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Telecaster68

I think it's more about political correctness going mad (in their view) than anyone being attracted to them as more than eye candy.

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Alejandrogynous
2 hours ago, Adachiku said:

A friend of mine told me she kind of has a thing (no details) with her boss. Another friend told me she had a thing (apparently sexual) with her professor. I’m just completely baffled. They’re both strong, independent women, but they do such bs (at least I consider it bs - plus both of these men are/were married, so they’re jerks, too).

Or maybe two strong independent women made choices about their own lives like adults and not being ashamed of their sexuality is part of what makes them strong independent women in the first place?

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tygersongbird
On 2/5/2018 at 9:06 AM, Gldlynch said:

I don't get the obsession over sex and this culture. It makes me feel at unease when people ask me why I am NOT interested in a relationship or even a summer fling.

I know how to appreciate bodies, as if they are art sculptures. However sexualising them isn't down my path of life. However I will always wonder if someone can casually come along, snap their fingers, and change it...

 

Ugh, being openly asexual comes with its complications.

I agree with you. I don't know why people are so into this all the time. I mean, sure, people look pretty. I actually prefer them with clothes on rather than with no clothes on, all nude like that. However, why do people just go into sex-mania over it? Like, all I wanna do is zoom zoom in your boom boom. Basically, I just want to get you into bed under the covers. Well, isn't that lovely!

 

I tend to think that sex and love are incongruent, I guess. I think that you can love someone all the way and never once want to have sex with them. Plus, from what I've seen, it seems a lot of people only like their partners for their sex organs and nothing else. So...

 

Let's just agree to disagree. I just think love isn't sex at all. My love is saying "I love you" and giving all your heart to your love. It isn't a sex thing. Sorry.

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Simpleton001

I don't get homosexuality at all I don't understand it, I don't talk about it and it is the one thing I don't understand. 

2. Why would you want someone's saliva in your mouth how? 

3. Why would you want someone to give you heads and you would be visibly enjoying it and moaning hmmm I don't get it. 

4. Why would you say I'm sorry and expect things to change immediately. 

5. Why would someone rape anyone, sex is very commercial so why rape? 

6. Why would you disobey me and expect me to obey you at all?  The list is long

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tygersongbird
On 2/5/2018 at 3:25 PM, Ortac said:

I don't understand how someone can get pregnant, or get someone else pregnant, supposedly "by accident". 

 

"oh dear, our underwear inadvertently fell off and our private parts made contact with each other and now we've made a baby, but we didn't mean to it was only an accident... " 

 

Really!? 

 

I could never get that either. Like, you would just think you fell into bed or something. How did I trip into this bed and somehow my clothes just disappeared like Houdini? Wow!

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tygersongbird
On 2/5/2018 at 10:42 AM, gaogao said:

2) RE: The College Girl Sex List - I honestly think that document is a bad joke that got out of hand. I really doubt that the writer of that report was being serious about it in the slightest - it's riddled with sarcasm and humour that isn't particularly tasteful, but probably entertaining nonetheless to people who are familiar with the presentation format and the subject matter. I'm all for people having a sense of humour about their escapades and experiences and I think this is exactly what that document is.. even if I can't relate to it. As Homer says, one sexual girl who made the mistake of letting a very bad tongue-in-cheek joke get out beyond her group of friends does not represent everyone of the same orientation as her.

I'm sorry. I just can't see that. I don't think that this is somehow some rare thing really. Listening to a lot of comedians today,- like Tosh.0 and others- people really love to just brag on what how "wildand "nasty" their sex lives. People will also cheer them on and give them hand claps all the time. It's like people just love to brag to their friends about sex, because sex makes you a cool person. It's like they always laud and adulate that. I don't get it. Sorry. However, the majority do all the time. People think that is what's fun and funny, and that is what is supposed to be cool. It's not just "locker room talk". This is normalized behavior for sexual people, and everyone is supposed to just "get down with it" since they say it's cool. I never will.

 

I just don't get it. 

 

So, I'm sorry. I don't think this girl is a rarity. I think she is a representative of this culture at large.  It seems sick to think that way, but I believe that. I believe this culture is raunchified. How people are so okay with things being so sleazy is beyond me. Why can't other things be cool, really?

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WWIFlyingAce

So many things I don't understand.  Where to start?  Definitely the cheating thing.  Everyone knows that's just going to end up bad, so why even entertain the idea?  Kissing too; it's just gross and slimy and why would anyone want someone else's spit in their mouth?  Dog mouths are cleaner than humans!  I'm confused by "sexy" underwear, as Galactic Turtle said, what's the point?  It's going to come off and get ignored as soon as the sex starts happening.  My sister says it makes her feel good about herself, but I don't see how having dental floss wedged up one's derierre can make anyone feel good!  I also don't understand peoples' need to constantly complain about their relationships, and then never do anything to fix them.  It's as if they only get into a relationship so they can have something to complain about!

 

The world of romantics and sexuals is confusing.  I'll just go back to my cake now.

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tygersongbird
1 minute ago, WWIFlyingAce said:

So many things I don't understand.  Where to start?  Definitely the cheating thing.  Everyone knows that's just going to end up bad, so why even entertain the idea?  Kissing too; it's just gross and slimy and why would anyone want someone else's spit in their mouth?  Dog mouths are cleaner than humans!  I'm confused by "sexy" underwear, as Galactic Turtle said, what's the point?  It's going to come off and get ignored as soon as the sex starts happening.  My sister says it makes her feel good about herself, but I don't see how having dental floss wedged up one's derierre can make anyone feel good!  I also don't understand peoples' need to constantly complain about their relationships, and then never do anything to fix them.  It's as if they only get into a relationship so they can have something to complain about!

 

The world of romantics and sexuals is confusing.  I'll just go back to my cake now.

What kind of cake is it?

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WWIFlyingAce
Just now, tygersongbird said:

What kind of cake is it?

Triple layer fudge cake with chocolate mousse between the layers and bittersweet chocolate curls on top.  It's delicious.

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tygersongbird
1 minute ago, WWIFlyingAce said:

Triple layer fudge cake with chocolate mousse between the layers and bittersweet chocolate curls on top.  It's delicious.

mMM, Chocolate! Yay! My kind of cake.

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Yes, chocolate is the cake of champions!

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tygersongbird
6 minutes ago, WWIFlyingAce said:

So many things I don't understand.  Where to start?  Definitely the cheating thing.  Everyone knows that's just going to end up bad, so why even entertain the idea?  Kissing too; it's just gross and slimy and why would anyone want someone else's spit in their mouth?  Dog mouths are cleaner than humans!  I'm confused by "sexy" underwear, as Galactic Turtle said, what's the point?  It's going to come off and get ignored as soon as the sex starts happening.  My sister says it makes her feel good about herself, but I don't see how having dental floss wedged up one's derierre can make anyone feel good!  I also don't understand peoples' need to constantly complain about their relationships, and then never do anything to fix them.  It's as if they only get into a relationship so they can have something to complain about!

 

I don't get the whole "Being sexualized makes me special" argument. Like, why is that the key to your identity? Why is how you look the only thing that makes you a person? Why do you look to your body for getting love? It's like saying you would be absolutely nothing if you weren't having sex. Personally, I think a lot of people believe that about themselves, as well. That sounds disheartening.

 

It just leaves me confused when dealing with sexuals. It seems their identity is all wrapped up in being sexual. So, how do you find relationships with them, in that case? It seems rather impossible, if you ask me.

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WWIFlyingAce
13 minutes ago, tygersongbird said:

I don't get the whole "Being sexualized makes me special" argument. Like, why is that the key to your identity? Why is how you look the only thing that makes you a person? Why do you look to your body for getting love? It's like saying you would be absolutely nothing if you weren't having sex. Personally, I think a lot of people believe that about themselves, as well. That sounds disheartening.

 

It just leaves me confused when dealing with sexuals. It seems their identity is all wrapped up in being sexual. So, how do you find relationships with them, in that case? It seems rather impossible, if you ask me.

It seems like it would make for a very saddening life if you ask me, if I thought the only worthiness I brought to the world was how attractive I was and how much sex I received.

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YarisMum

I don't understand people wanting kids either. I love my Nieces and Nephew, they are my favourite people ever and I would do anything to help and protect them... But. After a few hours with them, I need a break. For hours I wont talk and just do things to relax and make myself feel better. Each time I spend time with them reinforces my want to never give birth.

 

Another isn't a sexual thing, it's spending every cent you have to impress people. Like buying the expensive tv and sound system, spending thousands of dollars on an over the top wedding (inviting people you don't like), a brand new top of the range car (that your terrified to drive in case it gets scratched), or never wearing the same thing twice when going out (I have a washing machine, its not like I don't wash my clothes). 

 

And duck face. Is that attractive to ANYONE? Ever?

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Hermit Advocate
On 2/5/2018 at 1:25 PM, Ortac said:

I don't understand how someone can get pregnant, or get someone else pregnant, supposedly "by accident". 

This made me think of this comic of how people "accidentally" get pregnant. 

 

Spoiler

Sex is no accident: MTV's Hilarious contraception ads

 

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tygersongbird
8 hours ago, YarrisMum said:

I don't understand people wanting kids either. I love my Nieces and Nephew, they are my favourite people ever and I would do anything to help and protect them... But. After a few hours with them, I need a break. For hours I wont talk and just do things to relax and make myself feel better. Each time I spend time with them reinforces my want to never give birth.

 

Another isn't a sexual thing, it's spending every cent you have to impress people. Like buying the expensive tv and sound system, spending thousands of dollars on an over the top wedding (inviting people you don't like), a brand new top of the range car (that your terrified to drive in case it gets scratched), or never wearing the same thing twice when going out (I have a washing machine, its not like I don't wash my clothes). 

 

And duck face. Is that attractive to ANYONE? Ever?

Yeah, i think the same exact thing. After hanging out with kids, I need a break to just get away. I think that I need to simply sit back and have my "me time". I don't get why not wanting kids is seen as selfish like that. I think it's personally mentally healthy, really.

 

And no, I don't see hwy people would like duck face at all. That seems so silly, to me. What's also silly to me are the Instagram "models". Honestly, they're models now? Most of the time what I see are nude photos or almost nude photos. Like, honestly, it seems like you're sexting the whole internet. How does that not make you a pornstar, really? You're just like people who are sexting (which is another thing I don't get). So, sorry Instagram "model", I don't think you're a "Model". You're basically a pornstar, really. It's gross to me, really.

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tygersongbird
On 2/5/2018 at 9:23 AM, Lucy in the sky said:

I guess sexual attraction in general makes my head spin, mainly ' oversexualizing' body parts, etc. I just don't get the excitement over it :P

You know what often happens for me? Everyone always talks about butts all the time and stuff, yet no one ever really tells me what all that's about. I don't know what a butt is all about, really. Like, why do people like them. I never know why they do that. I don't know what is the deal with butts. I don't even know why breasts are such a big deal. Maybe I've never seen them or anything, so I don't know what that's about. I don't know anything about sex, so why try to make logic of what is to me illogical?

 

It just seems like sex is just a way to brag about how macho you are to everyone, like you're somehow a man that accomplished something. It just seems like nothing but bravado or something.

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Telecaster68

There's a whole thread on butts here:

 

 

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GryphonLover

1. Kissing.  Just...yuck.

 

2. People prioritizing sex over a healthy relationship.  If they're treating you like crap, leave.

 

3.  Women really wanting to get pregnant.  Especially those not married/engaged: it's a huge, life-changing commitment, and they're deliberately going into it without a committed partner to share the burden.

 

4. Sexual attraction in general, I guess.  You want to do what with someone you know nothing about?

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Telecaster68
25 minutes ago, GryphonLover said:

4. Sexual attraction in general, I guess.  You want to do what with someone you know nothing about?

Which is why that's almost never how sexual attraction works.

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Lucas Monteiro
13 hours ago, WWIFlyingAce said:

So many things I don't understand.  Where to start?  Definitely the cheating thing.  Everyone knows that's just going to end up bad, so why even entertain the idea?

There is some theories that say that monogamy don't fit naturally for us humans, others point out that cheating is in our genes or that our own brain make us do this as you could be attached to someone but the part of your brain in charge of sex drive is focused on other person. But the thing is, there is too the people who just cheat cause of the excitment it gives to them, without their partner discovering they are doing it, so they are just assholes.

 

2 hours ago, Telecaster68 said:

Which is why that's almost never how sexual attraction works.

I do not agree partially. If we are talking about one night stand, that's almost how sexual attraction would work, but if we would focus on other aspects outside of this idea then I agree with you.

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Jade Cross
On 2/6/2018 at 11:10 AM, Telecaster68 said:

 

  • obsessing about murderers

Wait, what?

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Telecaster68
1 hour ago, Lucas Monteiro said:

. If we are talking about one night stand, that's almost how sexual attraction would work

Despite what most teenagers and especially it seems asexual teenagers think, most sex isn't one night stands.

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Telecaster68
1 hour ago, Jade Cross said:

Wait, what?

Someone said they didn't understand why some women are attracted to people serving sentences for murder.

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fuzzipueo
17 hours ago, Simpleton001 said:

I don't get homosexuality at all I don't understand it, I don't talk about it and it is the one thing I don't understand. 

 

5. Why would someone rape anyone, sex is very commercial so why rape? 

 

If you don't get being gay, then that's fine. I don't get hetero romance either, but it's none of my business.

 

As for #5: Rape is rarely ever about sex. It's about power and control. Forcing one's will on another regardless of their feelings.

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Lucas Monteiro
1 hour ago, Telecaster68 said:

Despite what most teenagers and especially it seems asexual teenagers think, most sex isn't one night stands.

Well, I still mantain my point, maybe most aren't based in one night stand, but some are and sexual attraction is basically what makes them happen or people who go chase one night stand will look for personality of someone ? And seriously, just go look at some date apps or similar to them, you will see that lots of people there would go for sex by one night stand.

 

http://www.refinery29.com/2017/06/157756/one-night-stand-casual-sex-facts

https://www.dred.com/uk/one-night-only.html

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/sep/28/tinder-serial-monogamy-casual-sex

 

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Telecaster68
1 minute ago, Lucas Monteiro said:

Well, I still mantain my point, maybe most aren't based in one night stand, but some are and sexual attraction is basically what makes them happen or people who go chase one night stand will look for personality of someone ?

Even one night stands aren't based entirely on looks - people do talk and flirt before they go off to shag; and they're not always selected on looks.

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Lucas Monteiro
6 minutes ago, Telecaster68 said:

Even one night stands aren't based entirely on looks - people do talk and flirt before they go off to shag; and they're not always selected on looks.

I agree, that's true that one night stands aren't based only on good looking, but they are the ones usually who makes them happen. 

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Ortac

Many of us will have seen news reports in the past about places in the world (usually places in Africa) where aids or other horrendous sexually transmitted diseases are at epidemic levels. These news reports refer to the fact that people there do not have access to condoms or other appropriate protection, and as a result, a horrific percentage of the population is affected by aids. People also end up having too many children that they cannot take care of, and these children are often also born with aids. 

 

As an asexual, I struggle to get my head around this terrible situation. I cannot understand why people in that situation don't make the rational decision that it may be best to abstain from having sex. If having sex could result in you getting a terrible disease which could ultimately kill you, why do it? WHY? 

 

I find it very difficult to comprehend how in sexual people, the desire or urge or instinct to have sex is so powerful that it overrides all rational reasoning that it may now be a good idea, especially if it is likely to result in the acquisition of a disease which could kill them. And it it is not as if sex is necessary in order to stay healthy or to exist... 

 

I have also seen news reports about places where people have no access to clean water, and they are forced to drink contaminated water which could kill them. To see news reports that seem to place access to condoms as being equally important as access to clean water... well, it frustrates me. Water is necessary to live. You don't drink, you die. Sex is not necessary to live. Nobody will suffer any adverse effects from not having sex. 

 

 

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As for #5: Rape is rarely ever about sex. It's about power and control. Forcing one's will on another regardless of their feelings.

I don't think non-rapists should try to speculate like this over the hidden motivations of rapists.  You (hopefully) aren't one of them.

 

Bottom line is, rape is a forced sex act, and there are tons of other ways for someone to exert "power and control" over another.  The fact that they would go for this one clearly indicates that, on at least some level, it is indeed about sex.

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