DusksRequiem Posted September 26, 2003 Share Posted September 26, 2003 This post is out of concern. Anyone who's been around, or who has spoken to alot of people, know that after time many sexual preferences become trendy, or misused for the sake of trying to be "different" in order to attain some sort of identity amongst a certain social class. Asexual bellwethers promoting this preference in their area, must be careful of how they come around protraying it. Personally, not many people know I'm asexual, particularly because no one asks. The last place I'd want to try to promote it is in school: not because I am ashamed, but because it may then become a spread disease, and a commonplace topic. Educate he/she who asks, but only the rightfully inquisitive - eschew those looking for the next big thing. Go about yourself in a modest way. Moderate your dissemination of propaganda, because that can attract media attention. Then, you start getting lawsuit-hungry, fatuous individuals who start making this into a whining political act, and a trend for the people trying to prove to themselves how "open minded" they are to make up for the fact they lack an identity. Summary: You all seem like you have your heads on your shoulders. This post is probably terribly premeditated, but no harm in drawing attention to a potential cancer before the tumor even shows up, right? I'm a type of person who appreciates who they are, and I wouldn't like watching something I'm proud of go down the drain of commonplace and trendyness. Contributive, rational, and well-thought comments/questions are more than welcome. Flames will be disregarded. Link to post Share on other sites
dabishop Posted September 27, 2003 Share Posted September 27, 2003 I doubt we'd attract much media attention, because they'd define us in negative terms (what we lack, what we refuse to do), and that's not of great interest to them, thank goodness. Wasn't there some kind of trend back in the early-to-mid nineties - abstaining professionals/yuppies or some s**t, too focused on their careers and/or scared of STDs to bother? Could just be my addled memory. But if this is true, and if it got even half the media coverage I seem to remember, then it only goes to show how fast these trends appear and disappear. Truth is, most people cannot stand The Life for very long, and in that is our strength. And that's a fact. Link to post Share on other sites
DusksRequiem Posted September 27, 2003 Author Share Posted September 27, 2003 Great points :) Link to post Share on other sites
aury Posted September 27, 2003 Share Posted September 27, 2003 first eyebrows, now asexuality. when in hell will it ever end? :x Link to post Share on other sites
Gorax Posted September 27, 2003 Share Posted September 27, 2003 I've thought about this before. It's possible :? Link to post Share on other sites
VivreEstEsperer Posted September 27, 2003 Share Posted September 27, 2003 I'd rather have people know we exist and risk the plight of being "popular" and "the next big thing" with all that that entails, than have no one know we exist at all. I see your concerns and I've thought of them too, but really, my primary goal is for people to know that we exist. Kate Link to post Share on other sites
Gorax Posted September 27, 2003 Share Posted September 27, 2003 I'm just afraid of seeing Britney Spears or some other popular pop moron declare her/himself asexual just because it's the new and hip thing to do. Then all the little teenyboppers will follow, and just guess which site they will all latch onto like a pack of maggots. And what's even worse is that they won't even be asexual at all, they will just beleive they will, therefore giving the real ones a bad image. Link to post Share on other sites
Jayann Posted September 27, 2003 Share Posted September 27, 2003 I've heard some say that "gay is the new straight," which is odd because it makes it seem as though sexual orientation, something one cannot help, is fashionable. Is this where your fear of fashionable asexuality is stemming from? Will "a" be the new gay? Personally I find it laughable that people would even think to defy their own sexuality for the sake of being trendy. But that's another thing: I wonder, though, just how popular can asexuality--which, in the sexual world essentially translates to the choice of celibacy--be in this hypersexual world we now live in? Would people actually attempt to lead a nonsexual life just because the media tells them it's hip to do so? I'm not sure about that whole thing, really. Treating asexuality as a life style is really blurring the line with celibacy. I think it's okay to tell people about asexuality and make it known, but to be very specific that this is not a choice, nor, as someone smartly commented (<-- see link) on the Nerve article, is it novel. What do the rest of you think? Link to post Share on other sites
MaskedBandit Posted September 27, 2003 Share Posted September 27, 2003 It doesn't surprise me. Everything I begin to invest energy in becomes a huge trend. It is my psychic influence on the masses. ;) Yes, I can sympathize with not wanting something close, dear, and true to you becoming fashionable...especially if it is an individual expression. It is the WORST, but it has happened to me so many times, that I am used to it. MB, the first goth. Link to post Share on other sites
gambit_boi Posted September 27, 2003 Share Posted September 27, 2003 a common lament of my older (40+) lesbian friends is how mainstream lesbianism has become, how casually shrugged off and loosely accepted. they explain it to me as mourning a once private, counter-cultural identity, wherein it seems anyone who wishes to may "experiment" now a days, albeit without the burdens of frustration, internalized homophobia and heartache. i see what they mean, and i see it better in light of the asexuality discussion. yeah, having one's deep-rooted sexual identity (which probably took a while to identify and come to terms with) turn into a trendy cultural phenomenon woud be a sad loss, one to which i think alot of people who weren't "in" would reply "but aren't you happy that _____s are so LOVED these days? see even, Britney's in on it! wow, i wish i were you guys!" Link to post Share on other sites
aury Posted September 27, 2003 Share Posted September 27, 2003 I've heard some say that "gay is the new straight," which is odd because it makes it seem as though sexual orientation, something one cannot help, is fashionable. it certainly explains metrosexuals... :? for me, it's one thing to out myself in order to let people know that asexuals exist. but it's another thing for asexuality to become trendy in order to let some high-faluting scumbags pretend to be something they're not in order to feel like they're identifying w/ the times. screw the times, assholes. false asexuals should go back to the fucking porno stores they fucking crawled out of & learn to shut the fuck up. :evil: oh, & gorax? that whole britney thing will NEVER happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Moose-Alini Posted September 27, 2003 Share Posted September 27, 2003 I really don't see asexality being 'trendy'. Ya wierdos. Link to post Share on other sites
MaskedBandit Posted September 28, 2003 Share Posted September 28, 2003 It is inevitable, but hey, it could have some rewards...like, more people who are willing to try out nonsexual romance. Link to post Share on other sites
Neko Posted October 10, 2003 Share Posted October 10, 2003 I don't think it'll ever happen, but if it did, it would be kind of amusing. Just imagine all the rebellious little teenyboppers going, "Mom, Dad, I hate you. I'm never going to have sex and there's nothing you can do to stop me." :lol: Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted October 10, 2003 Share Posted October 10, 2003 I think sexuality can be used by teenagers to appear 'cool' the way that it was cool for people--boys and girls--in my high school to be bi. So people were going around saying that had made out with everyone they knew to prove how cool they were. Most of it was just talk. And I do think there is a certain type of person (called a 'loser') who feels they have to be quirky and outside the norm, which is how that sort of thing happens. They go looking for a way to be different, and let's face it, right now that takes some doing. IF it happens I would be most worried about all the people who SAID they were a then screwed around, making the rest of us lose credibility. Like those stupid movies where a 'lesbian' character sleeps with a guy and then the guys watching the thing goes, 'Yeah, that could happen to me if I just pester that cute lesbian I like a bit more!' Puh-leeze. However, all of the 'ex-gays' who went back to being gay after they got tired of hating themselves hasn't slowed down the ex-gay movement, so perhaps I'm wrong. Cate Link to post Share on other sites
Sunfell Posted October 10, 2003 Share Posted October 10, 2003 I'm sorry- but our culture is so sex soaked that I doubt that asexuality will ever have a look in. I mean, why brag about not being interested? Even if it does break into mainstream, I can find some comfort that my own particular little quirk is probably too quirky to garner anything more than an occasional NPR report. I'd rather remain hidden anyway. Sunfell Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted October 10, 2003 Share Posted October 10, 2003 I don't think it would ever actually 'catch on', but I could definitely see some little poseurs SAYING they weren't interested, as if they were above it all, or something ridiculous, but then going ahead and doing it anyway. Like the entire 'I'm so bi' trend from my school, where I'd bet the majority of the little buggers were virgins. Cate Link to post Share on other sites
VivreEstEsperer Posted October 11, 2003 Share Posted October 11, 2003 "Mom, Dad, I hate you. I'm never going to have sex and there's nothing you can do to stop me." LOL. :) Link to post Share on other sites
JimDandy Posted October 12, 2003 Share Posted October 12, 2003 I've run across more than one poser in my time. Fortunately, it doesn't seem to be developing into a trend as near as I can tell. Appropos of nothing, years ago I told a good friend, who happened to be gay, that I was asexual. A couple weeks later I got a call from a writer on local gay magazine wanting to interview me. I got the distinct impression that I was being regarded as some sort of biological curiousity. So I told him I wasn't interested and that was the last time I "came out" to anybody until just recently. Link to post Share on other sites
AVENguy Posted October 12, 2003 Share Posted October 12, 2003 I bet we could get really trendy exactly BECAUSE society is sex-soaked. After all, the money's in rebellion. If we can actually make "nonsexual intimacy" sound even remotely appealing (which, ideally, we can) then I can see teenagers eating up the angst of not knowing how to define their friendships. Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted October 12, 2003 Share Posted October 12, 2003 Yes, that's the point of being 'different' loads of angst. Teenagers thrive on it. They have to have SOMETHING to write horrible poetry about. Cate Link to post Share on other sites
Moose-Alini Posted October 12, 2003 Share Posted October 12, 2003 We should market asexuality. Make some money. Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted October 12, 2003 Share Posted October 12, 2003 YEAH! Brilliant plan, Moose. AVENguy could really take off with his shirts. We should come up with other phrases for shirts. Like 'Militant Asexual: What's it to Ya?'. Cate Link to post Share on other sites
Jayann Posted October 12, 2003 Share Posted October 12, 2003 We should market asexuality. Make some money. Bored with the same old Game of Love? Looking for added confusion in your love life? Well then look no further my friend! ASEX Brand relationships will have you angsting from those tenuous teenaged years well into middle-age! Hey, kids! You may not be a natural-born asexual, but in today's society sexuality is fashion so who cares anyway! Take up a look of angst-ridden lofty indifference by shunning both sexes! ASEX Brand relationships, by Metrosexuality. Straight is out, faking a complete disinterest in sex in TOTALLY IN. Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted October 12, 2003 Share Posted October 12, 2003 *Pointing at Julie* YES! And we could have a poster of disinterested looking teens on it. Cate Link to post Share on other sites
JimDandy Posted October 13, 2003 Share Posted October 13, 2003 Holy Gravy-Train! The selling opportunities are limitless! :shock: How about a new variation on an old product? To wit: "The ASEX Brand Pet Condom!" Show your teenaged ennui with this new, hip product from ASEX Globalcorp. Packaged in an unbreakable plastic case, it's the perfect 'coming-out' present for your new asexual friends. Not available in stores! Order yours today! (Not available in Kansas, orders void where prohibited.) Link to post Share on other sites
Cate Perfect Posted October 13, 2003 Share Posted October 13, 2003 LOL!! Yes!! Cate Link to post Share on other sites
petitedrag Posted October 13, 2003 Share Posted October 13, 2003 Angelina Jolie claimed that she's been celibating for a year. I think she's a potential trend-setter :roll: Link to post Share on other sites
Artemis Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 "Celibating" is a great word! It must be what happens at an asexual party Link to post Share on other sites
Jayann Posted October 17, 2003 Share Posted October 17, 2003 "Celibating" is a great word!It must be what happens at an asexual party LOL. What do you think of "celibrate"? Celibrate our asexuality! Link to post Share on other sites
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