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Repulsion means you feel negative feelings about seeing, imaging, or participating in sex. It doesn't mean that you are against other people having sex. I have some sexual repulsion, but not alot compared to how repulsed some people are. I mostly don't like seeing sex or thinking about dealing with sexual fluids. I don't have a problem with what other people do though.

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Also I was just thinking, obviously its not my place to speculate and certainly not decide what someone is, but would it be possible that she be gay and not be asexual, but just doesnt enjoy the act of sex? Maybe someone can tell me if that sounds semi reasonable based on what I have said about her, not definitely, just maybe a thing... She said something about being a homoromantic asexual?

Welcome to AVEN :cake: glad to be reading you are learning lots, that's awesome. The thing is, people can identify as different things throughout their entire lives. I know a gay trans man who once identified as lesbian, some people don't realize they're asexual until they are married with children, and many people describe their sexual or romantic orientation to be rather fluid, and can change over time. This girl could be an asexual lesbian / homo-romantic asexual, and only she can say for sure what label fits her best.

You are asking very good questions. Maybe we should compile them into a Q&A for newbies to this site. Wish the AVEN wiki would properly explain the things you're asking.

Thank you, I am just super curious because I want my friend to be as comfortable as possible around me and I want to understand what she is feeling in that regard so I can be more sensitive to that and just in general its great to have knowledge about a certain group of people, moreso a group of people born a certain way, not like a group of people who likes miley cyrus or something, because I think it gives me a better understanding of how everyone thinks in general

You can have preferences for queerplatonic/companionate relationships (which are non-romantic, non-sexual relationships that are like super best friends), sensual (cuddles, close non-sexual contact etc.) and aesthetic (feeling drawn to looks) attractions.

Hope this helps!

Thank you so much for the help! So if I am understanding that correctly, you are saying that being asexual can have some "degree of strictness" in a sense so someone can dislike sex but not dislike sensual actions totally, or dislike everything?

Some asexual people enjoy sex, some tolerate it without genuine enthusiasm, and some don't like it at all... Everyone is different and for me personally, my degrees of comfort have varied dramatically depending on the relationship I'm in, or not in.

I'm repulsed in the way of the thought of me being in a sexual situation is not only utterly alien, but utterly abborant, disgusting and terrifying. Other people can do what they want, just leave me out of it (and make sure I don't have to hear it or come into contact with any 'fluids', because then I will puke and stab you in the eyes with a pencil).

I guess when I hear the word Repulsively I kind of lean towards thinking something like It literally makes you physically sick to see or maybe even just think about it. I guess kind of like how when some people see or smell vomit they will almost always throw up, whereas some people can tolerate it. Is that a pretty strict definition of feeling repulsively towards sex or are you also repulsive if you just think its super gross but if you think about it, you just say eww and move on and similarly if you saw it you would think it was gross but not be so far as to be actually sick by it? Or would what I be describing be more like I forget exactly what its called but where you don't care about what other people do you personally just wouldn't do it. So basically does one of these views cover someone kind of in the middle?

Sorry if this is kind of an unimportant question I just feel like if I can get all the little details of what this is like I will be better off, Thanks :)

Sex can honestly be like the smell of vomit to me, there have been times when it's made me shudder uncontrollably, feel absolutely revolted, break out in a cold sweat, feel nauseous, etc.... just by seeing a pornographic gif scrolling through Tumblr, or watching a television series. It often depends on the specific sexual act (nudity is not a problem for me). The level of sexual repulsion fluctuates throughout my life. This is why I feel it's important that we tag things as NSFW / warnings of pornographic content, similar to tagging one's blog as pornograhpic or NSFW, or warning people if there is sexual violence in a movie (sexual violence typically makes it worse for me lol).

It's good to be aware that not everybody loves sex... some people are bored by it... some people are traumatized by it... some people are disgusted by it... we are all different.

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Hi! I don't know if all of your confusion has been cleared up already, but either way you might find this link useful. I found that it helped to have a glossary when reading through forum posts at first so that I could at least grasp the meaning of all the random phrases. http://www.asexualityarchive.com/glossary/

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