newgirl Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 Right on Ziffler and I couldn't say it any better. :lol: Link to post Share on other sites
thylacine Posted January 13, 2007 Share Posted January 13, 2007 Honestly... I just don't understand why so many people in this society have such a big stupid problem when anyone over 14 is still a virgin. What is the big deal? Like, so they didn't have sex? So? With all the war, crime, poverty, disease, famine, global warming, your favorite disaster in this space here... why do people always go, "Oh my Gawd, you're a what?" Link to post Share on other sites
The Oracle Posted January 13, 2007 Share Posted January 13, 2007 Honestly... I just don't understand why so many people in this society have such a big stupid problem when anyone over 14 is still a virgin. What is the big deal? Like, so they didn't have sex? So? With all the war, crime, poverty, disease, famine, global warming, your favorite disaster in this space here... why do people always go, "Oh my Gawd, you're a what?" Ever since the sexual revolution, Kinsley's daring struggle to get us talking about, and sex education, it's just sort of become an expectation that everyone not only does it--but also talk about it. You'd think that there are more interesting subjects than it, but I think it comes down to expectation, perception of a fulfilled instinct, and generally indifference to anything not implicity related to themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
thylacine Posted January 13, 2007 Share Posted January 13, 2007 Re: Kinsey... Now it's coming out that he interviewed a lot of people in prisons instead of interviewing average people in society. His research may not have been accurate after all. Link to post Share on other sites
The Oracle Posted January 13, 2007 Share Posted January 13, 2007 Things just keep getting better and better for him. Sorry about my typo. Kinsey is, of course, who I meant. Link to post Share on other sites
dogmom Posted February 9, 2007 Author Share Posted February 9, 2007 Haven't been back here for awhile (computer problems). Have enjoyed reading all the responses and am pondering why I am embarrassed by being a virgin. Still were my Mother's teaching about "keeping myself for the right man" ingrained to the point that I never did "it"? or was it the fact that my first pap test so painful (and all susequent other ones) that I never wanted anything else up there the reason I have no sexual desire. Pondering :?: :?: :?: Dogmom..... but I like cats too Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted February 9, 2007 Share Posted February 9, 2007 Haven't been back here for awhile (computer problems). Have enjoyed reading all the responses and am pondering why I am embarrassed by being a virgin. Still were my Mother's teaching about "keeping myself for the right man" ingrained to the point that I never did "it"? or was it the fact that my first pap test so painful (and all susequent other ones) that I never wanted anything else up there the reason I have no sexual desire. Pondering :?: :?: :?: Dogmom..... but I like cats too Dogmom, Hi,It's been a long time scent i've heard from you and i like to say you're my role model. Link to post Share on other sites
dogmom Posted May 10, 2007 Author Share Posted May 10, 2007 LOL I've been away again in a computerless environment. I've sooooo enjoyed catching up on everything. Role model? LOL :roll: Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted May 10, 2007 Share Posted May 10, 2007 Yes! role model because most online virgins over 35 (excluded aven virgins) think their virginity is a curse and Dogmom, you're living proof your virginity is not a dealth sentence. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Net Posted May 22, 2007 Share Posted May 22, 2007 30 yr old female virgin :-) Link to post Share on other sites
M51 Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 I'm 26 and I haven't had sexual intercourse. I was beginning to think I was the oldest “virgin” in the world. Not that it’s weird, it’s just not that common where I live. :lol: I don't think it is common anywhere except monasteries and such places!! I am very much not a virgin :( but I love this thread. So far I count the following as "Beyond 40-Year-Old Virgins": Mackat - 65 Dogmom - 61 Islander9 - 60 Philip - 57 Ziffler - 54 Bug - 50 Tygrrheart49 - 50 Teddy Miller - 48 The SMMG - 43 Erita - 43 UnicornLady - 42 Thylacine - 42 DayTripperYeah - 37 It's not a competition; it's a celebration!!! Edit: Corrected ages. This thread is more than a year old and I did not look up anyone's birthday; just added a year to anyone who posted their age more than a year ago. If that makes sense. And I was originally just counting virgins over forty (because it seemed like a good round cutoff number and well, yeah, a little because of the movie) but Day Tripper wanted to be added and I'm a pushover like that. :D Link to post Share on other sites
thylacine Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 Hey... I'm 42!!! Okay... forget I said that. Can we please pretend I'm like 23 or something? Link to post Share on other sites
mackat5 Posted May 23, 2007 Share Posted May 23, 2007 OK, I was born in 1942, which will make me 65 this year. Link to post Share on other sites
DayTripperYeah Posted June 2, 2007 Share Posted June 2, 2007 Add me--37/never been kissed/virgin. I doubt three years into the future is going to change my status. ;) Unfortunately, I do see it as a curse. and I wonder "why me?". I don't get the 'why' of it all. I could understand if I was religious and I served God and was a Nun, but that wasn't my destiny. Geez, Paris gets to have sex, why can't I? Although, I wouldn't be a slut like she is. I just have trouble understanding why. It's not like I lay in bed all day and ponder this. I live my life and keep hoping Mr. Right will come around the bend, but he never has. That's my position in my life right now. Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted June 2, 2007 Share Posted June 2, 2007 I think Paris has a STD so i don't want to have Paris sex life :lol: Link to post Share on other sites
thylacine Posted June 2, 2007 Share Posted June 2, 2007 Hey come on, Day Tripper. It ain't that bad. Every morning I wake up and thank God for being who I am. I don't have the problems other people have... and... my friends who are married say I'm "not missing much." Just be happy existing. Link to post Share on other sites
DayTripperYeah Posted June 2, 2007 Share Posted June 2, 2007 thylacine--My friend who is married says that too. I just feel like it's the biggest burden I carry. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad I'm alive, I'm happy that my career path is turning around, but, I don't know why this eludes me. and I don't want to be like Paris, Lindsay, Britney, etc. I just don't get why they get to experience something they never ever once appreciated? Link to post Share on other sites
thylacine Posted June 2, 2007 Share Posted June 2, 2007 Day Tripper... do yah ever think that this "relationship" nonsense might just be all hype? All my married / non-single friends are completely miserable. I am not judging them, but that's how it is... I don't know why they are miserable, but I think it has something to do with the expectations they had which are not being met... People think they need to be in a relationship in order to be "happy" or "complete" because society tells them so. Society also tells women they must be anorexic to be beautiful. Society also tells people they must make $100,000 + a year and drive a bigass SUV and have all the latest hi-tech eqipment in order to "fit in" and "be successful." Society brainwashes people into having all these expectations about what will be good for them, but it's all an illusion. The only thing that's truly real is what you will find if you look deep inside yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
DayTripperYeah Posted June 2, 2007 Share Posted June 2, 2007 Hi thylacine, I'm glad I rejoined this board. I can't talk about these topics elsewhere. Yes, it is true many people are hardly romantic soulmates. It happens to very few people. Well, I certainly don't fit in the anorexic "ideal". Thankfully, I eat. I went a little off-topic there. I always did want my romantic soulmate and a child and not because society told me so. Infact, society, told me diddly. If I became financially successful, I could adopt a child. I don't know why romance has eluded me? Day Tripper... do yah ever think that this "relationship" nonsense might just be all hype?The only thing that's truly real is what you will find if you look deep inside yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Ziffler Posted June 2, 2007 Share Posted June 2, 2007 I don't know why romance has eluded me? May I jump in here with a couple thoughts? I may be totally off base but I wish to give some ideas from my perspective. Asexual/virgin/male. From my observances, most sexual males are not romantic, but sexual and most asexual males are neither sexual nor romantic. There are a few exceptions of course. A few men will romance a woman, but I think that number is very few. SO I think maybe looking for romance is a dream. I am not romantic by nature, but I can be romantic when I want to, the thing is, I never want to. I realize most women, probably, wish some romance in their lives. I'm guessing here, but from what I have listened to and observed that seems to be the case. The problem is, that most men, don't want romance. Or in the case of sexual men, the sex is the romance from their prospective. I think the desire for romance, is an allusion. It makes for a nice dream, and a great romantic novel, but I just don't think it happens much in real life. Ok, I'll butt out now. Sorry for speaking outta turn. Link to post Share on other sites
DayTripperYeah Posted June 3, 2007 Share Posted June 3, 2007 Hi Ziffler, No you didn't speak out of turn. I liked reading what you had to say. Romantic men are the minority that's for sure. Feel free to post anytime. :) Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted June 3, 2007 Share Posted June 3, 2007 I notice submissive men can be romantic??? Link to post Share on other sites
thylacine Posted June 3, 2007 Share Posted June 3, 2007 "I think the desire for romance, is an allusion. It makes for a nice dream, and a great romantic novel, but I just don't think it happens much in real life." You may be right. I sometimes think that romance is something they invented to sell candy & flowers & greeting cards... But seriously... people do fall in love, and some people find the right person and become happy-ever-after. And some people don't. If you don't, it's not a reflection on what kind of person you are. It's just the way the universe works... that's all. Link to post Share on other sites
DayTripperYeah Posted June 3, 2007 Share Posted June 3, 2007 newgirl--submissive men turn me off. I want someone who is my equal. thylacine--Yeah, but is it normal to be a never been kissed virgin? I don't feel normal in that regard. Link to post Share on other sites
roddy9uk Posted June 3, 2007 Share Posted June 3, 2007 "... But seriously... people do fall in love, and some people find the right person and become happy-ever-after.And some people don't. If you don't, it's not a reflection on what kind of person you are. It's just the way the universe works... that's all . That is exactly that. One cannot blame "Society's attitude" if you fail to find a soulmate. roddy Link to post Share on other sites
newgirl Posted June 3, 2007 Share Posted June 3, 2007 I've given up on dating and men so now i don't have to put up with men overlooking me anymore. :D Link to post Share on other sites
thylacine Posted June 3, 2007 Share Posted June 3, 2007 Is it normal to have never been kissed? Well, I can't answer that one... but listen, honey, a lot of people have much bigger and worse problems than that. If that's your only prob, be happy. I know people who are hooked on drugs and older than 35, I know people out of work and about to see their house foreclose, I know people who have cancer... if that's your only problem... Link to post Share on other sites
DayTripperYeah Posted June 3, 2007 Share Posted June 3, 2007 thylacine--Of course, that's not my only problem. I've had to deal with much family stuff, not all good. But it's still not normal in my mind...everyone gets their first kiss around 14 or so....or that's what I was lead to believe, until I found others in similar situations as me. Link to post Share on other sites
TeddyMiller Posted June 3, 2007 Share Posted June 3, 2007 I am very much not a virgin but I love this thread. So far I count the following as "Beyond 40-Year-Old Virgins": Add me to the list, TeddyMiller, age 48. Link to post Share on other sites
thylacine Posted June 4, 2007 Share Posted June 4, 2007 I got my first kiss at 18... and honey, it was boring. No kidding. It was. But hey, I'm asexual, so now I know why it was boring. Link to post Share on other sites
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