. . . .... Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 What would being sexually aroused by a specific gender be called? (not sexually attracted) Link to post Share on other sites
Puck Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 Erm... I would think that was sexual attraction If a certain gender turns you on in a sexual why, that would be sexual attraction. You don't have to want to have sex with them to be sexually attracted, there are a lot of kinks and stuff that are sexual without interaction. There are folks who want others to watch them masturbate, for example. Even though they don't want explicit partnered sex, they are still sexually attracted to that other person. Unless you mean you find that you can, say masturbate through watching a specific gender and imagining yourself as them? For example, if you watch girls in porn and whatever they do makes you sexually aroused because you see yourself doing what they are doing. Then that's more just the act getting one off and one gender being the vehicle that allows you to feel that. Or, am I totally off on both counts and you are thinking something else? Link to post Share on other sites
. . . .... Posted February 27, 2018 Author Share Posted February 27, 2018 16 minutes ago, Puck said: Erm... I would think that was sexual attraction If a certain gender turns you on in a sexual why, that would be sexual attraction. You don't have to want to have sex with them to be sexually attracted, there are a lot of kinks and stuff that are sexual without interaction. There are folks who want others to watch them masturbate, for example. Even though they don't want explicit partnered sex, they are still sexually attracted to that other person. Unless you mean you find that you can, say masturbate through watching a specific gender and imagining yourself as them? For example, if you watch girls in porn and whatever they do makes you sexually aroused because you see yourself doing what they are doing. Then that's more just the act getting one off and one gender being the vehicle that allows you to feel that. Or, am I totally off on both counts and you are thinking something else? As I was going through some forums, I kept seeing some say how sexual attraction and sexual arousal are different things and it made me wonder what counts as what. I think "You don't have to want to have sex with them to be sexually attracted" is what I was wondering. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Puck Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 2 minutes ago, Swiftly said: As I was going through some forums, I kept seeing some say how sexual attraction and sexual arousal are different things and it made me wonder what counts as what. I think "You don't have to want to have sex with them to be sexually attracted" is what I was wondering. Thank you. Ah! Yes, that is true. You don't have to be sexually attracted to someone to feel sexual arousal. For example, many women feel aroused at a certain part of their cycle. It's not aimed at a person, it's just vague arousal. If they are single, they might just masturbate to satiate the feeling, or find a partner if they want to. If they have a partner, they might use that partner to help them meet the need. Also, someone one isn't attracted to can arouse them by touch. For example, if a guy isn't attracted to a particular girl, she might still be able to "get him off" via a hand job. He was physically aroused by her touch, but not by her as he's not sexually attracted to her. Sexual attraction to someone is when a person gets sexually aroused by them in some way, be it their looks, personality, wit.... So the reason the two are separated as concepts is because someone an get aroused without sexual attraction. Does that help? Link to post Share on other sites
. . . .... Posted February 27, 2018 Author Share Posted February 27, 2018 2 minutes ago, Puck said: Ah! Yes, that is true. You don't have to be sexually attracted to someone to feel sexual arousal. For example, many women feel aroused at a certain part of their cycle. It's not aimed at a person, it's just vague arousal. If they are single, they might just masturbate to satiate the feeling, or find a partner if they want to. If they have a partner, they might use that partner to help them meet the need. Also, someone one isn't attracted to can arouse them by touch. For example, if a guy isn't attracted to a particular girl, she might still be able to "get him off" via a hand job. He was physically aroused by her touch, but not by her as he's not sexually attracted to her. Sexual attraction to someone is when a person gets sexually aroused by them in some way, be it their looks, personality, wit.... So the reason the two are separated as concepts is because someone an get aroused without sexual attraction. Does that help? I see, I see, that makes a lot of sense, yes, it does help. Also is there any term you know of that is similar to homosexual? Link to post Share on other sites
Philip027 Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 Arousal can happen on its own. If it's caused by someone else (and not in a direct way, as the above post pointed out), as far as I'm concerned that's sexual attraction. Some part of your senses is drawn to that person (literally what "attraction" is) and it's triggering a sexual response. Quote Also is there any term you know of that is similar to homosexual? ... Gay? Link to post Share on other sites
. . . .... Posted February 27, 2018 Author Share Posted February 27, 2018 2 minutes ago, Philip027 said: Arousal can happen on its own. If it's caused by someone else (and not in a direct way, as the above post pointed out), as far as I'm concerned that's sexual attraction. Some part of your senses is drawn to that person (literally what "attraction" is) and it's triggering a sexual response. ... Gay? That makes it very clear for me. (: also LOL it's okay. I wondered if there was some like uncommon word to describe homosexuality or something. I don't know if I'm comfortable with the word since it implies wanting to have sex with others. Link to post Share on other sites
Puck Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 2 minutes ago, Swiftly said: That makes it very clear for me. (: also LOL it's okay. I wondered if there was some like uncommon word to describe homosexuality or something. I don't know if I'm comfortable with the word since it implies wanting to have sex with others. I don't really go into the obscure terms, myself. I tend to find them to be focusing on the wrong thing. If you don't experience sexual arousal and don't wish to have partnered sex, that would be asexual. If you are sexually attracted to the same gender, that's homosexual. If you are romantically attracted to the same gender but don't want to have sex with them, then you could call yourself homoromantic asexual. If you don't want to identify as any of those, you can identify as whatever you choose. I sometimes just roll with queer when I don't feel like explaining things to people. Link to post Share on other sites
. . . .... Posted February 27, 2018 Author Share Posted February 27, 2018 2 minutes ago, Puck said: I don't really go into the obscure terms, myself. I tend to find them to be focusing on the wrong thing. If you don't experience sexual arousal and don't wish to have partnered sex, that would be asexual. If you are sexually attracted to the same gender, that's homosexual. If you are romantically attracted to the same gender but don't want to have sex with them, then you could call yourself homoromantic asexual. If you don't want to identify as any of those, you can identify as whatever you choose. I sometimes just roll with queer when I don't feel like explaining things to people. True. I guess terms are unique in whatever way we relate to them. Link to post Share on other sites
Puck Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 2 minutes ago, Swiftly said: True. I guess terms are unique in whatever way we relate to them. At the end of the day, every single person experiences sexuality differently and in nuanced ways. Terms exist to express to others how we feel. Sexuality has always been used to imply what gender one wants to have sex with when they want to have sex. Asexual is unique because the answer is "I don't want to have sex with anyone" while the other sexualities mean "I want to have sex with [X] gender" be that gender "my same gender, the opposite gender, either gender, any gender..." It has become a deeper identity thing, which is strange. But that's all it was ever supposed to imply, who you want to have sex with when/if you want to have sex. Again, hope that's all helpful Link to post Share on other sites
. . . .... Posted February 27, 2018 Author Share Posted February 27, 2018 4 minutes ago, Puck said: At the end of the day, every single person experiences sexuality differently and in nuanced ways. Terms exist to express to others how we feel. Sexuality has always been used to imply what gender one wants to have sex with when they want to have sex. Asexual is unique because the answer is "I don't want to have sex with anyone" while the other sexualities mean "I want to have sex with [X] gender" be that gender "my same gender, the opposite gender, either gender, any gender..." It has become a deeper identity thing, which is strange. But that's all it was ever supposed to imply, who you want to have sex with when/if you want to have sex. Again, hope that's all helpful I'm kinda embarrassed by my own nature. lol I'll consider viewing it like that, then. That's practical. And yess you've been extremely helpful! Link to post Share on other sites
Puck Posted February 27, 2018 Share Posted February 27, 2018 11 minutes ago, Swiftly said: I'm kinda embarrassed by my own nature. lol I'll consider viewing it like that, then. That's practical. And yess you've been extremely helpful! Aw, you don't have to be Sexuality is confusing and some people have weird ideas about it. But what's important is know yourself and what makes you feel happy and fulfilled! Good luck on your journey! Link to post Share on other sites
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