seeing me naked: NO
Feeding my partner: NO
Being fed by my partner: NO
Tickling (being tickled): NO
Tickling (doing the tickling): NO
Terms of endearment: NO
Being called “best friend”: Sure...?
Being called “partner”: NO
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): NO
Me having other platonic partners: My mind is blanking at the use of "partner."
My partner having other platonic partners: BE FREE
Me having other romantic partners: NO
My partner having other romantic partners: BE FREE
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: BE FREE
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: NO
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: BE FREE
Me doing sexual things with someone else:  NO
Touching my partner sexually: NO
Being touched by my partner sexually: NO
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: NO
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: NO
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: NO
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): Can't say no to chocolate...
Dancing: K-pop dance choreography only.
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): NO
Bed sharing (cuddling): NO
Tucking my partner in: NO
Being tucked in: NO
Living together: If it's convenient.
[Platonic] marriage: If the parents ask for it.
Raising children together: NO
Having pets together: I'd like to have a cat again someday regardless!

 

I think I'm not cut out for this life. XD

[Rosendust]

As for me, I'd like the following:

• Hugging/Cuddling:Yes
• Hair Brushing(Recieving): YES PLEASE
• Massaging(both Recieving and Giving): YES
• Hand holding in public: Yes

But I know it's a slim list, but I'd like those things.

Regards,

Rosendust

[Baam]

2 hours ago, Kai99 said:

Except platonic means non-sexual, not non romantic. If your in a platonic relationship, that should mean there is no sexual contact between you. Why take a word that means one thing and make it mean the complete opposite of that thing?

 

Why not simply call it Aromantic Relationship?

Sorry, I mixed up the definition of platonic.

 

Regardless, a queerplatonic relationship has always meant a non-romantic but emotionally close relationship. From the AVEN wiki, 'A queerplatonic (or quasiplatonic) relationship is a relationship that is not romantic but involves a close emotional connection (platonic) beyond what most people consider friendship. The commitment level in a queerplatonic relationship is often considered to be similar to that of a romantic relationship. People in a queerplatonic relationship may be of any romantic or sexual orientation.' Personally I don't think adding a sexual component to a queerplatonic relationship merits yet another term for yet another type of relationship. A queerplatonic relationship already is an aromantic relationship.

[SilentRose]

13 hours ago, Rosendust said:

As for me, I'd like the following:

• Hugging/Cuddling:Yes
• Hair Brushing(Recieving): YES PLEASE
• Massaging(both Recieving and Giving): YES
• Hand holding in public: Yes

But I know it's a slim list, but I'd like those things.

Regards,

Rosendust

That's basically my top things I want too  especially hand holding and hair brushing 

[Rosendust]

2 minutes ago, SilentRose said:

That's basically my top things I want too  especially hand holding and hair brushing 

Glad to know I'm not alone!

[LouiseHope]

This is a great list. I hadn't really considered that the details but it would be super important to be upfront about what you and your partner want. 

 

I hadn't thought about things like painting nails and hair brushing but actually, they sound really cool to do with a partner. They were always the bits I liked best about sleepovers, so why wouldn't I want them if I considered a relationship with someone?

 

This sort of checklist actually warms me up to the idea of having a long term relationship with someone if we could agree to live more like best friends than requiring physical contact all the time.

[Allmark]

Um it seems this topic was made a while ago, but I've just recently discovered the idea of QPRs so figured I'd give it a go.

 

 

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): maybe
Kissing (mouth): no
Hand holding: sometimes, not for long
Cuddling: maybe
Hugging: sure
Other affectionate touching: a little
Hugging in public: yes
Cuddling in public: no
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: no
Kissing (mouth) in public: no 
Hand holding in public: sometimes
Other affectionate touch in public: maybe
Eye gazing: no 
Crying on: yes 
Being cried on:  yes
Massage (giving): yes
Massage (receiving): yes
Hair brushing (giving): ok
Hair brushing (receiving): no
Nail painting (giving): no
Nail painting (receiving): no
Shaving (giving): definitely not
Shaving (receiving): definitely not
Bathing together (with bathing suits): why though?
Bathing together (naked): definitely not 
Seeing my partner naked: not a big deal
My partner seeing me naked: not a big deal
Feeding my partner: no
Being fed by my partner: no 
Tickling (being tickled): no 
Tickling (doing the tickling): maybe 
Terms of endearment: maybe
Being called “best friend”: I have some baggage around the term... Probably not
Being called “partner”: yes!
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): maybe
Me having other platonic partners: maybe
My partner having other platonic partners: maybe
Me having other romantic partners: no
My partner having other romantic partners: no
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: depends
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: no
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: possibly ok
Me doing sexual things with someone else:  no
Touching my partner sexually: no
Being touched by my partner sexually: no
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: no thank you 
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): I mean I'll take chocolate. It doesn't need to be romantic
Dancing: maybe
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): yes
Bed sharing (cuddling): maybe
Tucking my partner in: maybe?
Being tucked in: maybe?
Living together: yes
[Platonic] marriage: yes
Raising children together: I would like to adopt or foster kids. Preferably older. I don't desire a baby or toddler
Having pets together: sure
Other stipulations/concerns

[Firefly8]

Shaving (giving/receiving)!? WTF, that's a thing? No

[Divide By Zero]

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): No way
Kissing (mouth): No way
Hand holding: Maybe in rare circumstances like a funeral
Cuddling: Maybe on a cold day
Hugging: One or two platonic hugs a day is okay
Other affectionate touching: Probably not
Hugging in public: Maybe, depending on circumstances (a funeral would be okay)
Cuddling in public: No way
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: No way
Kissing (mouth) in public: No way
Hand holding in public: Maybe in rare circumstances like a funeral
Other affectionate touch in public: Probably not
Eye gazing: That's creepy
Crying on: Maybe in rare circumstances like a death
Being cried on:  Maybe in rare circumstances like a death
Massage (giving): No way
Massage (receiving): Yes, if from a registered massage therapist
Hair brushing (giving): Maybe
Hair brushing (receiving): Maybe
Nail painting (giving): Maybe
Nail painting (receiving): Maybe
Shaving (giving): WTF???
Shaving (receiving): WTF???
Bathing together (with bathing suits): Yes, if it's a hot tub or a swimming pool
Bathing together (naked): No way
Seeing my partner naked: No way
My partner seeing me naked: No way
Feeding my partner: No
Being fed by my partner: No
Tickling (being tickled): No
Tickling (doing the tickling): No
Terms of endearment: No
Being called “best friend”: Yes
Being called “partner”: Maybe
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): No
Me having other platonic partners: No
My partner having other platonic partners: No
Me having other romantic partners: No
My partner having other romantic partners: No
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: No
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: No
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: No
Me doing sexual things with someone else:  No way
Touching my partner sexually: No way
Being touched by my partner sexually: No way
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: No way
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: No way
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: Maybe
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): No
Dancing: Probably not a good idea since I have two left feet
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): Only in an emergency (e.g. it's late at night, there's only one motel in town, there's only one room left, and the room only has one bed)
Bed sharing (cuddling): No
Tucking my partner in: No
Being tucked in: No
Living together: Maybe
[Platonic] marriage: Maybe
Raising children together: No way
Having pets together: No
Other stipulations/concerns: Must be ace, aro, nerdy, and like cake

[Pumpkins_and_penguins]

 

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): Yes
Kissing (mouth): Maybe
Hand holding: Yes
Cuddling: Yes
Hugging: Yes
Other affectionate touching: Yes
Hugging in public: Yes
Cuddling in public: Yes
Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: Maybe
Kissing (mouth) in public: Maybe
Hand holding in public: Yes
Other affectionate touch in public: Yes
Eye gazing: Maybe
Crying on: Yes
Being cried on:  Yes
Massage (giving): Yes

Massage (receiving): Yes
Hair brushing (giving): Maybe
Hair brushing (receiving): Maybe
Nail painting (giving): No
Nail painting (receiving): Maybe
Shaving (giving): No
Shaving (receiving): No
Bathing together (with bathing suits): Maybe
Bathing together (naked): Maybe
Seeing my partner naked: Maybe
My partner seeing me naked: Maybe
Feeding my partner: No
Being fed by my partner: No
Tickling (being tickled): No
Tickling (doing the tickling): No
Terms of endearment: Yes
Being called “best friend”: Yes
Being called “partner”: Yes
Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): Maybe
Me having other platonic partners: No
My partner having other platonic partners: No
Me having other romantic partners: No
My partner having other romantic partners: No
My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: No
Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: No
My partner doing sexual things with someone else: Maybe
Me doing sexual things with someone else:  No
Touching my partner sexually: No
Being touched by my partner sexually: No
Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: No
Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: No
Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: No
“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): Yes
Dancing: Yes
Bed sharing (non-affectionate): Yes
Bed sharing (cuddling): Yes
Tucking my partner in: Maybe
Being tucked in: Maybe
Living together: Yes
[Platonic] marriage: Maybe
Raising children together: Maybe
Having pets together: Maybe
Other stipulations/concerns

[Shardz]

I don't have a QP yet but I'll do this list cus why not

 

 

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc): maybe

Kissing (mouth): nope

Hand holding: maybe if they ask first

Cuddling: maybe if they ask first

Hugging: yes

Other affectionate touching: maybe if they ask first

Hugging in public: yes

Cuddling in public: hell nah

Kissing (forehead, cheek, etc) in public: no

Kissing (mouth) in public: no 

Hand holding in public: maybe if they ask first

Other affectionate touch in public: maybe if they ask first

Eye gazing: NO

Crying on: yes 

Being cried on:  yes

Massage (giving): yes

Massage (receiving): yes

Hair brushing (giving): yes

Hair brushing (receiving): yes

Nail painting (giving): yes

Nail painting (receiving): maybe if they ask first

Shaving (giving): no 

Shaving (receiving): no 

Bathing together (with bathing suits): no 

Bathing together (naked): no 

Seeing my partner naked: nope!

My partner seeing me naked: nope

Feeding my partner: no

Being fed by my partner: no 

Tickling (being tickled): maybe if they ask first

Tickling (doing the tickling): maybe if they ask first

Terms of endearment: nope

Being called “best friend”: yes

Being called “partner”: maybe if they just use queerplatonic partner

Being called romantically-coded words (boyfriend, girlfriend, etc): nope but only queerplatonic partner

Me having other platonic partners: depends on my partner

My partner having other platonic partners: sure

Me having other romantic partners: well I am ace and lith so I don’t have these

My partner having other romantic partners: sure

My partner doing romantic-coded things with someone else: sure I don’t care

Me doing romantic-coded things with someone else: nah

My partner doing sexual things with someone else: meh

Me doing sexual things with someone else:  no!

Touching my partner sexually: ew and a no

Being touched by my partner sexually: no!

Having sex of any kind with my partner [specify if yes]: no

Sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no

Non-sexual kink with my partner [specify if yes]: no

“Romantically coded” gifts (flowers, chocolates, etc): I mean chocolates yes but no anything else

Dancing: maybe but I am a bad dancer

Bed sharing (non-affectionate): I mean like a sleep over yes

Bed sharing (cuddling): no

Tucking my partner in: slightly no

Being tucked in: no 

Living together: yes

[Platonic] marriage: maybe

Raising children together: I mean if my QP wants to adopt than sure.

Having pets together: yes

[kenny.]

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