Monika. Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 Hey, I have one, quite odd, idea, which I want to explore further. I think that asexuality might be, to some degree, related to ex/ introversion. So, it would be great if you decided to share with me/ others who you identify as. Are you an extrovert or introvert? Link to post Share on other sites
(Enigma) Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 I am in introvert. Although I am becoming less so as in I am wanting to be more social. But I an introverted in the way that I need alone time. Link to post Share on other sites
Astatine Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 I'm introvert. I need my alone time and being with people tires me and if I'm with a group I don't talk much. That's an interesting idea, I'm interested in others people responses. Although I'm sure that there are asexuals that are extroverts. Link to post Share on other sites
Lord Jade Cross Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 Im an introvert. Always have been ever since I was a kid and I will mostly likely always will be until I die because I simply cant be interacting on a personal level with people for any prolonged periods of time. Its quite literaly exhausting; like being made to sit through a long, tedious and boring lecture. While I could definately see how asexuality and introversion could go hand in hand, if (and its a very big IF) sexual drive is as its claimed to be, a neccesity which failure to indulge in causes severe senses of rejection and unfulfillment, introvertion would be put on a back sit, at least temporarily. Again, very big IF. Link to post Share on other sites
Baam Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 You'll get a biased result, as was received the last time a poll was done on this here. Or on anything, really. I feel like the demographics of the people who tend to use forums is going to affect the data in a significant way - and unless you can take that into account (which will be hard to do accurately), you may get the wrong idea from the proportion of introvert/not introvert responses here. As in, this is just a guess (maybe a stupid one), but I feel that it's likely that the people who use forums tend to be more introverted in nature. If you want more accurate results, maybe you could try and survey people from other platforms as well? I found that poll I was thinking of: I also found this other thread with more responses for you if you're interested: It's from quite a while ago, but doesn't really matter I hope. (I'm not avoiding your original question by the way, I'm not asexual myself) Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 I mean, this is an online forum so the majority of members are bound to be introverts. I don't think AVEN accurately represents asexuals as a whole. Link to post Share on other sites
Yeast Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 I feel a bit like the planet I exist on. Mostly calm and peaceful on the surface but further down I'm wrapped in a mantle of semi molten rock. At my center is a huge cauldron of liquid iron swirling with electromagnetic hurricanes. I'm tactful and reserved, despite the fact I have quite an ego. Sometimes I wish I didn't because secretly I always want to be the center of attention. I've tamed the beast within me though. My compromise with it has been that if I want attention I need to deserve it first. People don't easily intimidate me because I see everybody the same - just another pair of legs and a rectum. What I find most important is their other end. My feline independence makes me seem an introvert but the truth is that I simply choose my friends very carefully. If I attend social gatherings I can easily talk to complete strangers although I usually prefer to start the conversation myself. If they seem interested in me I like to talk. I talk a lot. So maybe I'm Donald Trump on the inside and Mr. Rogers on the outside. Link to post Share on other sites
awkward_one34 Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 I'm generally an introvert if I don't know you, but if I'm completely comfortable around you I will be the most extroverted person ever. My friends tease me about how they thought I was a quiet kid at first but now I'm one of the loudest people they know. I guess I'm kinda an ambivert that way. Link to post Share on other sites
Yatogami Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 I am introverted generally. I am just not expressive and like my peace and quiet. Link to post Share on other sites
kani Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 Somewhere in-between. Depends a bit on which definition we go by. I'm outgoing and social in general but anything more than polite conversation is a lot harder for me. I can be best-friends with someone for a day and then next time I meet them act as if they were a stranger. Generally keeping up friendships is hard for me as well and I enjoy being alone but I don't think calling myself either an introvert or an extrovert would be accurate. Especially considering you never know how they understand those words. Link to post Share on other sites
Epitaph Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 Introvert with social navigating skills. This may be long winded but I've toyed with my own ideas of aesexuality or what may play a role in creating it. For starters I think to some degree, some but not all asexual people haven't yet been exposed to the neccessary conditions to more or less ignite a sex drive. Human sexuality is prone to change over time as well as through outside stimuli and environments. In a sense, certain people have simply adapted to their environment. But what could be an underlying cause? I notice and have read that a large number of so called asexuals are depressed, were depressed, and may have a tendancy to lean towards depression. So let's follow the trail. You might be on to something, as once again, introverts are more susceptible to depression than extros and ambis. I don't believe being depressed would be the root cause, but it could be a key factor in the development of asexuality. We know that from birth until your early 20's, your brain is still developing and still highly moldable. And it is in the very early years of development that a human's sexuality is formed based on exposure both environmentally and socially. Notably, on a chemical level and a physical neurological one the brain of a depressed person compared to a normal functioning person is radically different. Pleasure receptors are starved for various reasons, either through a shortage of a certain chemical or there are simply so many pathways that your natural output of chemicals can no longer keep up with the demand. And as for introverts, while some are just introverted naturally, introverted tendencies and how far down the spectrum they slide are partially determined once again by environmental and social factors. Introverts are susceptible to depression, depression feeds and enforces introverted tendencies, vicious cycle. Depression and introvertedness are not the cause, but I think when mixed in just the right way together, in conjunction with certain childhood experiences can all result in a brain that's wired for staying away from people, and staying away from situations where some of the greatest possible harm to it can occur(relationships). Link to post Share on other sites
LeDeer Posted March 10, 2018 Share Posted March 10, 2018 Extroverted, although in some cases I simply refuse to socialize with anyone who gives me a "nope" impression. With peers, friends and in situations where I feel comfortable - I'm pretty easy-going and I really like to spend time with people, it's far better than staying at home alone and it also energizes me. If I'm around people I don't stand at all, like relatives or someone who looks too fake or has strongly different values - please let me leave now, it's far better if I don't hear/see you and you don't try to talk to me. Link to post Share on other sites
ExecValkyrie Posted March 11, 2018 Share Posted March 11, 2018 I'm introverted but not the shy type. I'm totally fine with hanging out and socializing with people, in fact I really enjoy it. It's just I do have my limits and get drained easily, especially the bigger the crowd gets. I need alone time often so I don't feel overwhelmed by life and snap on people I normally love to give my time to. It's all about a good balance and knowing my limits. Link to post Share on other sites
DJS05 Posted March 17, 2018 Share Posted March 17, 2018 Introvert. Antisocial. Detest gatherings of any sort, especially holidays. Two out of two exes will confirm. Link to post Share on other sites
andreas1033 Posted March 17, 2018 Share Posted March 17, 2018 Op you should understand we are all energy. Link to post Share on other sites
Cobie Posted March 17, 2018 Share Posted March 17, 2018 @Monika. introvert (INFJ-A) 17 minutes ago, andreas1033 said: ... we are all energy. That sounds interesting, I’d like to hear more about that. Link to post Share on other sites
SilentRose Posted March 18, 2018 Share Posted March 18, 2018 ...an introvert with decent social skills I suppose I do have a few good friends and I'm told I'm quite friendly, when I'm not feeling self conscious about my awkwardness. However, I really desperately need my alone time, I really enjoy being alone, and I despise parties. Link to post Share on other sites
Destan Posted March 21, 2018 Share Posted March 21, 2018 I'm an introvert with poor people skills. I've a lot alone time and I need that to recharge for whenever I go somewhere with people. Link to post Share on other sites
OhDearyMe! Posted March 21, 2018 Share Posted March 21, 2018 I am a very introverted person Link to post Share on other sites
OhDearyMe! Posted March 21, 2018 Share Posted March 21, 2018 4 hours ago, Rynar said: I'm an introvert with poor people skills. I've a lot alone time and I need that to recharge for whenever I go somewhere with people. Omg I am exactly the same about the recharge thing. I can’t count the number of times I didn’t go to a sleepover because I wasn’t bothered putting the effort in trying to socialise even though all I wanna do is be alone Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpy Alien Posted March 26, 2018 Share Posted March 26, 2018 Sexual and strongly introverted Link to post Share on other sites
Pramana Posted April 23, 2018 Share Posted April 23, 2018 Completing my rounds of answering all the repetitive AVEN threads, this is the second introvert/extrovert thread that I've answered today. My answer is situation dependent, but shading towards introvert. Link to post Share on other sites
borkfork Posted April 23, 2018 Share Posted April 23, 2018 Ambivert something. Link to post Share on other sites
Shihara Posted April 23, 2018 Share Posted April 23, 2018 Extroverted but I defs enjoy my me time Link to post Share on other sites
AbyssGaze Posted April 23, 2018 Share Posted April 23, 2018 Clearly introvert (sometimes I wish I wasn't). x) Link to post Share on other sites
YamiCake Posted April 25, 2018 Share Posted April 25, 2018 I'm an introvert, I like hanging out with close friends and family but I do need to recharge after. Link to post Share on other sites
Shay21 Posted April 28, 2018 Share Posted April 28, 2018 More often than not, I'm an introvert; I love being with my family and friends but I also don't mind alone time either. There are times where I can act a little extroverted, but it really depends on the situation and who I'm around. Link to post Share on other sites
StormySky Posted April 29, 2018 Share Posted April 29, 2018 Ambivert. Highly fluctuating. Link to post Share on other sites
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