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Ladyxkougyoku

I personally like my height (175 cm in my system, 5’9” in imperial) and my tricolor (grey-green-brown) eyes. I really like my hair texture and color. I also personally love my RBF most of the time.

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Lonemathsytoothbrushthief

So happy for you @Kimmie. that's amazing! ❤️

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Bloc
17 hours ago, Kimmie. said:

I DID IT!!  

I finally went outside presenting as a woman!  I only walked around 2-300 meters to the recycling station but i went outside!  i was so scared in the stairs outside of my apartment in case a neighbor would open their door. I feel so happy right now 

 

Congratulations! This is scary. But with time you will get more confidence. For me it was first time going out with a skirt, not even presenting fully feminine. In the beginning I was scared as f**k, but after the first few hundred meters it felt great even with some fear still present.

 

When I am going outside, I am probably not passing as a woman. But I got some people confused with my gender.

 

Today I've tried stuff my bra differently and it looked so much more naturally that I could even put on a blouse showing cleavage, which made me happy. I just have to figure out howto prevent the silicone packs to slip down in the bra. This afternoon my boyfriend will visit me, so I am a bit nervous how he likes it, even when I am pretty sure he will like it.

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Kimmie.
2 hours ago, Bloc said:

just have to figure out howto prevent the silicone packs to slip down in the bra

Tell me when you know how to 😃 

 

And thanks everyone for the encouraging words it means alot.

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daveb
7 hours ago, Bloc said:

I just have to figure out howto prevent the silicone packs to slip down in the bra.

I'm not sure what you mean. Are you using breast forms or the so-called "chicken cutlet" enhancers? If it's breast forms they should stay in place if the bra is the right size and has enough coverage - another option for breast forms are pocket bras, which have built-in pockets to hold the forms. Or there are forms that are either self-adhesive or can be glued on. If it's the smaller "chicken cutlet" enhancers that's trickier. You could try some adhesive on them. There are glues and double-sided tape for adhering breast forms; maybe they could be used on the "chicken cutlets, too". Otherwise, you would need to create some friction so they don't slip. Making sure the skin and the forms are both clean and oil-free. Beyond that I haven't tried or needed anything myself, so that's where my knowledge and advice ends. Good luck!

 

I am also around 5'11" and sometimes encounter woman around my height. It's not so rare, but I still stand out. It's also not always easy to find clothes in the women's department with sleeves that are long enough (I want some tops with the kind of sleeves with the thumb holes for cooler weather), or that are long enough in the torso. I'm lucky that my feet are not too big. I can usually find enough shoes in my size range, although some stores/brands stop short of it.

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Bloc
1 hour ago, daveb said:

Are you using breast forms or the so-called "chicken cutlet" enhancers?

I don't know how they are called in English, but they not breast forms, so chicken cutlet enhancers is probably the right word. They stick to the skin, so the skin pulls them down, when I try to form cleavage with my own breasts. I could try adhesive tape to stick them to the bra.

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daveb
3 hours ago, Bloc said:

I don't know how they are called in English, but they not breast forms, so chicken cutlet enhancers is probably the right word. They stick to the skin, so the skin pulls them down, when I try to form cleavage with my own breasts. I could try adhesive tape to stick them to the bra.

How about if you stick them on after you lift up your own breasts and form cleavage?

I've seen ones that actually have a plastic clasp, so you stick them on and then pull together and clasp the forms together to create cleavage.

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nerdperson777
On 11/10/2018 at 10:24 AM, daveb said:

Congratulations! I remember how nervous I was the first few times (and sometimes till am, especially since I don't go out often).

 

Yeah, it always surprises me when someone says 5' 7" is very tall for female bodied people. Maybe on the tall-ish side, but then I suppose it depends on where you are and such. There are places/cultures/races where that would be tall and others where it would barely be past average if even that. In my family it's common enough that it isn't remarkable. :) 

I'm from a short race so I'm lucky to be average American height for AFAB.

 

As for the boob thing, I saw this thing where one gets this thing, I forget the name, but it's for giving butts a rounder shape for those flat ones. So one can alter that for the chest and with makeup shading, they can look like they have cleavage without showing their own body. It seems to be a cosplay tactic but can definitely work for trans girls. The picture was on my old laptop so I would have to search that to find it. 

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Kimmie.
11 hours ago, daveb said:

How about if you stick them on after you lift up your own breasts and form cleavage?

I've seen ones that actually have a plastic clasp, so you stick them on and then pull together and clasp the forms together to create cleavage.

@BlocI have personally tried 2 types of bras, Sportbras are more comfortable and it looks more real but i cant move without the form slides down and rotates. And pushups they work better but they are a bit more uncomforable ( which is how it should be when i hear others).

 

And to create a cleave you can use medical tape and push toghter the chest and then use make up to create the illusion of depth. That is what i have seen on youtube atleast. I use searched for " crossdressing cleaveage" or something like that.

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Pixley

AFAB Demiboy (and super femme to boot). 

 

I’m 5’5” (barely) and weigh in about 130, so I’m WAY below average all around compared to cis guys. 

 

But I’m not insecure about that, I actually kind of like being a shrimp. I derive genuine joy from being fun-size, makes me feel cute. Which as a girl always made me feel weird or objectified, or just awkward. But as a guy, it actually feels nice. Makes me all warm and fuzzy inside.

 

Also noticed recently that when I was presenting as a girl, I was hyper focused on what I was wearing and deriving satisfaction from the idea of looking good to other people.

 

But presenting as more “male”, I kind of stopped doing that. I literally just found  myself focusing on if I personally like it, (and it isn’t even a conscious thing either) which as someone who struggled with body image issues and insecurity their whole life, it’s a weird, but really cool realization. 

 

Is...is this what a, at least, somewhat healthy sense of self-esteem feels like?

 

Cause it’s kind of awesome. 😊

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nerdperson777
18 hours ago, Pixley said:

AFAB Demiboy (and super femme to boot). 

 

I’m 5’5” (barely) and weigh in about 130, so I’m WAY below average all around compared to cis guys. 

 

But I’m not insecure about that, I actually kind of like being a shrimp. I derive genuine joy from being fun-size, makes me feel cute. Which as a girl always made me feel weird or objectified, or just awkward. But as a guy, it actually feels nice. Makes me all warm and fuzzy inside.

 

Also noticed recently that when I was presenting as a girl, I was hyper focused on what I was wearing and deriving satisfaction from the idea of looking good to other people.

 

But presenting as more “male”, I kind of stopped doing that. I literally just found  myself focusing on if I personally like it, (and it isn’t even a conscious thing either) which as someone who struggled with body image issues and insecurity their whole life, it’s a weird, but really cool realization. 

 

Is...is this what a, at least, somewhat healthy sense of self-esteem feels like?

 

Cause it’s kind of awesome. 😊

T made me gain like 15 pounds so I'm shorter and I weigh more than that.  I hope to at least get to 130 and have less body fat, but all the candy I've been eating this month isn't doing that.  My old coach was only about 5' 4" so I didn't feel too bad.

 

I guess I can't be a cute shrimp type if I was bigger and taller.  I'm not even sure what it's like not seen like that.  I have no experience being really imposing.  I can't teach kids well because they walk right over me.  I know how to be strict, but I'm not able to find that fine line between strict and mean so I don't want to be cruel.  Then adding my vibes, there's nothing really intimidating about me.

 

Although I didn't concentrate on looks, I did have trouble distinguishing what I wanted and what other people wanted.  Was I doing this for myself or for the satisfaction of others?  That was such a hard question to answer.  I started thinking for my own and I think I'm starting to get it.  When I had a friend ghost me, I had to figure out whether I wanted to take T for her approval or did I really want it myself?  When she went away, that scenario disappeared.  Then I could see, was T for myself?  There were way too many things in my life that I had to question that.  I never liked school or music.  I just did it decently for my parents to stop bugging me.  None of it was perfect but I tried.  T definitely helped me, and I did that for myself.  There was no approval to get but my own.  I can decide things for my own now.  I feel slightly better about myself.

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Kimmie.

I am trying to stay positive but somedays it is really hard. 

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ColeHW
2 hours ago, Kimmie. said:

I am trying to stay positive but somedays it is really hard. 

(Hugs)

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Kimmie.

Today was the second time that I was outside presenting as my real self. And wow jeggings are not made for this kind of weather. And thanks for big coats i meet some people and they did not even look. 

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Bloc
3 hours ago, Kimmie. said:

Today was the second time that I was outside presenting as my real self. And wow jeggings are not made for this kind of weather. And thanks for big coats i meet some people and they did not even look. 

Most people don't even look. This is also my experience. However sometimes you get a strange look. However this was even when not presenting feminine, but just wearing a skirt.

 

Edit: Great you find the courage to be yourself.

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daveb
3 hours ago, Kimmie. said:

Today was the second time that I was outside presenting as my real self. And wow jeggings are not made for this kind of weather. And thanks for big coats i meet some people and they did not even look. 

Have you looked for fleece-lined leggings? Or maybe wear tights under them?

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Kimmie.
Just now, daveb said:

Have you looked for fleece-lined leggings? Or maybe wear tights under them?

That could maybe be something, thanks for the tip😃

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