Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Hello everyone Im 17 years old and I’m lithromantic asexual . I’m hoping to talk to people and gain insights so don’t be bashful! Link to post Share on other sites
jnangians Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Hi, I'm 22 maybe aromantic asexual. I'm curious about this site and looking to connect too. Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 Well hello my friend how are you? Link to post Share on other sites
jnangians Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Doing well how about you? Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 Pretty good,so tell me your story. What’s your name if you don’t feel comfortable I get it. Link to post Share on other sites
jnangians Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 It's generic as anything so I'm fine. My name is Jenna. Uh lets see...I kinda stumbled into learning about being asexual. I never cared very much about relationships until highschool, but being weird in an overly nerdy sense and introverted I just thought that I may like people maaaybee. So basically I had one "relationship" where I thought I had feelings for someone and we had the most platonic relationship ever. After that I didn't really feel like rushing into another relationship but I did try another in college about 2 years ago. Same old song and dance but it did give some clues. After all in college people who want sex tend to put a little more pressure since everyone's an adult and there's more independence than high schools. Basically my ex-boyfriend, now friend was a very touchy kinda person and I'm not. After several months of hanging out semi-awkward attempts at intimacy, like thinking "oh he wants to hug, or hold hands" and feeling mildly uncomfortable with cuddly hugs and light kissing. Eventually we had a talk about the future and the expectation of more physical intimacy, I gave it my best shot at trying to be comfortable with that idea and couldn't do it. So we broke up but due to a friend mentioning it to me or coming across the term over the net I discovered more about it and here we are. I'm a-ok with it and now I like talking about it on a sociological and philosophical point of view. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucas Monteiro Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Hello and welcome to AVEN. I see that both of you are new around here, but don't worry about people bashing or something, we are really open to everybody. Here, the traditional gift from the forum, a cake : Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 I totally understand that. I also had one girlfriend but I just felt confined and trapped. I felt like when she would cancel I wasn’t sad I was more relieved than anything. I felt like it was just very awkward for me.Its hard because I have jock friends and all they care about is sex and it’s not even worth trying to explain things lol Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 Wow i feel welcomed, and looks delicious by the way Link to post Share on other sites
jnangians Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Mmm High school and be pretty hard, in mine even though it was really tame in comparison to others, no overt bullying or sterotyping cliques; it still had a very bubbly atmosphere. Everyone was expected to have a relationship with someone, 90% being heterosexual. Mostly an affluent white, Christian majority population. I would say I had a pleasant high school life but it never occurred to me that I was anything other than the "norm". Funnily enough the majority of my close friends now identify with the LGBTQA community. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucas Monteiro Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 14 minutes ago, Aiden_M4 said: Wow i feel welcomed, and looks delicious by the way Good to know . And this one represents the Ace of Hearts, that in the asexual community is a slang for someone who is romantic asexual. Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 I see. I have great friends and there’s cool people at my school it’s just no one understands what I’m talking about sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucas Monteiro Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 12 minutes ago, jnangians said: Mmm High school and be pretty hard, in mine even though it was really tame in comparison to others, no overt bullying or sterotyping cliques; it still had a very bubbly atmosphere. Everyone was expected to have a relationship with someone, 90% being heterosexual. Mostly an affluent white, Christian majority population. I would say I had a pleasant high school life but it never occurred to me that I was anything other than the "norm". Funnily enough the majority of my close friends now identify with the LGBTQA community. I know how you feel, high school can be really hard. I never thought I was different from the "norm", but it's truly funny, when we don't perceive something on our own way, sometimes it appears situations that push us to the point to look at them and see how much we didn't even knew ourselves. They can be good or bad experiences, but at the end we are here, and that's what matters. Someone who found himself, found a treasure for life. By the way, you could create a post on the Welcome Lounge about yourself too. Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 Hahah good shit man! Link to post Share on other sites
jnangians Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Have you tried to create a club? Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 I think I did? Lol and have I made a club? Link to post Share on other sites
jnangians Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Just now, Aiden_M4 said: I think I did? Lol and have I made a club? si Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 No I have not and I’m not a good planner or coordinator lmao Link to post Share on other sites
jnangians Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 ha well if you're feeling adventurous you could always try to talk about it with people you trust. I've had a few conversations with classmates from college when conversations have naturally wandered down that way and they've been a lot of fun. Most people just don't know about it at all, haven't even heard the term so it can be fun to talk about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 Hahah yea I have talked to people I trust about it and they accept me thankfully. It’s just been hard because I’m worried a girl will advance on me and I won’t know how to explain aromanticism to them and they will think I’m a freak. Link to post Share on other sites
jnangians Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Well, you could always just turn them down in the usual way. That way they accept the situation and you don't have to explain yourself if you don't want to. Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 wow It’s that easy. I over thought that lol. What state are you from? Link to post Share on other sites
mak Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Or you could do what I did and be so scary that nobody comes near you. JK, don't do that. If you do tell them what aromanticism is and they think you are a freak, then they obviously were not somebody that was needed in your life. You totally deserve better. Link to post Share on other sites
jnangians Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Texas, Allen, a bit more north of Dallas Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 Lmao and thanks your right I do deserve better *puffs out chest* Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 Oh cool I’m from New Mexico, the land of enchantment! Link to post Share on other sites
jnangians Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Fun! Well I have work tomorrow so I shall sign off for today and try to log on tomorrow. Night, Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 Nice to meet you Jenna and talk to you tommorow Link to post Share on other sites
Lichley Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Welcome! Hope I'm not too late to the party, but I brought some more cake Link to post Share on other sites
Lia Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Hello there, and welcome to AVEN! As part of my welcome to you, I'd like to point out some important threads that might be helpful in your first few days here. The Terms of Service is here. We recommend you read it over, and if you have any questions please don't hesitate to send either myself or any other administrator or moderator (the "admod" team, as we're called) a message. Also, there's a handy forum called Site Info, which has some useful information including a thread outlining who moderates which forum. If you ever need something done in or have questions about a specific forum, please message the mod of that forum. And if you have problems with the site in general, or any single member, please message any admod. The following are also nifty links to take a look at: Welcome Lounge Mini Manual | Welcoming 101 | Quick Guide to the Forums | Asexuality FAQ's Again, welcome to AVEN and I hope your stay is everything you hoped! Link to post Share on other sites
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