Divide By Zero Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 I've never had a girlfriend (or boyfriend) and, in fact, I've never been on a date. I don't think it's unusual or strange because I'm aromantic (and asexual). I'm curious to know if there are others out there who have never had a girlfriend/boyfriend and/or never been on a date. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Bit Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Me. I rarely have crushes though, so I'm a Gray-biromantic Ace. Link to post Share on other sites
lazypanda Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Meee !!! *raises hand* I have never been on a date or kissed anyone. But i feel maybe i've missed out some crucial life experiences. I havent exactly been asked out either.A guyfriend once said we would have dated if we had met earlier...but i have no clue whether he was really interested or just kidding around. I feel guys are a bit scared of me and actively avoid me. Oh well,i'm an asexual romantic,so it really sucks for me !!! Good for u that ur aromantic. Link to post Share on other sites
TheAP Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Yep, me. Link to post Share on other sites
everywhere and nowhere Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 I've been on a few dates, but it never worked out - proved by the fact that I've never been in a relationship and never kissed except for family members (now I don't kiss them anymore either, I have little need for physical contact - but as a child you often have little choice...). Not my preferred way of life - I'd like to have someone close, even though for example I don't think I could live together with a girlfriend, sometimes I just need to be alone... But then, it's a matter of priorities. If I could choose between being single and having a relationship according to my preferences - I could call it a "romantic friendship", perhaps - I'd gladly choose relationship. But if I had a choice between being single - even remaining single all my life - and having a relationship in which I would be expected to force myself to have sex, without hesitation I'd choose solitude. But perhaps it's not even a choice - I greatly doubt if I could ever "succeed" in forcing myself to have sex. Link to post Share on other sites
TheCatBehind Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 I haven't had an s.o. or ever gone on a date either! I am very romantic though. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Deus Ex Infinity Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 10 minutes ago, Count Maksula said: I haven't had an s.o. or ever gone on a date either! I am very romantic though. *gives you her most charming smile* I think I just heard a bell ringing..calling my name *bursts out into a bunch of cheerful laughter* *kneels down in front of the mighty count* Oh please..her my plea....!!! Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 I'm in a relationship, but I've never been on any date and I must admit I don't even know how it works what's even a date? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Deus Ex Infinity Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 17 minutes ago, [noize:injekktion] said: I'm in a relationship, but I've never been on any date and I must admit I don't even know how it works what's even a date? You don't ever want to go for it! Believe me bro. It's just such a weird thing...mostly nothing but a waste of time. You'd just agree to meet up at a certain time and place with someone you cherish, trying to get to know that person on a more intimate level through ramdon daily flirty conversation (while trying to find out more about specific faves or dislikes, including (subtle) sexual themes eventually). So yeah...blahhhh. Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 6 minutes ago, Deus Ex Infinity said: You don't ever want to go for it! Believe bro. It's just such a weird thing...mostly nothing but a waste of time. I somehow have a feeling that it's something boring and cheesy, am I right? but wait. before things got official, we used to do lots of awesome things together, and we continue until today. does it count as dates? Link to post Share on other sites
Zsareph Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Never had a partner, never been on a date, never kissed anyone, and I intend to keep it that way. Link to post Share on other sites
J. van Deijck Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 14 minutes ago, Deus Ex Infinity said: You'd just agree to meet up at a certain time and place with the person you like, trying to get to know that person on a more intimate level through ramdon daily flirty conversation (while trying to find out more about specific faves or dislikes, including (subtle) sexual themes eventually). eww... no, thanks. XD although some people accuse me of flirting with others and I have no idea why o.O" Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Deus Ex Infinity Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 6 minutes ago, [noize:injekktion] said: I somehow have a feeling that it's something boring and cheesy, am I right? but wait. before things got official, we used to do lots of awesome things together, and we continue until today. does it count as dates? Don't know. Just added a short personal description to my post for ya Link to post Share on other sites
Piotrek Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 <joins the club> Which is not surprising seeing as I identify as aromantic. Link to post Share on other sites
Artistofnoname Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Neither here and quite happy with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Galactic Turtle Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Nope. It seems like something I'd have to out of my way to do, like it's not something within my natural progression. It seems unnecessary. Link to post Share on other sites
Ortac Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 I am fast approaching the age or forty and I have never had a partner or been on a date, not even once. I might be open to such things if unplanned events just happen to steer my life in that direction, but I certainly wouldn't deliberately set out to get a partner or go on a date. Link to post Share on other sites
GreenCircles Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 I have also never had a boyfriend/girlfriend or been on a date. Link to post Share on other sites
Myeungo Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 I've had both boyfriends and girlfriends but have never been on a date, and I really don't feel dates are necessary. But that's just my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloomy Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Yep. Never been on a date or had a significant other in my 26 years and 5 months of being alive. Link to post Share on other sites
Ashmedai Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 I've never dated, coupled, had a partner or anything along those lines. Even though I've had a few crushes, I've never really felt inclined to, nor do I really care to. Link to post Share on other sites
LeChat Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 Yes. I've fantasized about being kissed or in a relationship, but I don't really know if it's for me: while others seem to be happy and enjoy having partners, I feel awkward whenever anyone shows any interest. The reality of it suddenly feels too complicated, and I'm no longer sure whether it's what I'd really want, anymore. That's why I thought I might be apromantic, rather than gray-romantic. It's difficult to know, though. Seeing couples have children (even though I'm not interested in having any), I can't help but wonder whether I'm missing out on the joys of at least being in a relationship. Neighbors occasionally think I'm strange or that I'm lost because they see me do things by myself (i.e. they think I need someone to give me a ride, since I exercise alone; they've asked me whether I'm okay; where I live, etc.) I guess they just think it's odd for a young person to be alone or they feel sorry for me, which I don't exactly understand, because I've seen other adults in my neighborhood exercise or walk alone like I do. Sure, it's not as common as seeing couples exercise together, but people doing things alone by themselves does exist. Plus, I can't help it if no one around me shows any interest in dating me. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Deus Ex Infinity Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 3 hours ago, [noize:injekktion] said: eww... no, thanks. XD although some people accuse me of flirting with others and I have no idea why o.O" Me too but I'm usually aware of it *smirks mischieviously* Some people would just get it wrong all the way. Note: being kind is not being flirty Link to post Share on other sites
WeirdOne Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 4 hours ago, Deus Ex Infinity said: *gives you her most charming smile* I think I just heard a bell ringing..calling my name *bursts out into a bunch of cheerful laughter* *kneels down in front of the mighty count* Oh please..her my plea....!!! Looking for some serious asexual romance there Deus? Dates are seriously overrated though, especially the blind-kind. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Deus Ex Infinity Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 9 minutes ago, WeirdOne said: Looking for some serious asexual romance there Deus? Dates are seriously overrated though, especially the blind-kind. Exactly. Heaven knows I had enough of those in the past. Count me out. @WeirdOne If something serious shall come my way, I shall consider getting serious in reply Link to post Share on other sites
daveb Posted October 21, 2017 Share Posted October 21, 2017 That was me well into my 20s. And not many since then either. Link to post Share on other sites
Divide By Zero Posted October 22, 2017 Author Share Posted October 22, 2017 7 hours ago, Deus Ex Infinity said: 7 hours ago, [noize:injekktion] said: I'm in a relationship, but I've never been on any date and I must admit I don't even know how it works what's even a date? You don't ever want to go for it! Believe me bro. It's just such a weird thing...mostly nothing but a waste of time. You'd just agree to meet up at a certain time and place with someone you cherish, trying to get to know that person on a more intimate level through ramdon daily flirty conversation (while trying to find out more about specific faves or dislikes, including (subtle) sexual themes eventually). So yeah...blahhhh. Based on stories I've heard from friends, usually there's an expectation to be physically intimate like holding hands, hugging, and kissing. * shudders at the thought * And there may even be sex. * shudders a lot more * Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 22, 2017 Share Posted October 22, 2017 I've actually had one partner in person who I was with for 5 years, and 3 online partners none of which I have met in person (yet).. but I've never been on a date, and I can't imagine I ever will go on one. The idea of that ('dating') makes me shudder lol. Link to post Share on other sites
dangling_ Posted October 22, 2017 Share Posted October 22, 2017 Me. The closest I've had is FWB, which.... is... not the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 22, 2017 Share Posted October 22, 2017 2 minutes ago, dangling_ said: Me. The closest I've had is FWB, which.... is... not the same. I think it must depend on the person and the rules and boundaries you both set around your FWB situation. I'm in a FWB thing right now, and it's literally no different (for me) than being in a relationship, haha. Link to post Share on other sites
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