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Hello Aslan,

 

welcome to the AVEN forums! Have some cake... :cake: :-)

 

Have you considered inventing a long-distance relationship, as an explanation for not being available? Not having recovered from the last, unhappy break-up (and not being willing to talk about it) would probably also be accepted as a reason.

 

All the best to you!

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Aslan, in a lot your lines I find myself. It's so great to know that there are other people who think and behave in a similar way. Especially the part with the parents/family, it's the same here. They say "I love you" and I have never been able to reply, at least not with honesty in those words. Or the parties and social events. Feeling odd and different is so familiar. How I deal with it... actually I don't go out, mostly because of that. Clubs, discotheques, dances - they automatically bring that special dating flair, people go there to look out for people whom they want to get to know and/or date. I don't want to do any of it, so I don't go there. I know, it's not a very helpful answer for this, but maybe you can help yourself by analyzing the true or original purpose of the social event. 

If you really want to go for "the relationship thing", maybe you could tell people about a long-distance relationship. Of course, said contact makes you stay home to Skype or call or chat, and you can't join the event later on because of the different time zones? People tend to believe a lot if it's properly served, also our generation is a generation of online meeting and dating, so that might be a nice excuse. :D

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Hi and welcome :cake:

It's a tricky one if socialising is an integral part of the job and you're always conspicuously alone.

7 minutes ago, roland.o said:

 

Have you considered inventing a long-distance relationship, as an explanation for not being available? Not having recovered from the last, unhappy break-up (and not being willing to talk about it) would probably also be accepted as a reason.

 

 

It's a good idea I've suggested that before as well, you could create quite an elaborate fictitious love interest if that worked. All I can add is that plenty of straight sexual people say that they just don't want to commit to any kind of relationship while their ambition is still taking their career somewhere. Sounds valid, you know .. no distractions.

 

I was conscious of my image while a young manager and used to actually pick up girls and leave to go home with them knowing I'd be seen. Then I'd have a coffee and a nice chat at home, and order the poor bemused young lady a cab.

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