Flump222 Posted February 11, 2018 Share Posted February 11, 2018 So, I was just a small question about masturbation. I was wondering if one does it a lot, does one feel a lot less sexual attraction? Furthermore, can this lead one to believe that one is on the ace spectrum, while their feelings are only caused by this? Sorry if this is a stupid question, but I'm just wondering. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted February 11, 2018 Share Posted February 11, 2018 Action and attraction don't correlate. Link to post Share on other sites
Rafa Posted February 11, 2018 Share Posted February 11, 2018 I have the same doubt. From what I know till now, being assexual is about the lack of sexual attraction that you feel in relation to others and the lack of willing to have sex with anyone. So, I'm not sure, but I guess that masturbating doesn't make you less assexual, unless you want to have sex with someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Cnyb Posted February 11, 2018 Share Posted February 11, 2018 I've heard of people suggesting masturbation before a date to reduce sexual tension/pressure/anxiety, tone things down a bit because some arousal has been taken care of, but that's a temporary fix, a short term strategy to help cool off a bit and have more composure. I've heard of people who masturbated to a lot of porn and various aspects of sex with a partner became more and more 'meh' so they benefited from taking a break from porn. I don't think masturbation can make someone sexual or asexual. Can get a bit sensitized to this or desensitized to that, though. Link to post Share on other sites
Ldlelee Posted February 11, 2018 Share Posted February 11, 2018 Quote Masturbation actually helps keep your sexual pilot light on, says Megan Fleming, Ph.D., a sex and relationship therapist. If you get in the habit of bringing yourself to orgasm and experiencing that onslaught of dopamine, oxytocin, and stress relief, you won't start with a cold engine when you want to get revved up with a partner. Getting excited to get it on may not be a problem for some, but if you tend to have a low libido, solo sessions can help you know exactly what turns you on, Fleming says. There's more information about it in this article if anyone is interested. What you can take from it is that masturbation actually has the opposite effect; it makes you more excited for sexual activity. Furthermore, masturbation doesn't have anything to do with being asexual. People masturbate for a variety of reasons, but it's not always out of sexual desire. They might do it out of boredom or stress. Asexuals masturbate and have sex, but that doesn't mean that they feel sexual attraction. Link to post Share on other sites
Gldlynch Posted February 11, 2018 Share Posted February 11, 2018 Hey Flump222 Asexuality purely has to do with our sexual attractions towards other people, it has nothing to do with the sexual activities we partake in. All of our identities are valid! Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Deus Ex Infinity Posted February 11, 2018 Share Posted February 11, 2018 13 hours ago, FranciumSenpai said: Action and attraction don't correlate. 12 hours ago, Rafa said: I have the same doubt. From what I know till now, being assexual is about the lack of sexual attraction that you feel in relation to others and the lack of willing to have sex with anyone. So, I'm not sure, but I guess that masturbating doesn't make you less assexual, unless you want to have sex with someone. Indeed. Some aces may occasionally still experience an active libido they need to take care of once in a while. Masturbation is simply about covering your physical needs. It's not necessarily connected to sexual attraction towards other people as such so you must not worry about a thing. Being ace + masturbation is totally fine. Link to post Share on other sites
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