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anotherbrickinthewall

"Sexual flare-ups"

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Question for sexuals in a relationship with an asexual; how do you handle "sexual flare-ups"?  Specifically if "self relief" no longer really works?  Like, how do you shield your asexual partner from your desire, or your struggle with your desire, when it becomes too strong to bear?

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Honestly, sometimes I am just honest with my partner. I tell them in a way that includes them in my experience but doesn't demand sex from them. She has started to be able to tell because I tend to hug a pillow in attempts to rectify the physical discomfort that comes with being so aroused without being able to do anything about it. Normalising my feelings for sexual desire that comes from an innately physical place helps a little and makes me feel a small sense of connection on a sexual level, like I am not completely alone.

 

It's small, but it might help!

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