Things Asexuals hate to hear

[EvangelineAngel]

On 8/5/2017 at 8:19 AM, Keakin said:

There is absolutely nothing wrong with us. That's another misconception and highly ignorant thought. Do people seriously not hear how rapist they sound?

I speculate that in past decades there were quite a few rapes perpetrated by "over sexed" sexuals who were determined to "fix" anyone different from themselves.  I'm sure it is still a danger from sexual bigots today as well.  The reality of humanity's dark side.

[umbasa]

25 minutes ago, EvangelineAngel said:

I speculate that in past decades there were quite a few rapes perpetrated by "over sexed" sexuals who were determined to "fix" anyone different from themselves.  I'm sure it is still a danger from sexual bigots today as well.  The reality of humanity's dark side.

Corrective rape is the term. Yes, that is truly the most horrifying combination of words.

[Keakin]

On 12/16/2017 at 10:37 AM, Adventurefreak said:

1. You haven't reach that stage of loving it yet. (I am 20 😑)

 

2. Your parents told you so because they are religious but you know live freely & open your mind, religions are cruel... 

(Okay I follow the same religion as my parents

But I have reached a stage where I can think for myself

& I choosed to so as I found it suit me, not to please my parents

& I find myself free by following it)

 

3. You don't like it, did you know that it has tons of HEALTHY benefits????

(Wow, so you never heard about fruits and sports benefits ??)

 

4. You are too good & shy that's why...😡😡😡😡

 

5. Sex is the best thing ever!! The best stress reliever... 

(Seriously??? There are chocolate & other tasty foods,...

Have you never gone on a nature walk?? tried any cool sports? Done any achievement in your life?  meditation??....)

 

6. Everyone needs sex, if they say they dont, they are lying.

(SO sex is the equivalent of oxygen??? I didn't know about it 😲)

 

7. And yeah what I hate:

Ocasionally, I can tell a little sex joke, and laugh about others indirect sex jokes

but then, there are morons who have to amplify sex jokes to such an extent which becomes really annoying 

& they have to come up with amplified sex jokes in EVERY conversation

& that's makes me hate any sex jokes now

Dude if I find a little sex joke funny, it doesn't mean that I have a strong desire to fuck.

 

8. Why do you have this old fashioned mindset that sex is taboo? If it were so bad God would not have invented to create life....

(I don't think its a taboo, & I believe that at

puberty, sex education/awareness is a must by parents themselves.

But what I believe is that one's sexual life is a private & intimate thing.

& I don't see the necessity of that much sexual content in todays media.

Some say "yeah porn is instructive..."

But biology & sex eds classes are enough for me & I don't understand why I should know more. Its just like some people are not interested by hockey & don't wanna understand it.)

THAAAAAANK YOU!!!!!!!! Dammit! My feels exactly!

[Keakin]

On 12/25/2017 at 12:41 AM, Jitsuka-Julie said:

”Sometimes I’m asexual too! Once, I didn’t want to have sex for 2 months”

 

Can I hit this person?

[Keakin]

On 12/28/2017 at 5:21 PM, Somebodysomeone said:

My sis is the worst.  She is the person Who believes asexuality is a temporary thing . And yess I told her Its not feeling sexual attraction anyway back to the story. 

 

Last week she said the terrible phrase are you still asexual?  LIKE ITS A DISEASE ABLE TO BE CURED.  Omg and it just continues with trying to make me get tempted to get sex by saying how great making a family is. ( She will Be in labour next month ) 

 

Just fuckin understand it ffs 

 

Aaaahhh typing this feels relaxing. Could use some love rt now xd 

 

Hugs* :'(   I'm sorry you're being pressured and pushed this way by your own family. It gets frustrating and sometimes you're just furious. Constantly having to listen to people trying to tell you who you are and what to do as if they knew you better than they know your own self. Specially when it's the people you love or closest to you. And it just doesn't stop. 

 

But just know that you are free and understood here. 

[James121]

On 05/08/2017 at 4:20 AM, Keakin said:

1. Oh, you're young. You'll change your mind. 

[Um, I'm in my twenties so...If I had wanted to do something, I would've already done it .]

 

2. Were you raped?

[The hell-no!]

 

3. You will never be happy without sex.

[Whatever, Brenda, sorry your relationship is only based on that.]

 

4. No one will ever wanna be with you.

[Because my happiness and world revolves around another person...]

5) why didn’t you tell me before we got together?

[Somebodysomeone]

4 hours ago, Keakin said:

Hugs* :'(   I'm sorry you're being pressured and pushed this way by your own family. It gets frustrating and sometimes you're just furious. Constantly having to listen to people trying to tell you who you are and what to do as if they knew you better than they know your own self. Specially when it's the people you love or closest to you. And it just doesn't stop. 

 

But just know that you are free and understood here. 

Thx for the hugs. Hope than one time ppl will understand us 

[Rhyme]

I had two lovely responses this week

 

Friend: Are you ace?

Me: Yes.

Friend: Oh, you're so pure!

 

Nurse: Nuns don't get cervical cancer, to put it bluntly. (talking about smear tests)

Me: Well, I'm asexual, so..

Nurse: You might not be that when you get older, things might change

[Somebodysomeone]

Ask the nurse if she's straight. Then say maybe you like girls next year 

 

And wait for her respons . 

[Chisa]

Today in school we read Othello and my classmate made a comment that he thinks a character is asexual and a psycopath and that that means that the character is mentally ill. I wasn't really sure if he meant the asexual part or the psycopath, so I asked him after class and he told me, "It's the most natural instinct to reproduce, so asexuals are ill. I accept them, but just like gay people, I think it's unnatural."

Anyone else feels something wrong with the statement?

[Yep, me]

6 hours ago, Chisa said:

Today in school we read Othello and my classmate made a comment that he thinks a character is asexual and a psycopath and that that means that the character is mentally ill. I wasn't really sure if he meant the asexual part or the psycopath, so I asked him after class and he told me, "It's the most natural instinct to reproduce, so asexuals are ill. I accept them, but just like gay people, I think it's unnatural."

Anyone else feels something wrong with the statement?

Absolutely me, If it occurs in nature, It’s natural.

[Zectarash]

8 hours ago, Chisa said:

Today in school we read Othello and my classmate made a comment that he thinks a character is asexual and a psycopath and that that means that the character is mentally ill. I wasn't really sure if he meant the asexual part or the psycopath, so I asked him after class and he told me, "It's the most natural instinct to reproduce, so asexuals are ill. I accept them, but just like gay people, I think it's unnatural."

Anyone else feels something wrong with the statement?

Something wrong with that statement? Absolutely not. Everything wrong with that statement? Absolutely.

[James121]

14 hours ago, Chisa said:

Today in school we read Othello and my classmate made a comment that he thinks a character is asexual and a psycopath and that that means that the character is mentally ill. I wasn't really sure if he meant the asexual part or the psycopath, so I asked him after class and he told me, "It's the most natural instinct to reproduce, so asexuals are ill. I accept them, but just like gay people, I think it's unnatural."

Anyone else feels something wrong with the statement?

We are back to this argument. Let’s look at the facts.

Men are born with a penis which beyond being used to pass urine is specifically designed to fill with blood, become harder and become capable of penetration and ejaculate seaman containing sperm.

Woman have a vagina which is specifically designed to self lubricate and host an erect penis. I’m 

We (humans) are purpose built to have sex. We are designed specifically to have sex with a human of the opposite gender.

 

Asexuals are not ill and gays are not ill. But nature intended human beings to have sex. Hence, you, me and everyone else were born with sexual organs. 

 

Ill is the the wrong word. Wired differently we’re perhaps be more appropriate.

[oldnconfused]

Guess my biggest trigger came from my ex who said "your not a man if you don't like sex"

[James121]

2 hours ago, oldnconfused said:

Guess my biggest trigger came from my ex who said "your not a man if you don't like sex"

That’s a classic attempt to guilt or dare you in to having sex. It comes from desperation and and a desire to be desired. Did the relationship start on an honest footing (i.e was she aware you were asexual from the word go).

[nimbus]

"I work in a doctor's office. You should come see the doctor for treatment, maybe then you'll want to have sex." 

[Tanzanite]

"Maybe one day I'll have great-grandkids."- grandma

Ask my cousin. Considering how everyone describes her, she sounds like my opposite in personality. There may be a possibility that she's my opposite in wanting to start a family too.

 

"Do you have a little boyfriend yet?"- also grandma

You've been asking that for years now...

 

"It's OK if you don't. I've been to this beautiful lesbian wedding and [insert details I don't remember here]."- grandma again.

That's cool that you accept lesbians, but that's not the issue here.

 

This doesn't sound so bad except...weren't you telling me to not have a boyfriend not too long ago due to seeing how people a couple of years or so younger than me dating, and for that old guy flirting with you at church? You always were pretty inconsistent with most of your opinions too, hence why I don't feel like I can tell you much of anything, let alone me being asexual or the fact that I'm much happier being a loner and recluse.

[Yep, me]

8 hours ago, James121 said:

We are back to this argument. Let’s look at the facts.

Men are born with a penis which beyond being used to pass urine is specifically designed to fill with blood, become harder and become capable of penetration and ejaculate seaman containing sperm.

Woman have a vagina which is specifically designed to self lubricate and host an erect penis. I’m 

We (humans) are purpose built to have sex. We are designed specifically to have sex with a human of the opposite gender.

 

Asexuals are not ill and gays are not ill. But nature intended human beings to have sex. Hence, you, me and everyone else were born with sexual organs. 

 

Ill is the the wrong word. Wired differently we’re perhaps be more appropriate.

Evolution is completely trial and error, it has no intentions, but whatever functions, survives. Asexuals are a small minority, and many still want kids, so it doesn’t impact our survivability much, also, some people will want lots of kids, which also increases population. From a population perspective, anyone who doesn’t want kids helps balance overpopulation, which many places struggle with.

[James121]

2 hours ago, Zenzencat104 said:

Evolution is completely trial and error, it has no intentions, but whatever functions, survives. Asexuals are a small minority, and many still want kids, so it doesn’t impact our survivability much, also, some people will want lots of kids, which also increases population. From a population perspective, anyone who doesn’t want kids helps balance overpopulation, which many places struggle with.

I believe that is an interesting argument but one I don’t agree with.

[Red_Star]

Running on from the "how can you be asexual if you haven't had sex" I hate it when people try to discount your sexuality because of their preconceived ideas of what asexuality means

[fan fanackapan]

Me: "I'm asexual"

 

Other people:

 

"You just haven't met the right person yet"  (I am now 49)

" I don't think there's any such thing as an asexual"  (can't relate to anything other their own experiences. If they can't imagine it, it cannot exist)

"Are you gay?" (Not having had sex with a man must mean I have a secret lust for women)

 

"You've never had sex? You need to go and see your doctor!" (I have a disorder that needs treating)

"I can teach you!" (Randy bloke to me when discovering I am a virgin, thinks he is in with a chance to teach me...ROFL)

"Sounds like you have been raped" (I must have had a bad experience to make me not want sex)

[LittleLillie]

"You're not really developed yet." I might understand this quote if I wasn't past my twenties.

 

"It's sad to not find anything attractive." What's so sad about it? I'm just don't find anything attractive like that and I don't see anything wrong with that.

 

"You haven't experienced what it's like to be with someone." I been with several other people in my life and I never once thought about romance with anyone but I always look forward to having new friendships and acquaints.

 

"You don't know what it's like to do *it*." Yeah but I seen what *it* is like and I certainly don't ever want that in my life, *it* looks disgusting and nasty beyond belief.

[fan fanackapan]

Oh yeah...that's another one:

 

"How do you know unless you've tried it?"

[the_rebecca]

When in close proximity to someone and they say “Don’t get too excited”

 

like bro, you wish. I’m excited for you to change this light bulb though.

[fandomAlgamation]

"Asexuality is just something people say to feel special and not be straight."

[unsureace]

what about the whole "Have you had your hormones checked?" that one is always great

[Philip027]

Honestly, nothing really gets to me other than people insinuating that I must be highly sexual or carry other sorts of sexual characteristics... because I'm male.  Most of the time this isn't even as a result of people directly interacting with me, just people making general statements.  But every time I come across this, it always has me thinking "ugh, is that really what people think of me when we meet?  Just because of how I was born?  I didn't choose this..."

[Tyger Songbird]

"How can you really know if you've never tried sex?"

 

"Shouldn't you just try it first? Maybe you'll like it!"

 

"Prepare to die a virgin!"

 

Yeah, so every straight person had to try sex with the same sex to know they were straight? Ok. Whatever, friend.

 

And what if I die a virgin? There's a whole lot worse things to be than that. It's not like non-virgins tend to create havoc in life. How could it be so bad if I stayed a virgin? You've probably been inundated with the thought that sex is normal, and we must not be. You seem more concerned about my lack of sex life than I am. You probably still think that people who aren't sexual are future serial killers or something. That's weird to assume, don't you think?

 

"All men think about is sex."

 

Yeah, how crude a statement. That's funny. Just lower and demean my capabilities because I'm a male. Hooray for gender stereotyping!

[Somebodysomeone]

Or this one but your a man you must love sex. 

[Yep, me]

14 hours ago, the_rebecca said:

When in close proximity to someone and they say “Don’t get too excited”

 

like bro, you wish. I’m excited for you to change this light bulb though.

If I say that it means that the person is getting overexcited about something (ie, a event, a surprise, etc.), and I want them to calm down, or just saying not to get too excited about something beforehand. A lot of these situations can be interpreted in many different ways, it probably had nothing to do with anything sexual.