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Even before I came out as grey-ace to my boyfriend, we'd never seen each other completely naked. He's only seen my top half and that's just because I was putting on my bra at the time and he saw as opposed to anything sexual. It's totally totally fine with me as I'm really not bothered about seeing him naked as I don't find the 'male form' all that attractive hahaha. He's also very self-conscious as he has scarring which he doesn't want me to see, so it's working both ways.

 

My main question: is this typical of Asexuals? Obviously nudity isn't generally sexual for us, but I wondered if it's common for us to not even be bothered about simple nudity? I'm not a prude about it and genuinely don't care hahaha. I quite enjoy being nude. It's just not something I'm like YEAHHH I WANNA SEE HIM NAKED. And also, I don't necessarily want him to see me naked, purely on the basis that I'd see it as me teasing him

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Luftschlosseule

No. It differs from person to person.

For me, it differs from day to day, if I just shrug and carry on or am like "uh, I just turn around while you put some clothes on, yes?". Some aces are repusled by nudity, some love being naked.

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argar

Personally I have no problem with it at all.

 

I enjoy the female form in all its forms.

 

Well, I do enjoy some forms more than others. Lol

 

Male nudity is okay.

 

But male bodies, in my opinion, seem to be build more for function.

 

Female bodies just seem more aesthetic to me.

 

In either case it is not an arousal thing.

 

I agree with @Luftschlosseule.

 

It's a personal preference thing.

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JD_MacGill

I don't really care if someone else is nude but I feel awkward when another person sees me because I'm scared they might think I'm teasing them.

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Jade Cross

I wouldnt like anybody seeing me naked or see anyone naked for that matter.

 

In general, Im rather uncomfortable with nudity. Even if Im alone, outside of bathing, I will always have clothes (both shirt and pants) on because to me it just feels wrong.

 

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Nudity doesn't bother me, I honestly don't think much of it.

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Someone Else

I can appreciate the female form, enough so that in my youth I assumed it meant I was just a typical straight guy (had no idea asexual was a thing in those days.)  But nudity can sort of carry a message as well, sometimes, and then it can mean even more, for better or worse.  Like maybe the person is trying to be sexy.  Maybe the person is just comfortable that way.  Maybe it means that someone trusts me to be able to handle their nudity without judgement or sex coming out of it, and that's a special kind of compliment.  

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[noize:injekktion]

I actually find male bodies aesthetically attractive, so it doesn't bother me much. I also don't have any problem with sleeping naked with my bf, because it's actually pure and innocent. 

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Ruru+Saphhy=Garnet

Nudity doesn't bother me,

I am not aroused by nudity at all, but I am indifferent to it.

I appreciate the female form.

Male bodies are okay,but I see female bodies as works of art.

 

 

 

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Kelpie

I think it's more of a cultural thing, although of course it still differs from person to person. I have zero problems with nudity. 

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Member116379

I thought I'd best clarify: I do obviously find my boyfriend aesthetically attractive. I'm just not overly bothered about seeing him naked. Basically hahaha.

 

And I have zero problems with being naked myself or seeing anyone naked. It doesn't gross me out or make me uncomfortable. It's just natural. It's more...I'm apathetic towards it?

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Snao Cone

Some sexual people don't feel comfortable about being seen by their partners fully nude, so it's not really an ace thing. They might prefer to have sex with lights off and covers over. I don't know how common that is, but I've heard from a few people that they feel self-conscious even around their partner.

 

I think this mostly changes as people are with their partner longer, or as people mature and realize that virtually all bodies are aesthetically imperfect.

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argar
1 hour ago, Snao Çoñé said:

virtually all bodies are aesthetically imperfect.

They are?

 

My life is over!

 

Lol

 

Seriously though, good point.

 

 

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swirl_of_blue

I have no problems with nudity in non-sexual context, which is not really surprising. I'm Finnish after all, so going to sauna with relatives and friends has been  something I've done all my life. I've seen pretty much all of my friends from my music hobbies and my football team naked, in addition to family members and also my extended family. I've even seen some of my university professors naked during a field course sauna evening. So so long as there is a "good" reason to being naked I don't mind it. But having to be naked in a sexual setting is very uncomfortable to me, because I'm not happy with the way I look. In a sexual setting I would also prefer my partner (if I had one...) to be attractive and nice to look at, since I do feel aesthetic attraction very strongly. I also don't like revealing clothing, at least if the only function of the skimpiness is to be sexy (I don't mind summer clothing, for example, and even prefer wearing clothes that don't cover too much skin). So it's very context-dependent for me.

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Salted Karamel

I am demisexual but I feel my stance on nudity is fairly asexual, so I'mma answer anyway.

 

I feel nothing sexual about nudity. Not toward seeing other people naked and not toward other people seeing me naked. This sometimes results in awkward situations of me not being as modest as society would expect me to be, because I see nothing inherently sexual about my own body being viewed. Or if I happen to see another person naked and it is expected that I sexualize this when I do not. It's just a body.

 

For what it's worth, I also went through art school and had a few semesters of mandatory live model drawing. That desensitizes you a bit to the shock of seeing naked bodies.

 

I don't necessarily find anything inherently aesthetically pleasing about nudity either, but I am generally curious as to what people look like naked just because we never get to see it. I would liken this more to a curiosity about what other people's homes look like on the inside (especially if it's a home you've seen from the outside lots of times), or how an internet friend has their desktop arranged.

 

I don't find the sight of genitals to be repulsive and I don't understand why other people do, or why such great pains are always taken to hide them. They're just body parts, albeit body parts that we don't see often. Fat and hair aren't my favorite things to look at, but I am no more bothered by the sight of a fat, hairy person naked than I am by the sight of a face I don't find particularly attractive. It's no real bother to me and I can't imagine ever expecting that someone never allow themselves to be seen naked just because I personally do not find them to be aesthetically pleasing. Everyone has the right to be naked (or, for that matter, to exist), regardless of what they look like. I certainly wouldn't get indignant because an ugly person doesn't keep their face covered.

 

Since I am demisexual, there have been people that I have been sexually attracted to before, but I don't even think I can recall any great desire to see them naked? Or any sexual feelings about seeing them naked? It's just more like "oh, okay, cool, that's what their body looks like," and is filed somewhere in my brain next to the novelty of what kind of ice cream they like and what sort of music they prefer and whether or not they eat bananas. I like knowing these things about people I am attracted to and treasure that info, and I enjoy and treasure the personal info of what they look like naked in the same way, but I don't think it's any more of a sexual thing.

 

For me, the awkwardness of nudity is more about other people making it weird. I really wish people didn't have to make it so weird. I like being comfy.

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Member116379

That's another thing for me. I don't generally find nudity or naked bodies to be 'sexy'. They're just natural things as opposed to anything sexual. They are what they are in my eyes and I don't see myself or anyone else's bodies as sexual things

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Luftschlosseule

I think that that, too, differs from person to person. I've had a conversation with a tattoo artist and he told me that at the studio they have a guy who simply acts as security because men walk in and start oogling the females that are getting tattooed. Or look at the discussions about breastfeeding, there you have people that view a mother giving her breast to her child as a very sexual thing.

Then you have people for which it depends on the context. Being nude in front of your doctor is another thing than being nude in front of a random stranger, a friend, or a spouse.

And then there are people who just see naked persons without sexual feelings at all.

For me, usually, I can see if the person is meaning their nudity in a sexual way or not, but that usually doesn't change anything.

... sounds as if people randomly throw their clothes away in front of me. Uhm, I mostly refer to people in media.

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Rhyme

As with everything, it's different for different people. I've grown up with a mum who is very chill and relaxed about nudity, so I've never gotten nervous or excited about either my own or someone else's naked body.

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Kathleenah

I don't like anybody seeing me naked because I am not happy with my body. Even alone I would never go without clothes on.

 

I don't feel anything towards others being naked. Not that I've ever really seen people naked  other than on TV.

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Amathy

I'm very uncomfortable with nudity, bordering on repulsed.  I'm even uncomfortable when people are in bathing suits.  I think this has to do with me being very sex repulsed and nudity has been sexualized in our society.  I wonder how my reactions to nudity might be different in a culture that didn't objectify and sexualize nude bodies.

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Deus Ex Infinity

I'm pretty much repulsed by nudity tbh but I'm ok with seeing my roomie ( ♂ ) running around half way naked on hot summer days. Yet, we know each other for more than 16 years now, so it might not count as much.

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Tholomyes

To me nudity is fairly neutral, regardless of gender. I don't mind seeing naked men or women, but I don't have any urges to see anyone naked. I find some nudity aesthetically attractive, but I find other people more aesthetically attractive clothed.

 

As for myself, I largely avoid nudity around other people. A common thing I've noticed about myself is I don't mind sexually coded things, except when there's a disconnect between my asexuality and the sexuality expected of me. As such, if I'm naked around other people, I'm hyper-aware of the undercurrent of sexuality or sexual context that I do not share, which tends to make me uncomfortable, even in generally non-sexual circumstances (such as in locker room showers).

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AwkwardAxolotl

I'm indifferent about seeing other people naked, and if I weren't trans, I would probably be indifferent about other people seeing me naked. The only reason I dislike people seeing me naked is they tend to get uncomfortable/sometimes hostile, seeing that my body doesn't fit nicely into the strict gender binary.

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hugbear

I don't think I would ever show my own nude body to anyone, but I actually like to be naked when alone.

As for seeing others naked, I don't care at all. Even if it was someone I knew closely, I don't think it would bother me at all. (Except for my parents. Seeing them in swimming costumes is uncomfortable enough)

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Amaretti

Being an art student changed my perspective on nudity. It used to make me super uncomfortable but now I find beauty in it. I don't always like the idea of my own body being nude, tho that's more a gender-related thing.

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InariYana

I usually like the sight of a naked body - skin, muscles, symmetry - it can be beautiful. I just hate porn-like close ups, ewww. I don't mind being nude, but I don't find it sexual at all. I could totally go to a nudist beach and sunbathe, no problem.

I still have some nudes of my ex boyfriend :D but they never ever aroused me, it's like looking at a Roman sculpture and thinking "those lines, curves, wow".

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gymgirl
On 11.6.2017 at 5:50 AM, Amathy said:

I'm very uncomfortable with nudity, bordering on repulsed.  I'm even uncomfortable when people are in bathing suits.  I think this has to do with me being very sex repulsed and nudity has been sexualized in our society.  I wonder how my reactions to nudity might be different in a culture that didn't objectify and sexualize nude bodies.

I just cannot imagine unsexual nudity, to me it is per se something sexual, no matter how you consider it. As I am very strongly sexuality averse nudity repulses me, I cannot stand it.

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ohdearIzzy

I go to nudist beaches a lot so I'm used to seeing people naked and being seen naked, it never bothered me at all aside for a few minutes of "this is different from what I'm used to" awkwardness the first time I sunbathed naked. I wouldn't say I'm indifferent to nudity though, I am very appreciative of human beauty and naked people just means all the more beauty to appreciate.

 

 

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MelissaJuice

Until I love someone deeply, nudity is probably my biggest fear. I would never let friends see me naked, change out in a locker room, and have trouble using a bathroom without a lock on the door. When other people undress in front of me I close my eyes. Friends always mess around by taking their clothes off in front of me unexpectedly and making me freak out. I get really anxious seeing someone else undressed. However, in love I feel very comfortable naked and seeing them naked. That takes a long time though and the comfort level builds slowly over time. 

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Talespin

Nudity doesn't really bother me with other people, it's just...a natural state. Dogs don't wear clothes (except when they do...but that's never really their choice, haha)! At the same time I understand how it can make some people uncomfortable and I respect that. I think upbringing plays a part in how we react to certain things. My mom has always been a "hippie" type and has never had any shame in being naked so I was taught early on that "nakey is natural". I was fine with it when I was little, too. I used to run around as "Nature Kid" with nothing but giant maple leaves on. :lol: But puberty changed that for me and my gender dysphoria got bad. I would be extremely uncomfortable being naked now and honestly hate even seeing myself. I never have any desire to see other people naked either I'm just kind of neutral to it. Totally different story when it comes to sex/porn, that I do NOT want to see. 

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