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Koala Hufflepuff
54 minutes ago, Star... said:

I’m gay (homoromantic) as well as ace

I'm in the same situation here of being gay and ace, I have to hit my parents with a double-whammy of no grandchildren. But, I'm going to come out tomorrow, I have a whole detailed plan set into place, I just finished setting everything up! I literally took every single ace/gay related drawing I have and stuck them to my walls. I mixed in a few regular drawings to make the ACE a little less "in your face". I'm going to find a way to get my mom upstairs tomorrow and show her my drawings instead of having to explain it all to her. 

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Gethealien
1 hour ago, Celestial_Strawberry said:

I'm honestly scared to come out to my parents. I have no idea how they're going to react. I come from a super religious family so I don't think they'll quite understand it. I don't know when I'll do it, but I want to come out to them eventually. I'm very close with them, so I don't want to feel like I'm hiding this big part of my life from them, but it's going to have to be that way until I work up the courage and confidence to tell them. Fortunately, though, I was able to come out to my brother. He was really accepting, and I kind of expected him to be, but it was nice to finally tell someone about it, especially in my family. I heard that National Coming Out Day is tomorrow, and while I'm not ready to come out to my parents, I just want to be grateful for the people who I have been able to come out to. If anyone is planning on coming out soon, I wish you the best of luck! ❤️ 

Me to, I'm really scared but really want them to accept me, I'm more worried about them being transphobic, because I'm non binary. Also when I came out as asexual they just told me I would grow out of it (it was about three years ago). Like I might not even say about the pan-grey-romantic part of the picture. But I don't have a sibling to come out to so yeah...

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Koala Hufflepuff
8 hours ago, Gethealien said:

But I don't have a sibling to come out to so yeah...

I have a sister but she’s four years younger than me and hardly understands that some people gay let alone ace (and gay). It would be so awkward to come out to her since she would probably just say that she doesn’t know what that means and walk away cause it’s not her problem. 

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Gethealien
58 minutes ago, Koala Hufflepuff said:

I have a sister but she’s four years younger than me and hardly understands that some people gay let alone ace (and gay). It would be so awkward to come out to her since she would probably just say that she doesn’t know what that means and walk away cause it’s not her problem. 

Yeah that's kinda annoying

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AuraKitty

I have 4 siblings. My older brother was actually the first person I came out too. The other 3 are too young or don't care. When I told my older bro, he said "Wait really? Cool, me too!". We grew a lot closer after that. 

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Miss_Bookworm
On 10/9/2019 at 11:22 AM, Earth and Moon said:

Yay I found the Teen Corner! 😋

 

Hi guys, gals, and non-binary pals,

I have a question, but first, here’s the backstory: I’ve been wanting to buy a black Ace Ring for months now, but I don’t know where I’d find a black ring. I had asked my parents for a ring last year, but since I’m not out to them I got a shiny, silver ring made to look like two leaves. I didn’t tell my parents what ring I wanted because I predict that if I say I want a black ring, they’ll  give me a weird look and laugh at me and ask me why specifically a black ring 😬😰.

 

So, are there places any of you know that may have a black ring?

If not, do you know any excuses I could tell my parents when they ask me why? 🤔

Thanks! 😁

My friend got me one for Christmas from Walmart I believe. I'm not sure what the price was, but it's pretty good quality. Honestly, no one questions my ring, but anyone who would already knows that i'm Ace. I'm kinda surprised my dad and stepmom haven't said anything about it yet, though.😂

As for excuses, I believe I read somewhere that someone said it was from a book/TV/movie/comic book they liked. Maybe that would work?

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Earth and Moon
1 hour ago, Miss_Bookworm said:

I believe I read somewhere that someone said it was from a book/TV/movie/comic book they liked

Oooh

That’s smart, thanks!

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Carbon-12

Out of curiousity- do any of you have aro &/or ace friends or know someone who's part of the community irl? I go to a pretty big school with 1000 kids per grade, and I know of two aces, including me. That means there's supposedly eight more in my grade alone if we make up 1% of the population. 

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Member114264
2 minutes ago, Carbon-12 said:

Out of curiousity- do any of you have aro &/or ace friends or know someone who's part of the community irl? I go to a pretty big school with 1000 kids per grade, and I know of two aces, including me. That means there's supposedly eight more in my grade alone if we make up 1% of the population. 

Nope.

I'm the only ace I know of irl in this neck of the woods.

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iyote
47 minutes ago, Carbon-12 said:

Out of curiousity- do any of you have aro &/or ace friends or know someone who's part of the community irl? I go to a pretty big school with 1000 kids per grade, and I know of two aces, including me. That means there's supposedly eight more in my grade alone if we make up 1% of the population. 

I know of one romantic ace person at my school, and my aunt's asexual.  

I don't know either of them very well though, and neither of them know that I'm ace.  

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Earth and Moon
7 hours ago, Carbon-12 said:

Out of curiousity- do any of you have aro &/or ace friends or know someone who's part of the community irl? I go to a pretty big school with 1000 kids per grade, and I know of two aces, including me. That means there's supposedly eight more in my grade alone if we make up 1% of the population. 

At the end of the year, all my school’s clubs get together to form a thing called Unity Fair. My sister said her friend was making stickers with different orientations on it (she had come out to me as bisexual a bit before that). I was super happy to find that her friend made ace stickers as well. During Unity Fair, I saw some of the ace stickers were taken, but I only saw 1 actual person wearing the sticker (they wore a gay and ace sticker in concert band)

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Aebt-Ætheling
9 hours ago, Carbon-12 said:

do any of you have aro &/or ace friends or know someone who's part of the community irl?

No, there is an asexual meet time at my college but I have never gone to it yet. Theoretically in a university of 32,000 undergraduates there should be a fair number of asexuals, but finding them among the 32,000 would be difficult.

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10 hours ago, Carbon-12 said:

Out of curiousity- do any of you have aro &/or ace friends or know someone who's part of the community irl? I go to a pretty big school with 1000 kids per grade, and I know of two aces, including me. That means there's supposedly eight more in my grade alone if we make up 1% of the population. 

I know one other ace, maybe two. I'm not sure. This other person was out as bi but I saw them wearing a black ring. I didn't ask about it but I might soon if they keep wearing it

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Koala Hufflepuff
12 hours ago, Carbon-12 said:

Out of curiousity- do any of you have aro &/or ace friends or know someone who's part of the community irl? I go to a pretty big school with 1000 kids per grade, and I know of two aces, including me. That means there's supposedly eight more in my grade alone if we make up 1% of the population. 

I know of one other romantic ace in my school but there are probably more I don’t know about. 

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iyote

Yo I came out to 3 of my friends yesterday!  

They were talking about relationships & I said I was never going to get married, and one of them actually asked if I was ace.  :)

So I suppose my coming out strategy is "be very obviously aroace until someone asks you directly."  

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PoppityPop

Hi! :)

 

I came out officially to my best friends today, but all of them are in the lgbtq+ community (tho none of them are ace), so they get it with the coming out thing at least. It felt great! I've been thinking about it and knowing for quite a while now, but it felt good saying it out loud. It feels great embracing it and publicly becoming a part of this community, but I'm also a bit scared. i'm a bit scared about future realtionships, if it will be harder for me to get a boyfriend bc they can't get sex from me. But if sex is the only think they want from me they're not worth my time anyway...

I'm scared of the endless explaining and misunderstanding from other people.

 

I'm not sure if I want to come out to my parents and sister, bc reasons.

1) They wouldn't get it, espacially my parents, 

2) I'm not comfortable sharing my thoughts on sex and sexual attraction with them. I kinda feel like it's none of their business. 

3) They wouldn't take me seriously. They'd pull the "just a phase" card, and that would just lead to my humiliation. Especially since they know that I've already had a boyfriend, but they don't know how I truly felt. I expierenced with him (not sleeping with him obvi, but other things) and that actually helped me even more to realise my asexuality, since I didn't enjoy it at all, and it disgusts me to think about it now. 

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Earth and Moon

@iyote and @PoppityPop

wow congrats on coming out to your friends! 🍰🍰🍰🎂🎂 (y’all deserve cake rn 😉)

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Koala Hufflepuff

I’ve been out to my friends for a while, only 1 or 2 of us aren’t lgbtq+ so it’s just comfortable to talk about stuff like that around them. But I did come out to my mom on Friday, she was really supportive in the fact that she doesn’t care what my sexual orientation is but she did try to pull the “it’s just a phase and you’re too young” card. She was really nice and outed me to my dad (catch the sarcasm?). He had a half hour long conversation with me yesterday about pride and labels, while trying not to relate it to my “ace thing” too much. They are both really accepting of me but they are very unsure if asexuality will stick around. In a few years I’ll be able to say “I told you so” when I’m still ace. 

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PoppityPop
14 minutes ago, Earth and Moon said:

@iyote and @PoppityPop

wow congrats on coming out to your friends! 🍰🍰🍰🎂🎂 (y’all deserve cake rn 😉)

Aww, thank you ^-^

 

 

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Guilli Milli Mu

Last week I come out to my father and I didn't expect how great he react! We was alredy talking about LGBTQPIA+ community, so, when I said, was really natural. But I'm steal a bit afraid to talk at loud about asexuality and my romatic orientation on class. Probally, cause we read a poem that has Aro thogths (but not explicitly Aro) and they just burn. Now, I just avoid the subject and it isn't like I need to come out for them, but is really uncomfortable.

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iyote
3 minutes ago, Guilli Milli Mu said:

Probally, cause we read a poem that has Aro thogths (but not explicitly Aro) and they just burn.

Once at my school, we read the poem "Spinster" by Sylvia Plath.  It's about a woman who realizes that she really doesn't have any interest in romance and instead commits to living a solitary life.  It was very aro in my eyes, triumphantly so, but my friend said it was "sad."  

I found it crazy that romance is so fundamentally normalized that a character in a poem being happiest on her own (and rejecting romance in the process) is seen as a sad thing.  

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Star...
4 hours ago, PoppityPop said:

I'm not sure if I want to come out to my parents and sister, bc reasons.

1) They wouldn't get it, espacially my parents, 

2) I'm not comfortable sharing my thoughts on sex and sexual attraction with them. I kinda feel like it's none of their business. 

3) They wouldn't take me seriously. They'd pull the "just a phase" card, and that would just lead to my humiliation. 

Me too, I’m seriously considering just not telling them. But then I realized they would just assume that I’m not ace and I don’t know if I want that

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Earth and Moon

Wow, ok 😬 I just had a revelation:

So, I do AVEN on my phone because my school computer unfortunately blocks it :( and I just realized that when I tapped on the heart button to agree/like/react to a post, I was supposed to tap it two times! I only tapped it once, so it apparently never worked, even though I thought it was working, heh! 😅😅

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OmegaIsGoodAtCards

Hey, I'm Omega! i  don't use AVEN often so DM me if you want my instagram or somethin

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cp1213
On 10/11/2019 at 10:17 PM, Carbon-12 said:

Out of curiousity- do any of you have aro &/or ace friends or know someone who's part of the community irl? I go to a pretty big school with 1000 kids per grade, and I know of two aces, including me. That means there's supposedly eight more in my grade alone if we make up 1% of the population. 

I have one aro ace friend, and another friend who I suspect to be ace as well. 

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Licykk

I just started wearing an ace ring, and have found two other people who do so as well! Two of my friends are aro-ace, and I know a couple more who are more or less closeted. It's getting pretty crowded here! It does seem that since my area is pretty open about lgbt+ people, more people may be willing to embrace their identity? I know it took me a few years to figure out myself.

Just wondering as well, scrolling through social media I find that acephobia is alarmingly common. Has anyone come across someone who was openly antagonistic/dismissive of their identity?

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Aebt-Ætheling
5 hours ago, Licykk said:

Has anyone come across someone who was openly antagonistic/dismissive of their identity?

Antagonistic, no. Ignorant, yes. I do not really tell anyone my asexuality (I told my parents about my lack of interest in sex, but even they I didn't use the term) so I do not experience anything directly, but I have heard a few statements that could easily be interpreted as antagonistic, although they were not meaning to be antagonistic rather they were just ignorant.

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