pinkie Posted February 28, 2018 Share Posted February 28, 2018 So I am 16 and trying to work myself out. A lot of my friends have boyfriends and are starting to become sexual and my friends without boyfriends want to be sexual. I really love the idea of having a boyfriend but the idea of sex makes me very uncomfortable and I personally don’t see the attraction. I look at guys and think they’re attractive and I would like to get to know them and spend time with them but no more than that. I think I may be asexual and have read so much about it. Everything people have said I can relate to which is refreshing for me as none of my friends share my thoughts but I have casually brought it into conversation with my parents the concept and they just say I am a later developer and I will one day be sexual yet I really don’t feel like I will. They aren’t too accepting or understanding of anything to do with lgbtq+ ideas and I don’t want them to hate me, treat me any differently or tell me my thoughts aren’t valid. So I kind of just wanted advice on 1. Whether I am too young 2. Whether I may be asexual and 3. How to approach it with my parents Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Purple Wanderer Posted February 28, 2018 Share Posted February 28, 2018 1. - certainly not too young... but it is a weird time in everyone's life. and so much is subject to change - I'd hate to meet 16 year old me - you change sooo much in how you think and behave etc 2. - certainly what you describe sounds like your somewhere on the ace spectrum, 3. I wouldn't tell them yet unless your comfortable in identifying as ace 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lichley Posted February 28, 2018 Share Posted February 28, 2018 1) Day 5843, still no attraction. You’re fine. 2) No sexual attraction = asexual 3) Use a parent’s guide Quote Link to post Share on other sites
uhtred Posted February 28, 2018 Share Posted February 28, 2018 You might be asexual, but there are a lot of 16 year olds who enjoy romantic relationships but don't want sex - but will want it in the future. No need to define yourself now. Just act in ways that make you happy, and change if new things make you happy. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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