Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Hello everyone I’m new to this site and I just wanted to say hi. My name is Aiden Martinez and I’m 17,I’m struggling with something pretty complicated. I feel like I like woman and I’m attracted to women,but yet I feel no interest to go out of my way to find them, I don’t feel the need. Also I feel uncomfortable when intimacy is advanced on me which is odd because I should be welcoming it. I feel like I form these very powerful emotions for someone then when it comes down to it I just don’t follow through and I completely retract,almost like my feelings turn to the exact opposite. I’ve looked on the internet and they say this is called being lithromantic. I feel like I’m always In a tug of war with my mind, and it’s terrible. I really think something is wrong with me. If I could get insight,help and feedback that be great. Also id like to submerge myself in the culture haha. Link to post Share on other sites
TheAP Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Moved from Questions about Asexuality to Romantic and Aromantic Orientations. TheAP Questions about Asexuality co-mod Link to post Share on other sites
purplepassion Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Hi, Aiden! I'm also new here, joined just a few minutes ago. I've just recently realized my (a)sexual orientation, and to think that I'm already 41 so I think you should consider yourself fortunate for realizing it sooner I think there's nothing really wrong with you. It's a preference that not everyone will understand so being a part of this community is a blessing coz you'll get to meet people who will understand and will be able to help you. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 Thank you For the response and I just wish I could explain better Link to post Share on other sites
purplepassion Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 Take your time The journey towards self discovery is never easy but I'm sure you'll get there Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 Yea for sure. I just hope I do discover who I really am because right now idk what I am lol. Link to post Share on other sites
purplepassion Posted February 18, 2018 Share Posted February 18, 2018 I would call you uniquely special That's what we are so don't be too hard on yourself I know it's a bit confusing right now but as you meet more like- minded people here I'm sure you'll feel better about yourself. If there are meet ups or get-togethers in your area it might help if you join them Link to post Share on other sites
Aiden_M4 Posted February 18, 2018 Author Share Posted February 18, 2018 Awe thx, umm sorry I didn’t get your name. Also id have to definitely check that out, I wonder how I would organize that. Link to post Share on other sites
Asharee Posted February 21, 2018 Share Posted February 21, 2018 Hi Aiden! Sorry to hear you're having issues with being Lithromantic. In all honesty, I haven't found a way to cope with it quite yet! I've been dealing with it my entire life (I'm 21, and only realized I was asexual last year and Lithromantic this year!) but I think there's hope for us still! In Grade Four, when I was ten years old, I actually had a successful and fulfilling relationship! It lasted four months (insane for being ten years old, but it was truly special!) and I actually consistently was excited to be with that person, had butterflies, and truly was head over heels for them despite them liking me back. To be fair, I oddly ended the relationship because I was bored and I was very cold and cruel with how I ended things. I'm wondering why from that point on I've been unable to avoid my Lithromantic tendencies. Anyways, just know that there is a chance something could click with someone! Out of the many failed relationships/crushes, one of them didn't trigger a Lithromantic reaction, so I think there's hope 😊 Link to post Share on other sites
MissyLithy Posted February 21, 2018 Share Posted February 21, 2018 On Saturday, February 17, 2018 at 9:20 PM, Aiden_M4 said: Hello everyone I’m new to this site and I just wanted to say hi. My name is Aiden Martinez and I’m 17,I’m struggling with something pretty complicated. I feel like I like woman and I’m attracted to women,but yet I feel no interest to go out of my way to find them, I don’t feel the need. Also I feel uncomfortable when intimacy is advanced on me which is odd because I should be welcoming it. I feel like I form these very powerful emotions for someone then when it comes down to it I just don’t follow through and I completely retract,almost like my feelings turn to the exact opposite. I’ve looked on the internet and they say this is called being lithromantic. I really think something is wrong with me. Nothing, I repeat, NOTHING is wrong with you. As I'm sure your research has indicated, lithromantic (in a nutshell) means you feel romantic attraction, but when they love you back, you want to bolt. That's how I am. What I do is just chill for a second. I know I'm hardly going to "die alone" or anything because I have friends and family who love and accept me. If I never find someone to love romantically, then I don't. And that's okay. Just work on finding and loving yourself. Romantic love isn't the only kind of love there is. And it's definitely not the most important. Link to post Share on other sites
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