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I'm an old person (female)(almost 64) who has been kind of clueless and baffled by sexual stuff most of my life. Started out as a child prostitute for survival-had no idea it was supposed to be pleasant. Thought I might be a lesbian and tried that for about 20 years-pretty much the same just different equipment. Then I tried marriage-same. It seemed like sex was an obligatory part of any relationship, sort of like a cover charge so I paid. But the more people insisted that I enjoy it and the more they tried to fix me the more I disliked it. I am not new to knowing that I am not into sex.  I am very new to the idea that i am not broken and do not need to be fixed. I thought there might be a place here where I could try to see myself and the world differently. Thought I'd try anyway.

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I'm an old person (female)(almost 64) who has been kind of clueless and baffled by sexual stuff most of my life. Started out as a child prostitute for survival-had no idea it was supposed to be pleasant. Thought I might be a lesbian and tried that for about 20 years-pretty much the same just different equipment. Then I tried marriage-same. It seemed like sex was an obligatory part of any relationship, sort of like a cover charge so I paid. But the more people insisted that I enjoy it and the more they tried to fix me the more I disliked it. I am not new to knowing that I am not into sex.  I am very new to the idea that i am not broken and do not need to be fixed. I thought there might be a place here where I could try to see myself and the world differently. Thought I'd try anyway.

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Welcome! :cake:

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Welcome! I'm sorry to hear that you've had to go through some very bad times. But youre here now, and we will accept you no matter what. There's wonderful community here, incredibly supportive, and there are lots of resources here that can help you. It's always good to be open-minded, and I'm happy to hear that you've come all this way just to get a new outlook on life, and some well-earned acceptance. :) 

Have some welcome cake as well:

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Hello there, and welcome to AVEN! :cake:

As part of my welcome to you, I'd like to point out some important threads that might be helpful in your first few days here. :) The Terms of Service is here. We recommend you read it over, and if you have any questions please don't hesitate to send either myself or any other administrator or moderator (the "admod" team, as we're called) a message.  Also, there's a handy forum called Site Info, which has some useful information including a thread outlining who moderates which forum. If you ever need something done in or have questions about a specific forum, please message the mod of that forum. And if you have problems with the site in general, or any single member, please message any admod. 

The following are also nifty links to take a look at:  Welcome Lounge Mini Manual | Welcoming 101 | Quick Guide to the Forums | Asexuality FAQ's

 Again, welcome to AVEN and I hope your stay is everything you hoped!

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Thanks for the cake and the welcome. I am still learning how to do this forum thing. Is this how to say thank you?

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On 2/17/2018 at 3:15 PM, Lichley said:

we will accept you

Seems to be true and it makes me cry. I don't know why. It makes me really happy to read things people have written, things I have felt and said in my life too. Only here they aren't crushed. 

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