For Loners, Do you get lonely and how often?

[korik]

can I answer ".5"?

 

there are a couple of days at work where I am technically alone. I have friends at work, and I do love them dearly, but when they visit with me on my alone days, I am completely DRAINED. 

Having other humans within sight, (and even, sometimes, sound) is more than enough for me. I do not want/need the interaction. (the TV, or radio counts as 'humans within sight, or sound' btw.)

[hopeisnotlost]

I'm all over the place on the loneliness scale...Was going to put I am NOT a loner and I think of myself as Ambiverted but decided I would just mess with your poll

[SilentRose]

I voted that I was not a loner, but introverted...that describes me well. I have a solid group of three or four friends (the fourth is not someone I'm super close to but the other three are) and I actually am fairly friendly to my coworkers, and when I was in college I had a lot of nice acquaintances there too. I don't think anyone who knows me would call me a loner because I make a true effort to socialize to avoid loneliness and because I genuinely enjoy helping people and have true love for my friends. However, at the same time I've gone for whole weekends when I didn't talk to a single soul, spent every hour by myself drawing, painting, meditating, watching TV, simple stuff...I loved it. Possibly one of the best weekends of my life. ....not sure what to make of it honestly

 

[Mae 🌼]

0 - I could happily spend all of my time alone, I almost have to go into hibernation for a while after long periods of socialisation to recover...I find it exhausting.

[Guest]

On 1/20/2018 at 10:07 PM, Ultima said:

I am 0 for anyone who is wondering

This is old but I just saw it, so decided to comment. I went for 0 as well - I am actually incapable of experiencing the emotion of 'lonliness'  I have no friends offline, don't see or talk to anyone (other than when I drop my kids off at school, people try to talk at me but I rush out as fast as I can, haha) and I prefer it that way. I hate the idea of having a friend because then they'd want to come around to my house or something and it's like 'nuuuu stay away' lol. I do have a partner, but he lives 11,500 miles away from me and is exactly like me on the 'social' front, we just don't want anything to do with people at all  We watch a movie together every now and then on Skype or whatever, but I don't feel 'lonely' without that

[Cobie]

 0 

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[Tos]

i'm at a 2, by this scale. however, those times when i feel like talking to someone come when i want to talk about something specific, and often those conversations aren't possible with people i don't know pretty well, so i need to invest in friendships and socialize more often than i really need or want to in order to have people to go to when i am in the mood to talk.

[Ultima]

12 hours ago, FictoVore. said:

This is old but I just saw it, so decided to comment. I went for 0 as well - I am actually incapable of experiencing the emotion of 'lonliness'  I have no friends offline, don't see or talk to anyone (other than when I drop my kids off at school, people try to talk at me but I rush out as fast as I can, haha) and I prefer it that way. I hate the idea of having a friend because then they'd want to come around to my house or something and it's like 'nuuuu stay away' lol. I do have a partner, but he lives 11,500 miles away from me and is exactly like me on the 'social' front, we just don't want anything to do with people at all  We watch a movie together every now and then on Skype or whatever, but I don't feel 'lonely' without that

"but he lives 11,500 miles away from me and is exactly like me on the 'social' front" I have never been in a relationship, but if ever I were, this is exactly how it would work... Perhaps I would add an extra 500 miles. I prefer everything to be in multiples of 3.

It is very rare, to hear someone else say they do not ever feel loneliness even among people who call themselves loners. Its nice to know that there are at least a few people out there that who get it.

[MollyDMA]

I've been truly lonely only a couple of times and I only leave my house for school and work. I barley have any friends and speak to even less 

[Goonie]

I'm introverted and tend to be a loner. The amount of loneliness depends on the time of year and what else is going on. when I'm fighting inner demons, it's a higher level of loneliness 

[Strifed]

I voted as "I'm not a loner but introverted". I love having my time alone and I rarely feel alone. I just really enjoy my own company! I don't mind talking to people, but I get drained really quickly, no matter how good of a friend they are.

[Guest]

I get 'lonely' (the closest I can get to experiencing something like it anyway) when I'm around other people, I never feel lonely when I'm alone though :3 

[Guest]

I have had the same three fairly close friends for the past 3 years, so I've been more or less fine as long as we've kept in regular contact.

[Epitaph]

It all depends on what aspect of me is functioning on any given day. A surefire bet to make me feel lonely is to experience a memory related to some of my many deceased friends. I've been going three years now without human contact on that personal front. I've always been a loner for the most part, but I know that I need the connection with somebody. I'm a loner only because I simply have the ability to survive it, and I'm not super fond of trusting people. It takes a very long time for me to ever trust anybody.

[SilentRose]

I don't think I've ever really felt lonely in my entire life...if anything I have felt suffocated by people and pressure to maintain friendships and relationships. I'm definitely a loner at heart, and while I love my friends, some of them want to talk several times a week and that is overwhelming to me.

 

I greatly enjoy having friends at work and I go out to lunch with coworkers several times a week, which I enjoy. But when I get home I need a couple hours alone or I flip.

 

I like the concept of being alone together. I like having someone else at home but being able to do our own things and not constantly interact with each other.

 

Im getting off track...to answer your question, its a hard question to answer. I've never really been lonely, but I've also been surrounded by people my entire life. I've never lived alone or had a solitary job, so i don't truly know what its like to be really alone besides being by myself in my room for a few hours. I could see myself really enjoying the peace and solitude, but i could also see myself missing my friends who i really love.

 

And I do really enjoy seeing my old friends once or twice a month, so I don't think I'd be happy without that. Definitely a hard question to answer! Sorry for this rambling mess!

[erf]

I would've put 6 if I read the options more carefully before submitting my answer.(Still very lonely though)

[Guest]

I didn't realize I was lonely until I made some acquaintances at work. Now I realize I'm happy to have acquaintances (when I'm not questioning whether or not I fit in and if they actually like me) but I'm not sure about friends.

[Laplace]

I don’t get lonely unless I’m really bored. Otherwise, I’m fine. I like having fun with friends but I’m just naturally a detached individual. I don’t have any grand social aspirations, and I’m probably not romantic or sexual so I don’t have those desires to fulfill.

[divided_sky]

Lately it has been almost all the time. I have gotten severely depressed and people in my life that I thought would be there for me have not been. I feel abandoned and it is crushing me. In high school, I was always very lonely, but I adjusted to being a loner and now I prefer it. I still would get lonely from time to time and feel left out from society or having a normal social life. I mostly only got lonely about never being able to meet anyone to have a relationship with

It is overwhelming lately, along with some other things going on in my head, and I feel like I am drowning. I've not always been a great friend, but I have always tried to be there when people needed me (or just someone) and were struggling in life. Having seen that those people do not care and will leave me to rot, I am really feeling it the last few months

 

[Guest]

3 hours ago, divided_sky said:

Lately it has been almost all the time. I have gotten severely depressed and people in my life that I thought would be there for me have not been. I feel abandoned and it is crushing me. In high school, I was always very lonely, but I adjusted to being a loner and now I prefer it. I still would get lonely from time to time and feel left out from society or having a normal social life. I mostly only got lonely about never being able to meet anyone to have a relationship with

It is overwhelming lately, along with some other things going on in my head, and I feel like I am drowning. I've not always been a great friend, but I have always tried to be there when people needed me (or just someone) and were struggling in life. Having seen that those people do not care and will leave me to rot, I am really feeling it the last few months

 

Sorry to hear that ..It's not something that I relate to as loneliness just isn't an emotion I am capable of feeling, but it still sucks to me that others have to suffer with it :c 

 

 

[Guest]

Loner here! (^o^)/ Also a huge introvert! 

 

I went with 3. Seemed about right. It depends on a lot of things. I need my alone time, tho! Without it I literally stop functioning. 😣

[Salmiakki]

I'm a loner against my own will. I'm so desperate to socialize, have friends, to feel like I belong, etc but I can't even greet another person without feeling anxious. There are so many reasons why I'm just alone without really wanting to. I just want to be healthy and normal but that's impossible 

[Skycaptain]

Generally introverted, but I can "hide" in a crowd 

[Lunala]

I very rarely get lonely. I don't know, I'm just not very social, and I'm terrible the worst at interacting with other humans. Sure, sometimes I wish I had friends, but everyone thinks I'm too weird... , Oh well, talking to people over the internet is more easy for me.

My MBTI is INTP, so yep, I'm an Introvert. A very big introvert.

[iff]

@Ultima

 

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