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Having tits is literally the dumbest thing holy shit to me, like holy shit. WHY DO THEY EXIST, WHY CAN'T WE JUST SWEAT MILK LIKE PLATYPUS'S. THEY MAKE ME SO UNCOMFORTABLE UNLESS THEY ARE WRAPPED UP IN A TIGHT SPORTS BRA. AND DON'T GET ME STARTED ABOUT WALKING AROUND WITHOUT A BRA.  WHY MUST THEYES BE SO JIGGLY WHEN I MOVE, AND WHY DO MEN HAVE NIPPLES BUT NO FAT POCKETS OF HELL THAT APPARENTLY CAN MAKE MALK???? FUCK THIS FUCK THAT FUCK TITS FUCK EVERYONES ASSUMPTIONS, BUT MOST IMPORNTANTLY FUCK ME FOR NOT KEEPING COUNT OF MY SPORTS BRAS. IDK WHAT SEXUALITY I AM ALL I KNOW IS THAT IT'S REALLY LATE AND I CAN'T STOP FEELING UNCOMFORTABLE BECAUSE OF THESE GOD FORSAKEN FLESH BAGS THAT I CAN'T SEEM TO FORGET EXIST  IF THEY AREN'T TIED DOWN. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

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Apersonontheinternet

Okay then... Yes I agree tho, boobs are very annoying

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WHY CAN'T WE JUST SWEAT MILK LIKE PLATYPUS'S.

I'm not convinced this is really a better solution...

 

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AND WHY DO MEN HAVE NIPPLES BUT NO FAT POCKETS OF HELL THAT APPARENTLY CAN MAKE MALK????

Also, trivia: men actually can lactate!  Kinda like human genitals, that whole area starts out the same but changes during development depending on the sex.  Males might not be as well developed specifically for it, but they can produce milk.

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Pan Ficto. (on hiatus?)

Lets look at it this way! I have a tiny body, and on that tiny body, reaching from where boobs usually start right down to below my bellybutton, covering pretty much my entire torso, I have giant M cups (I have macromastia, which means the breasts just keep growing, pretty much). They each weigh somewhere between 1.5kg-2kg (almost 4Ibs each boob) and even the world's largest binder couldn't really hide them. Now imagine having those, and hopefully yours won't feel quite so bad about yours? :o 

 

Or, they could be as big as this woman's!

 

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Even mine don't feel big anymore when I see hers and imagine having them!!

 

As someone who has had giant breasts since puberty (they went from nothing to an F cup pretty much, and just kept growing) I understand how you feel, and I also had gender dysphoria growing up and really just wanted them cut off. However, looking at pics of women with breasts bigger than mine did always help me feel a bit better because.. at least they're not that big!!

 

Fortunately I was eventually able to come to terms with my breasts and now wouldn't get a reduction even if I was offered one! I hope you can feel better about yours as well because it's not nice hating a part of yourself.. it feels so much better when you can at least feel peace with how you are, even if you're still planning on getting a reduction or whatever :)

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Fortunately I was eventually able to come to terms with my breasts and now wouldn't get a reduction even if I was offered one!

Don't really mean to be prying where it isn't warranted, but are they not potentially a hazard to one's health at that kind of size?

 

I've heard of a lot of girls with more "normal" (comparatively) sizes remarking about the back problems and such that they get from their chest.  Do you not experience any such thing?

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Pan Ficto. (on hiatus?)
1 hour ago, Philip027 said:

Don't really mean to be prying where it isn't warranted, but are they not potentially a hazard to one's health at that kind of size?

 

I've heard of a lot of girls with more "normal" (comparatively) sizes remarking about the back problems and such that they get from their chest.  Do you not experience any such thing?

(this could be TMI for people who don't want to know about boob things lol)

 

There are a lot of ways they can be 'difficult' at this size, like a lot of the time with anything above an H if you don't take proper care of them hygienically, they can actually get weird fungal growths underneath in the same way feet and genitals can lol, and have an 'odor' etc. And being crushed in a bra for any long amount of time (even a few hours) can end up being very, very painful because the wire digs right into the breast tissue which hurts soooo bad! I fortunately work around both those issues with very good breast hygiene and going braless as often as possible (the air getting under them as much as possible is of course a very good preventative measure for fungal growths etc). 

 

However the back thing confounds me. I see women with breasts half the size of mine moaning about back pain and how they'll 'slip a disk' if they sneeze or whatever, yet despite being someone known to often sit at my comp hunched over like an old person for up to 6 hours solid or even longer on any given day I've never experienced any kind of back pain. Even when I was heavily pregnant (which also causes the breasts to grow a lot larger than normal) back ache is something I just never experienced. It seems very odd to me that women with smaller, lighter breasts can experience that much back pain and I sort of wonder if some of them (with like F cups and under) are actually experiencing backache as a result of other things (like maybe poor posture and sleeping on too many pillows etc) and not actually as a result of their breasts? When I had F cups, it was like there was nothing even there weight-wise so I can't see how a D cup can suffer back pain as a direct result of breasts that would weigh even less than those F cups I used to have when I was a teenager, if that makes sense? 

 

In saying that though, there are of course women with breasts like mine who do legitimately experience back pain as a direct result of the weight, and other medical issues, and I can totally understand why they would seek a reduction. As I experience absolutely none of those issues though I am happy to remain exactly as I am and wouldn't even mind if they got bigger, I'd quite like to try adult nursing eventually and inducing milk will cause them to grow bigger which I am sure I can handle physically.

 

It is, however, very important to me that any future partner is of course actively into very large natural breast worship, because sadly many men can be repulsed by breasts this size. I don't want someone who 'puts up with them' out of love for me, but someone who actively wants to cuddle and squeeze them (and do other things heh) because they adore breasts like mine and because they love me too of course. That's my main concern haha, far more than the health risks which really don't affect me at all fortunately :) 

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K.I.N.G

I agree boobs are pointless unless you plan on having a child - Boobs should be optional end of story - They are also expensive if you want to be well supported/strapped down and especially if youre an awkward size.

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I can't imagine how telling others who experience chest dysphoria to just come to terms with their chest is going to be helpful...that is just beyond mindblowing :mellow:

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LeDeer

Yup I don't like them too, they are pretty pointless and annoying to me. And aesthetically speaking, I can't even understand why people find them attractive, I simply find them...gross?. If there was a magical contract where there's written "sign here to instantly remove your boobs without any collateral effect", I would start running around screaming WHERE R THE PENS ????

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Mezzo Forte

Glad the OP had a chance to vent a bit. In the questioning/transition process, I used to write very impassioned letters to myself articulating my thoughts and feelings about my relationship with my body. Basically AVEN posts that I wrote for my eyes only. Sometimes, looking back on the raw emotion can help make introspection easier and help you figure out the next steps.

 

There's no way I could convey all the good top surgery has done for me. I knew for sure it was the right step, and I love knowing that chest dysphoria is nothing more than a memory, and it will never return. 

 

Everyone's path differs slightly, but I hope that the OP figures out what they're most comfortable doing in the face of these chest issues.

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Pan Ficto. (on hiatus?)
15 hours ago, Jayce said:

I can't imagine how telling others who experience chest dysphoria to just come to terms with their chest is going to be helpful...that is just beyond mindblowing :mellow:

Not sure who that was aimed at, but someone who has experienced extreme chest dysphoria and learned to overcome it can at least share their experience on what they did to overcome theirs so that now, they don't have to suffer every day with dysphoria. Just a heads up, living without dysphoria is much easier than living with it (regardless of whether or not one is still going to get a reduction) and if people have tips about things that helped make their experience easier, they have a duty (imo) to share what helped them in the hopes someone else may read it and be able to seek some comfort and know there is hope.

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Lovelykat

I guess I understand your repulsion to some point... luckily I have pretty small boobs so I rarely have to think about them, but I think if I had bigger ones I would find them pretty an annoying. 

..I also don't really care to have children, so I find them pretty obsolete. 

 

However, what helps me is to appreciate the female form... I am mildly aesthetically attracted to women so I can appreciate nice boobs/butt on other women, so why wouldn't I accept them on myself? I guess that's just how I think about it. 

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I don't like my boobs either. My dysphoria with them isn't that bad, almost nonexistent sometimes, but I don't care for them and wouldn't care if they where gone. You could always use a binder or I've seen sports bras recommended for keeping them down. Remember, you never have to have kids if you don't want to, and if you do, you don't need to breast feed them if you don't want to either. Don't feel pressured to like a part of your body that you don't like, or do something you don't want to do just because society or other people tell you to.

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QAQ

It's like I can't even tell if it's meds doing this too me or if it's worse due to an increase in hormones because of an incoming period. But I just hate them so much, they feel so wrong. Even wearing my tightest sports bra and another layer on top isn't helping. I've got some health complications and for a while I thought it was just acute neuopathy. But in reality I think it's probably just really bad dysphoria.

This is the worst I've ever had it an i just don't know how to deal. I just want out of this fucking flesh puppet to put it simply, it's like an error has occurred and I got put into a body before my soul was ready. 

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10 hours ago, FictoVore. said:

Not sure who that was aimed at, but someone who has experienced extreme chest dysphoria and learned to overcome it can at least share their experience on what they did to overcome theirs so that now, they don't have to suffer every day with dysphoria. Just a heads up, living without dysphoria is much easier than living with it (regardless of whether or not one is still going to get a reduction) and if people have tips about things that helped make their experience easier, they have a duty (imo) to share what helped them in the hopes someone else may read it and be able to seek some comfort and know there is hope.

As a questioning nonbinary femme trans guy i can tell you the last thing we need is to hear we should be able to overcome dysphoria. You simply can’t overcome dysphoria if all you want is to be a man.Second, As a trans guy  or NB individual with chest dysphoria you do seek top surgery or hide them using a binder or a sportsbra, you don’t take pride in having them when experiencing dysphoria.So i don’t see how advice on how to come to terms with their chest is going to help them overcome dysphoria, it’s the same thing as telling a guy they should be glad they’ve got a D cup and i can safely say they aren’t. My chest dysphoria only became lesser after surgery, it was hell pre surgery.

 

I know your advice is well ment but it’s just not really helpful if you deal with dysphoria being trans :) 

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Albine

I had male breast augmentation earlier this year. I ended up larger than I wanted thanks to my surgeon talking me into going larger. While they look good I am definitely experiencing challenges with larger boobs both socially and physically. So having feelings of not wanting boobs can be exceptionallt difficult

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InsomniacAnna

ugh yeah. they are annoying. I'd have a breast reduction if I could, my back is in pain and I just hate them, just a dead weight that I don't want. I don't even plan on having children. And when I have to buy shirts or bras, my dysphoria gets so bad... Ughhh.

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On 29/09/2017 at 4:43 AM, QAQ said:

Having tits is literally the dumbest thing holy shit to me, like holy shit. WHY DO THEY EXIST, WHY CAN'T WE JUST SWEAT MILK LIKE PLATYPUS'S. THEY MAKE ME SO UNCOMFORTABLE UNLESS THEY ARE WRAPPED UP IN A TIGHT SPORTS BRA. AND DON'T GET ME STARTED ABOUT WALKING AROUND WITHOUT A BRA.  WHY MUST THEYES BE SO JIGGLY WHEN I MOVE, AND WHY DO MEN HAVE NIPPLES BUT NO FAT POCKETS OF HELL THAT APPARENTLY CAN MAKE MALK???? FUCK THIS FUCK THAT FUCK TITS FUCK EVERYONES ASSUMPTIONS, BUT MOST IMPORNTANTLY FUCK ME FOR NOT KEEPING COUNT OF MY SPORTS BRAS. IDK WHAT SEXUALITY I AM ALL I KNOW IS THAT IT'S REALLY LATE AND I CAN'T STOP FEELING UNCOMFORTABLE BECAUSE OF THESE GOD FORSAKEN FLESH BAGS THAT I CAN'T SEEM TO FORGET EXIST  IF THEY AREN'T TIED DOWN. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

Same here. I freaking hate them. I have gained some weight (due to depression/eating crap)  recently and those are there a bit bigger, i hate them sooo much, i hate them i remember when i was a pre teen and they started to grow i was horrified, still today. On my 30's. I wish i never had them, they disgust me. In animals boobs only grew if animal females get pregnant. I always wondered why on humans is diferent and the reason is shitty: Women have grown boobs to visually "tell" human males they are available for procreation (gross and against your will!) - which i AM NOT!!!! I dont want to have children never ever ever, i wish we were like animals, not having volumous breasts, Aaargh!

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Albine

if you had a reduction what size would you want to become or just have them removed all together? I wish I wold have not let my surgeon talk me into going larger, looking back I really would luv to have the size I originally wanted small Bs rather than the current size i got 

  

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Akujiamara

I just generally feel very lost with myself. I dislike my breasts, always uncomfortable with their size and shape and paranoid of people looking at them. I really just want smaller breasts but I just "joke" with my mom saying I hate my boobs she just kinda laughs and says too bad. I really just wanna cry because of them. Not only that I have no idea what gender I am. I confuse myself. I dont know if I just say "hey I'm a girl cuz thats the way I was born." or if I genuinely think I'm a girl. Yet I tend to try to hide behind role playing from real life and take on male characters. It's usually always male characters. So I dont know if I want to be a guy or if I just like the idea of identifying as one. But sometimes I like to try to look cute.... Everything is so frustrating.... I hide all this as if I have no problems.... But I feel like im slowly deteriorating in self diagnosed depression cuz im afraid to see a doctor.... Cuz my mom says im perfectly fine... But shes also super supportive of me but I just dont know... She said it was cuz I graduated and was left home doing nothing but what I didnt used to have time for but I got a job and still feel like shit

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Albine

Have you thought about saving up for a reduction surgery?  Do u think that could help you, maybe discuss with your mom

 

On 2/22/2018 at 1:43 AM, Akujiamara said:

I just generally feel very lost with myself. I dislike my breasts, always uncomfortable with their size and shape and paranoid of people looking at them. I really just want smaller breasts but I just "joke" with my mom saying I hate my boobs she just kinda laughs and says too bad. I really just wanna cry because of them. Not only that I have no idea what gender I am. I confuse myself. I dont know if I just say "hey I'm a girl cuz thats the way I was born." or if I genuinely think I'm a girl. Yet I tend to try to hide behind role playing from real life and take on male characters. It's usually always male characters. So I dont know if I want to be a guy or if I just like the idea of identifying as one. But sometimes I like to try to look cute.... Everything is so frustrating.... I hide all this as if I have no problems.... But I feel like im slowly deteriorating in self diagnosed depression cuz im afraid to see a doctor.... Cuz my mom says im perfectly fine... But shes also super supportive of me but I just dont know... She said it was cuz I graduated and was left home doing nothing but what I didnt used to have time for but I got a job and still feel like shit

 

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RJ Shepard
On 9/30/2017 at 2:01 AM, i-AM-me said:

I agree boobs are pointless unless you plan on having a child - Boobs should be optional end of story - They are also expensive if you want to be well supported/strapped down and especially if youre an awkward size.

I agree.  I don't want children so what's the point in having them?  I wish that I could get top surgery without having to jump through hoops.  There's no point in me trying to tell my family either as didn't believe i'm asexual  let alone have issues with my body.  I'm a c cup but they still get sweaty underneeth.  Sorry for possible TMI. 

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Neutral nerd

I can have a small appreciation for the female aesthetic, but whenever it's exaggerated to much and/or insufficiently covered i am filled with disgust. Because of that i try to minimize seeing myself when I'm showering, etc. either way I like how people look without blobs of fat (eww) on their chest, and I long for the day I can go topless around the house without embarrassment. 

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RJ Shepard
17 hours ago, Neutral nerd said:

I can have a small appreciation for the female aesthetic, but whenever it's exaggerated to much and/or insufficiently covered i am filled with disgust. Because of that i try to minimize seeing myself when I'm showering, etc. either way I like how people look without blobs of fat (eww) on their chest, and I long for the day I can go topless around the house without embarrassment. 

Me too. I can't stand looking at them. I just deal with them.  Even when I'm lying in bed i'll pull my quilt up so I can't see them.  I just want rid of them. 

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ICan'tThinkOfAUsername

I know that this is a really late post, but yeah....anyways, I can relate. I know for a fact that I DON'T want boobs (being that I've struggled with them my entire life). The unwanted attention that I get, makes me uncomfortable (especially when I'm not looking). Everytime I look in the mirror, it makes me feel ill, like I'm disgusted to have them. I guess you can call it a dysphoria? I don't know....I just don't want to be looked at, at all! I might get surgery to remove them for good, but I don't know about the risks.... 

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Pinball Wizard

I literally cry every time I get dressed and have to put on a bra. There is nothing more I want to burn than all my stupid bras for my stupid breasts. I can't stand up straight because Oh look! there they are. I can't wear t-shirts because oh look! there they are. It's summer so I can't layer up. I can't do ANY type of exercise because oh look! there they are and I can feel them moving. God damn! I can't bind because of all these different article saying how it will damage your ribs or back or whatever, I don't need MORE body issues! I can't do this day in and day out. I want to give up on trying to live in this body, it's ridiculous. Being stuck this way is the purest hell I know, and I have no idea how I will ever get out.

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Neeen

I hate having boobs so much it drives me crazy some days and I just cry and fall asleep. I wish I could afford to have them removed completely, I wish I was born with the flattest chest in the world. I wish I didn’t have to feel like I was crazy and battle with this mental illness having boobs has inflicted on me. I honestly cannot explain how it feels, how I would press hard on them against a pillow to make it feel better, how I hate wearing bras that press them down. I really am at my worst place with this boob situation and hopefully when I make enough money in the future, I’d have them removed 

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DuranDuranfan

I sympathize with everything said here. I had dysthymia(low grade depression) ever since puberty and when I put on my chest binder for the first time, it was gone. That’s when I figured it was dysphoria, and I’m more non binary than female, even though I was assigned female at birth. But because I sometimes like to present femme, I only want them reduced, and at least I’ll have the option of a padded bra in order to make a nice dress fit better if the reduced size doesn’t make the silhouette look right. 

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Hufflepuffins

I FEEL THE SAME WAY OMFG. I have having boobs, I have a small body and massive boobs, I would pay someone to nck me out, cut them off and leave me without any breasts at ALL. they only get in the way, they hurt my back and deformed my spine,they are so heavy I can be thrown off just by turning too fast, they make me look fat even tho I'm only 120 pounds!! I fucking hate boobs aswell. 

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On 12/19/2019 at 3:24 PM, Hufflepuffins said:

I FEEL THE SAME WAY OMFG. I have having boobs, I have a small body and massive boobs, I would pay someone to nck me out, cut them off and leave me without any breasts at ALL. they only get in the way, they hurt my back and deformed my spine,they are so heavy I can be thrown off just by turning too fast, they make me look fat even tho I'm only 120 pounds!! I fucking hate boobs aswell. 

I wish that I was a girl 

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