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Hey guys!

 

As the mod of this forum, I have noted that some of the gray-sexuals who use this site feel like they aren't always sure where to ask certain gray-specific questions. So, I'm going to see if I can create a little more space for the graces within our community by making some threads similar to those we have for asexuals to see if it will be a way to best support those community members.

 

So, here they are!

 

 

Questions about Gray-Sexuality

 

 

Gray-Sexual Relationships

 

 

Gray-Sexual Musings and Rantings

 

 

Feel free to use this space for suggestions on how I can improve this project or some random talks amongst the grace crowd!

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Good creations there. I think that makes this more inclusive.

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I think it's great that you're providing individual places for everyone to express themselves, whilst also including it in the wider asexual forums :)

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3 minutes ago, Avian said:

Gray gay guy here. Don't know what else to say now but "hi"!

Welcome! I so hope AVEN proves to be a great resource for you!

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1 hour ago, smokemeakipper said:

Hi :) New to pretty much everything here - thanks for the great site and looking forward to exploring :D

Welcome! I so hope AVEN can be an excellent resource for you!

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Hoja de Viento

Hi here!

I'm argentinian, born woman and feel grey-asexual or maybe demisexual, by the case I'm in love with a guy since 2011. 

My case is that, although beeing in love with my partner, I feel like I don't care about sex. I can be very sexy at certain opportunities, but in the daily life I don't really think or care or even feel sex as something interesting. I've always been that way, but I've starting reading about it a couple of years ago. I've met some people too, but I see how society is sooo sexual that it bores (and worry) me. 

Well, here's very late at nigth and tomorrow I'm going on a friend trip and I'm sleeply, so sorry for my terrible and lazy english!

Nice to join asexuality.org, rather than just read from it! 

Best for you and see (read) you later! 

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Fangirl 101

Heyy... So I recently realized that I might be Asexual and its been kinda tough accepting it cause I always thought I was straight because even though I never desired sex I did find men attractive. So I don't know if I still come under the asexual umbrella but yeah... This is me. 

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Hi guys, I'm new here. I've recently been trying to figure out what's up with me, because I've always had a sneaking suspicion that I've been some "version" of aesexuality. What exactly is being grey-sexual, because I've heard a few different definitions from my research online and it sounds like it could apply to me.

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1. Welcome! Have some cake! 2. I'm a gray-ace and for me gray ace means you do have sexual attraction but it happens rarely and is very mild. But what gray ace is can vary person to person! Hope this helps!

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Hello @Aeranna, welcome to the AVEN forums! Have another... :cake::D

 

Grey-sexual (in whatever spelling 🙂 ) describes someone who is not sexual enough to get along with sexual partners, but also not asexual. Some time ago, we tried to come up with a definition that stands for itself. This was my last attempt: Strong Definition of greysexuality, 2nd draf  I hope it is helpful. :D:cake:

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On 9/3/2017 at 4:45 AM, Puck said:

Hey guys!

 

As the mod of this forum, I have noted that some of the gray-sexuals who use this site feel like they aren't always sure where to ask certain gray-specific questions. So, I'm going to see if I can create a little more space for the graces within our community by making some threads similar to those we have for asexuals to see if it will be a way to best support those community members.

 

So, here they are!

 

 

Questions about Gray-Sexuality

 

 

Gray-Sexual Relationships

 

 

Gray-Sexual Musings and Rantings

 

 

Feel free to use this space for suggestions on how I can improve this project or some random talks amongst the grace crowd!

Awesome! I'm sure this will be very useful to a lot of same-minded Aventitie including myselfs :D

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On 7/1/2018 at 3:30 PM, roland.o said:

Hello @Aeranna, welcome to the AVEN forums! Have another... :cake::D

 

Grey-sexual (in whatever spelling 🙂 ) describes someone who is not sexual enough to get along with sexual partners, but also not asexual. Some time ago, we tried to come up with a definition that stands for itself. This was my last attempt: Strong Definition of greysexuality, 2nd draf  I hope it is helpful. :D:cake:

@roland.o Very neat! I should start calling you "Prof. Grey" :D May I sign up for your classes anytime soon? *starts reading the paper again*

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9-10 years ago I used to enjoy sex and I don't know why perhaps the chemical release in the brain...

 

But since then sex has been more about romantic making my partner happy up untill 7-8 years ago. The idea of sex makes me feel sick. And have been caught in a few situations where I feel obliged to attempt sexual interaction with someone I liked romantically. I am male 26 year old btw. And the idea of explaining to those around me that I hate the idea of sex and engaging in sexual acts makes me sick and uncomfortable is scary. In a world that accepts people for who they are, my nature that fits somewhere in the Asexual paradigm actually makes me feel as though I can't vocalise myself.

 

Yet although physical sexual relations I hate and have no appeal for. I enjoy porn and the emotional satisfaction that the poeple are having. Side note what's the chances of finding a relationship with a asexual women... Rare I imagine. 

 

Anyways I don't really know what catogory I fall in and I am only starting to understand and work out who I am. Would appreciate thoughts and opinions.

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Aro/gray-ace here and thank you for this section. One question: in the spectrum of gray, is the general consensus that the lighter gray, the more sexual, or the less? I personally always thought that as one tended toward light, the more, and the more toward black, the less. Never asked or discussed this before and wouldn't be surprised if I got it backwards. 

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9 minutes ago, Joe Guzman said:

Aro/gray-ace here and thank you for this section. One question: in the spectrum of gray, is the general consensus that the lighter gray, the more sexual, or the less? I personally always thought that as one tended toward light, the more, and the more toward black, the less. Never asked or discussed this before and wouldn't be surprised if I got it backwards. 

On the asexual triangle and the flag, black represents asexual and white represents sexual. So the darker gray is more asexual. 

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Thanks, EarlGrey! I don't mind being wrong (well . . .), but I hate broadcasting it continuously.

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Hoping to gain some understanding on myself. I am biologically a female. Never had a problem or felt uncomfortable being seen as female (other than wearing extremely feminine clothes, which I am becoming more comfortable with dresses). I know inside I am a girl, but there are uncomfortable moments or even days. I did, and still do, get a little defensive when someone see's me or treats me as exclusively female. On the other hand, I always felt I had a boy side to me. Specifically my mind-set to certain things, and interest is what stood out to me. People would jokingly say how I act like a boy, or how I look like a boy sometimes, and it oddly made me feel comfortable. Growing up, not only did I like to play with the boys, but I always felt comfortable in "boy" clothes. Now older, I do try to dress more androgynous. Overall, I don't look like most the non-binary, gender fluid individuals. I know that has little to do with it, so I guess what I am asking is for a better understanding of being gender fluid/ non-binary. Maybe some other experiences. 

thank you for hearing me out.

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Hello @thenorm13, welcome to the AVEN forums! Have some cake... :cake::D

 

We use the term gray sexuality as a qualifier for sexual orientations, rather than a reference to gender. Your post sounds like you are pondering the latter. Our Gender Discussion forum might be of interest to you:

https://www.asexuality.org/en/forum/57-gender-discussion/

 

Cheers, and have another... :cake::D

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On 11/21/2018 at 5:26 AM, thenorm13 said:

Hoping to gain some understanding on myself. I am biologically a female. Never had a problem or felt uncomfortable being seen as female (other than wearing extremely feminine clothes, which I am becoming more comfortable with dresses). I know inside I am a girl, but there are uncomfortable moments or even days. I did, and still do, get a little defensive when someone see's me or treats me as exclusively female. On the other hand, I always felt I had a boy side to me. Specifically my mind-set to certain things, and interest is what stood out to me. People would jokingly say how I act like a boy, or how I look like a boy sometimes, and it oddly made me feel comfortable. Growing up, not only did I like to play with the boys, but I always felt comfortable in "boy" clothes. Now older, I do try to dress more androgynous. Overall, I don't look like most the non-binary, gender fluid individuals. I know that has little to do with it, so I guess what I am asking is for a better understanding of being gender fluid/ non-binary. Maybe some other experiences. 

thank you for hearing me out.

Hi, the term “tomboy” is commonly used to describe girls who like things like action figures and dress more in guys clothes than girls clothes, even though they’re biologically and neurologically female. I’m like that. I’m a cisgender woman, but growing up I’ve had more action figures than Barbie dolls, and I prefer wearing men’s jeans and shorts. Shoes too, because not very many woman’s shoes come in blue which is my favourite colour, just know your size conversions(ex: your size is woman’s 8, then your men’s equivalent is 6 and a half or 7, depending on the brand). If I wear a dress or skirt, it’s only for a short while, then I’m like, “get me outta this!”. I prefer to call myself gender-nonconforming. I do things that society doesn’t expect a cisgender woman would do.

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