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Probably Asexual


orchidheart

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Hi, I think fit the definition of asexual but not completely sure. Either way, I'm still choosing to identify as heterosexual (I'm heteroromantic) so it's close enough for me... 

 

I'm in my mid-twenties and I've never had sex. I've never had the desire to have sex and men and women alone don't turn me on. Using my fetishes, I can be turned on in the presence of men and women but the fetish needs to be present. It's very easy for me to be "asexual" because I grew up extremely sheltered and most of my friends are similar to me. I was quiet, shy and nerdy in school and didn't really feel pressured to have sex. I've had a few boyfriends... None that I have liked (maybe because of my mental health challenges, which is a completely different thing).

 

I do not enjoy kissing, cuddling or holding hands. I love hugs and being held though. Porn is really boring. It's watching people perform the same movement over and over again. 

 

It feels weird to have this label... I've always seen myself as heterosexual (bc i thought it meant heteroromantic).  I told my boyfriend who insists it's not true. That's fine. I will just eventually reveal my fetishes to him so I CAN be sexually aroused when he is. Maybe if that happens then I will want to have sex? I'm not very assertive and I let him kiss me and touch me and stuff. At first, I really didn't like it but then I gave up and got used to it. I still don't like it but it's not that bad... I'm pretty sure most guys want to kiss anyways so I can't escape it. 

 

 

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Welcome! You can be asexual and still be aroused by fetishes and kinks. Asexuality is just the lack of sexual attraction towards other people, if it's sexual arousal and attraction due to kinks and fetishes then you can still identify as asexual. There's actually a whole area of the forums dedicated to that.

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