Blue Iris Posted November 12, 2017 Share Posted November 12, 2017 I am a 61 yr old woman who has had trouble feeling comfortable with sex all my life. Being sexual with someone actually made me feel I had to since it was expected, but felt very separate from the individual. All I've ever wanted was to find a companion, friend, confidant, someone with whom I could be comfortable minus the sex. When I was younger I knew instinctually this was not the way everyone else thought so made me feel as if something was wrong with me. It was just 2 yrs ago that I knew to name myself as asexual and it felt exactly right. I wish it hadn't taken this long to become comfortable with myself, but now I can be clear with others and myself what I need to have satisfying relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
LadyWallflower Posted November 12, 2017 Share Posted November 12, 2017 Hello! It's nice to meet you. Welcome to the website! I started identifying myself as asexual around 4 years ago. It wasn't so much becoming comfortable with it, but rather that I didn't know the term existed. It doesn't matter how long it takes you, but just that you make it there in the end! I hope you have a lovely time on AVEN. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Jetsun Milarepa Posted November 12, 2017 Share Posted November 12, 2017 Welcome @Blue Iris! hope you enjoy your time here ! It's a great site and you'll be able to find out everything you'd like to ask. Have some Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Iris Posted November 12, 2017 Author Share Posted November 12, 2017 Thank you for the warm welcome. Link to post Share on other sites
Skycaptain Posted November 12, 2017 Share Posted November 12, 2017 Welcome to AVEN 🎂 🎂 Link to post Share on other sites
Techie Posted November 12, 2017 Share Posted November 12, 2017 Welcome! It was four years ago when I was 51 that I finally figured out my orientation. I did not know that there was romantic and sexual attraction which is what confused me for so many years. I long ago resigned myself to the fact that I will be alone and there are times I woukd really relish it if not for being the support mechanism for family members. Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Iris Posted November 20, 2017 Author Share Posted November 20, 2017 I have been away so haven't been able to get back to you all. I am comfortable with my asexuality though there are times i feel so apart from everyone else. Link to post Share on other sites
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